I was just reading a question on this particular matter a few moments ago. I don't understand why people always reassure someone that their looks don't matter, it's just their personality. Looks do matter to an extent. Of course if someone is very good-looking but has a crappy personality, they won't be in a relationship for very long... even if someone pursued them because they were attracted to them.
It's a combination of both. You have to have a good personality and good looks. You can't have one without the other. So if a person doesn't find you attractive, it doesn't matter how good of a personality you have. They might be friends with you, they might like you, but they will probably never want to be in a relationship with you.
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You probably were reading my question, and as I see you're still very new on this site, it doesn't surprise me that you're surprised by what's going around here!
They lie because they're fishing for virtual "perks" - upvotes, Best Answers, positive comments and stuff like that, they don't wanna drama aswell as people can be EXTREMELY sensitive and overreactive when it comes to ANY criticism including constructive criticism about their looks and trying to tell them looks are actually very important! Why?
Because this site is on the internet, obviously! Most, of course not all but most of people here(and on other f.a. social media sites) are unattractive and look bad! It's a fact!
That factor accompanied by the thing I already mentioned creates this kind of situation - they feed them lies because they ENJOY being lied to, they enjoy hearing it's "important to accept who you are, not being fake" they enjoy hearing that personality is the only and the very most important thing that matters, they enjoy hearing that confidence is the key to flirting!
They can't HANDLE the hard truth, which is obvious, but to some - painful!
Though it would be much better if those people would start working on things which bother them, working to improve things which affect their confidence instead of sinking into self-deception, instead of putting on artificial "confidence", instead of feeding on those lies here everyday but in the real life never succeeding!
Some people are just nuts!
Don't mind them too much!3
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