I admit I am pretty shy and insecure at times, but I, as a break dancer, am also very outgoing. I dance at pep rallies and school dances, but I still never seem to attract anybody. I need help on keeping conversations going and making them interesting.
Please girls tips, advice, help anything would be much appreciated. Thanks (:
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What I'm about to say might sound ignorant to some, but the evidence is so overwhelming I could care less. Asian men are at severe disadvantage when it comes to dating in Western culture (meaning the United States, Canada, etc). Women love to feel feminine. They love to feel small. They want a man who is not only masculine, but able to take charge and be an alpha. These criteria make up a subconscious screening process that ultimately leads to whether or not a female will find you attractive.
The typical Asian man is short, skinny, and somewhat timid. Right away, this limits their options to women that are very short, petite, and even more submissive (Asian girls in general). Unless you break the mold and defy those stereotypes, you are typically not going to have much luck with women outside your race. So here is what you do:
1. Address the confidence issue - You've got nothing to lose by pressing the action. Become immune to rejection. Be fearless. Scope out who you want, and approach her like she already said yes. You seem to have this down already, but you can still be more assertive and push the relationship forward.
2. Address the height issue - Since you can't get any taller, approach girls who are shorter. This will increase your appeal, and thus increase your chances of getting a date.
3. Address the "skinny" issue - Whether you are skinny or fat, you need to hit the gym. Bulk up and show some definition in your arms and core. If you're a strong guy, women will feel more petite and feminine around you.
If you're mastered steps 1-3, you now have a girl who is interested. Perfect. Now the best way to keep a conversation going is to be light-hearted and silly. Don't be so sentimental. Girls want to have fun and enjoy their night out, so make it fun by cracking jokes and adding a little sarcasm here and there. She will subconsciously view you as somebody who's smart and "above it all". That is key. Now you know what it takes to appeal to women outside your race. Good luck!
PS - Grow out your hair. Asians have the best hair so grow it out.