Girls if your boyfriend asked you to dress more conservatively, would you do it for him? (Page 2)
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No. He doesn't get to tell me how to dress. I wear what I want to wear and I don't care what he thinks. If he truly cares, then he will accept me and not let something as superficial as clothes get in the way of anything. I'm not listening to that "I'll do it because I love you" bullsh*t. That is just some ploy guys try to use to get what they want! If he really loves me, then he will put his own selfish ideas aside and let me be the indvidiual that I am.
Although, I don't dress provocatively so if a guy asked me to do that, I'd think it was ridiculous and that he had some serious insecurity issues that he better get over before he loses a great girl!
If I ever have the misfortune of being in a relationship with a woman like you. As soon as I realize you are this kind of inflexible, I would drop you with no questions asked.
jcmrq, lmao! what a drama queen! Just because I refuse to compromise something as silly as the way I look for a man doesn't mean that it is a misfortune to be with me. LOL that post is so ridiculously ramatic! Based on what I see here, you'd be doing me a huge favor by dropping me! ;D
I do not think it is silly. What if you were molested in public in absence of your boyfriend because of your clothing ? Would you not blame your boyfriend for not being there for fighting with the molesters ? He will feel like crap after the incident. Just asking ! If my girlfriend asked me to dress more conservatively I would do so because her feelings are of utmost importance to me.
No one is going to molest me in public. I would kick his ass. His eyes will be gauged out and he'll never have children again before he even touches me. Besides, you don't even know how I dress lol
I agree with you to an extent. the main thing for me is the reason, if its straight up that he wants to change me-NO WAY. But if its something like he thinks I look better this way or he doesn't like how guys are looking at me, I would LEAN towards that direction. Not change completely.
Crazybear, my thing is that I don't dress provacitvaely anyway! This is my body! I don't remember signing over my individuality for some guy to mold as he pleases just because I've allowed him to be my boyfriend! He should stop being so damn insecure because clearly I've chosen him. I'm not going to let guys disrespect me and I'm not going to cheat on him so wtf is the problem? There is none, but his fragile ego.
My boyfriend HAS asked me to do this...it's just that he's asked me to change a lot of other things, too, so I feel like he's being too controlling. So my answer is no. I don't think he should want to change me. I don't dress extremely provocatively, but I like to look good, and sometimes I just want to wear a pair of yoga pants. I don't think the way I dress is un-tasteful, so I don't want to change.
No. I don't dress provocatively. My chest is covered, my dresses stop at my knees or lower. My pants don't fight tightly. Guys are going to look no matter what we wear-single or not. Why are guys always telling girls how to dress, but the guys look like hell? I'll dress more "conservative" when guys shave, don't spray on so much axe, don't get so many damn tattoos and piercings, don't put so much gunk in their hair, put on a suit or sports jacket when you go out on a date- NOT HOODIES AND OVERPRICED SNAPBACKS, and above all else STOP SAGGING!
I honestly don't care. Sometimes I ask my husband to dress me and he picks out his favorite shirt I wear or a favorite jacket he likes seeing me in. I otherwise dress for a work place all the time. I work almost every day and yes I'll dress it up a bit if I know I am having date night right after work otherwise it's pants or capris
If I get anymore conservative I'll be wearing a burqa, so no.
if he asked me to, I don't know if I'd change my ENTIRE wardrobe, it depends what I was wearing at the time, where I was going and if I felt like it or not. it depends on what he's talking about. my version of his "provocative" could differ from his. I had one boyfriend who would get mad if I wore makeup, spent time on my hair or wore cute clothes when he wasn't with me. that wasn't cool and I didn't change then.
If you would like to have her do something for you, you should not use your love for her to threaten her in order to do it. The correct way to go about this would be to simply say, "I don't feel comfortable going out with you like that". If she's compliant, she'll change. I guess what I'm saying is, say it at your own risk.
What's the reason of getting into a relationship with a girl that you assume to love and then try to change her?
I dress conservatively by the way. It's not the point.
I accept the guy the way he is.
because there's a lot of girls who are great from every aspect; personality, looks, education you name it, but it's just the clothes thing that needs to be changed
I would make sure he's comfortable and happy, as long as he's not controlling. You can ask the girl politely and without being rude, judgmental or pushy. I'm sure if she loves you, she'd consider what you want :)
studies show women in relationship tend to start showing more skin once in a relationship
Not true.
You date a girl, you don't date her to change her. You date all of her, clothes included. She changes if she WANTS to, and if you care about her at all that's how you should want it to work.
I would, if he had a good reason and he wasn't trying to control me, just wanting me to cover up a bit so other guys don't drool over me and stuff. I totally understand that and would be fine with it.
haha yeah right
yeah right what?
How sweet of you ! :-D +1
thank you!
It depends. I don't really feel comfortable dressing a bit provocative in public. I already dress conservatively. My style is a bit like: slight baggy jeans, slightly larger sweaters, tee shirts, tank tops. It's not really sloppy, I wear it in a fashionable way. If he doesn't think that's enough then I might find him a bit controlling.
It depends how long we have been together and whether I feel like it or not. I dress modestly anyway so if he asked me to dress MORE conservatively then I'd be like Hell no. But if I did dress a little hoochie (which I will once I lose the lbs!) then I MIGHT consider what he has to say. At the same time, if he started dating me when I dressed a certain way, why now is he asking me to change?
My ex told me one time "why don't you wear heels and tie your hair up for me?" I told him I don't like heels or to tie my hair up. He made me angry, so if you want your girl to dress the way you want her to, she won't be with you much longer.
Or you can do him a favor and wear heels every once in a while. Then you get to ask him for a favor in return. Like maybe oral that lasts more than 3 minutes?
nice one lol that was 3 years ago ;)
If I have a good man who wants nothing but the best for me, to protect me and to love and cherish me, I have no problem covering up a bit. If I'm going out alone, I wouldn't leave the house without asking for permission (it's called respecting your love). I want my SO to be happy with me and if that means slightly amending what I wear, then so be it. As long as I have a happy home, I can make a few sacrifices. it's always good to be submissive to a levelheaded man.
that would depend on the extent to which he meant conservitive I'm not going to start wearing turtleneck shirts and long sleeves with baggie pants all the time to keep myself covered but if its with in reason then of course I would.
I don't see why I'd be telling her how to dress in general lol. It's just gonna come off eventually anyways :D :P
If he was right and I did dress too provocative, then I would. but if he's being too paranoid and controlling, I wouldn't. I wouldn't like him telling me how to dress.
agreed. first signs of a controlling boyfriend is if he wants you to completely cover up, but if I was obviously dressing a bit too.. slutty, then I would understand.
exactly :)
It depends. If what I'm wearing is actually very skanky and makes him honestly uncomfortable yes but if he's just being controlling then no. You need to compromise in relationships but there is a line where asking becomes demanding.
Yes. But I would want to know the exact reasons as to why they way I dress concerns him. If it's because he thinks I'm trying to attract other men, I would be disgusted that he would have such a low opinion of me. If it is simply because he finds me more attractive in more , or he is concerned for my public appearance, I would take note.
Maybe for a day or two but then I'd go back dressing to how I want to dress. He'd just have to deal with it... if he didn't like my clothes to begin with he shouldn't be with me :p
Yes, definitely. As long as he was being legit, and there actually was a problem with my clothing choices. I would want him to feel comfortable in the relationship as well.
If it was my girlfriend, she wouldn't- and would be pissed if I asked her to stay her style. But then again my girl is different, she treats everything like a business.