I think this statement is a bit superficial, but very true. It's no shock that guys will tolerate bitchy, terrible behavior from a girl as long as she's attractive and she puts out. Yet if a girl isn't attractive and she acts horribly, is it a double negative? Does it make her undesirable all together? Because there's nothing to balance out her unfortunate appearance. I'm sorry, but if a girl is ugly and/or fat, I kinda think she needs to be as nice and pleasant as she can if she wants to attract guys. It's already bad enough to be hard to love, but people become easier to love when they do have parts of themself that are attractive and desirable. I know a girl who used to have a very nice body, then she got pregnant. She had her baby and now she is so out of shape. Her belly is huge, her nose got bigger when she got pregnant and never went back to the same size, her face is so fat that you can't see the often attractive cheekbones that used to be there, and on top of all of that she has really awful acne that is so bad that even when it's gone, it's like the texture of her skin isn't nice and smooth, it's like a jagged scarred area kinda. She is not physically attractive. She looks really bad when she's rude, has an attitude, and blantantly decides to be a bitch just because she can because it's kinda like "Well damn, you're already ugly on the outside, you're that undesirable on the inside too?"
What are your opinions on this topic? What do you think about it?
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well the same can be said for guys, and I would put it on a scale really.
Lets say every + number is a positive thing (for example either good looking or great personality). And lets say every - number is a negatve thing (poor personality, plain looks).
Lets take 3 people. Jake, Jessica and Jennifer
Jennifer is hot as hell, but a complete and utter bitch. We rate her body +3 and he attitude -5
add them together and she is a -2. She is basically a mildly ugly person
Jessica is not so good looking, but cheerful, smart and great to be around. Her body is a -2 but her attitude is a +6. In total she is a +4. Basically she is a decent catch.
Jake on the other hand is really quite ugly. But he is the sweetest guy at school, thoughtful, intelligent and basically rediculously kind. His body is possibly a -6, but his personality is a +12, which makes him a +6. Decent catch for any girl.
So that is my rating system, and it is up to the individual to determine what they are looking for. If you are a guy and you really desperately want a pin up girl as your partner, then of course you may place less emphasis on their personality and just look at their body. But a girl who is victoria secret material (+12 with the body) but also satans wife (-15) is still ugly, but obviously the hotter they are the less they need to worry about personality because many guys are willing to put up with more crap.
The same can be said the other way around. The better someones personality the more the other person is going to overlook physical flaws, depending on the individual (if you really want a hunk lookalike nothing is going to convince you otherwise).
The only downside of this (and I am admittedly uglier than most) is that personality is often not the first visible thing people see, so it is up to us ugly people to initiate the contact.
Keep in mind however, in my experience, physical attraction hooks people in but personality convinces them to stay.
PS wtf was I just writing...