So, throughout my adolescent life I've heard quite a few people generalising that usually attractive men/women have a tendency to end up with a partner who is 'less' attractive than they are. (I put 'less' in inverted commas because really that view is subjective to each person).
Perhaps this is a result of relationships they observe in real-life, to which I have witnessed too among the couples in my social circle. Or, it could be from celebrities: eg: Heidi Klum with Flavio Briatore, Catherine Zeta Jones with Micheal Douglas, Hugh Jackman with his wife, and Tom Welling with his wife just to name a few. This list was compiled based on what I've read through people's discussion about this topic on various forums.
Do you or do you not agree with this generalisation? What's your own personal take on it? Do you know any couple that fit the description? Why do you think that this is so, because opposites attract?
Attractive people tend to end up with less than attractive people? Your take on this?
What Guys Said 4
People get partners based on their internal value of how they value themselves.
And each persons value is determined by themselves not what other people say or do to them.
And because of this every person is going to choose a partner based on how "cool" or "pretty" they think they are.
So if a woman feels she deserves a hot guy or a guy feels he deserves a hot girl then he/she is going to get one.
If he/she doesn't end up with one than that means he/she settled which ultimately means he/she didn't feel worthy.
And the other rare reason this happens is because either the man has dated a ton of hot women and felt they were too much trouble/maintenance. Or that he has found that being hotter than the girl means that he always feels that he has the upper hand in the relationship.
Same goes for women.
In any given match, unless you would "rate" both exactly the same (which I think would be rare, or statistically unlikely), one will always be better than the other in terms of attractiveness. This has nothing to do with the fate or attracting power of either, I think, but a logical result of most humans being different from other humans.
Most couples aren't perfectly matched in terms of attractiveness, but for every attractive person with a less attractive spouse ... well their spouse makes a less attractive person with a more attractive one.
Even if a couple is perfectly matched at one point, they probably won't always be. I hate to say it, but a couple who are equally good looking at 25 ... at 50, he'd probably be 'better looking' then her, in the sense that he could date someone more attractive then her at that point, more easily then she could find someone more attractive then him.
That's a minor detail, but the point is, people rarely match 'exactly'.1
Well the first thing is that not everyone are on the same level of attraction scale.
But what I really have noticed is that damn often attractive girls end up having ugly/nerdy/overly skinny/overly fat boyfriends. That is weird!
But there's another thing.
For some strange reason many genuinely attractive people are unaware of the fact they're attractive.
And often they have lower self-confidence they should have or they're insecure about things no-one else notice! So they rarely try!
But many ugly people are so damn assured of themselves, so they're go-getters, even if they get rejected a lot, sometimes they succeed.
As for girls, attractive ones are often bullied and slandered by other girls out of jealousy so they may end being friendless, and other guys are just too scared to talk to them, so that also impacts their perceived(not real) self-worth.
So they lower their standards for those reasons.
What Girls Said 5
This sort of thing was covered in my Psychology A-Level and it is a typical trend. It is by no means the case in all relationships but a distinct pattern, especially in long-term relationships.
I'll summarise the reasoning various studies found. When someone is in a relationship with a more attractive individual, they feel lucky and priviledged so will do more to keep the relationship going. They tend to be a lot more emotionally involved and do all they can to please their partner. From the other side, an attractive person may like being with someone less attractive than themselves because there's less competition. The less attractive partner is less likely to attract anyone else, avoiding them being tempted away by someone else, especially as they already have such an attractive partner. The two sides then complement and encourage each other.
Like I said, this is not always the case but a general pattern found. Make of this what you want as there were people in my class very cynical of the findings but I have personally seen this to be the case just looking at some couples.
Hope that helps. :)0
Well logically if you re a perfect 10 in looks, if you want to find s partner of equal beauty you have very limited options. And Like another dude said, unless we all marry our exact equal in beauty there's always going to be a more attractive one.
+ you re only taking physical appearance into account in you definition of what makes someone attractive, humor, charm, manners, fame, intelligence, money, integrity won't make you "hot" but they will make you attractive...0
If attractive people end up with unattractive people...then wouldn't it be the same as unattractive people end up with attractive people?
If A=B, then B=A. Right?0
Idk where you got that info but it's a false generalization, how do you explain, Brad & Angelina, Miranda Kerr & Orlando Bloom, Katie H. & Tom C., Peter Facinelli & Jennie Garth .?0
This is interesting, it could be that the attractive people don't care as much and in their eyes that person is attractive. Also, I wonder sometimes, whether the more attractive person chooses not to date someone prettier than them or their equal, because that will take the attention away from them?0
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