I'm asking this because I saw a question the other day about a girl who has a long-term boyfriend, she claims that he does not look at other girls or have any interest in them, and that he thinks she is the most beautiful woman in the world.At first I thought it was BS, but then I did some searching and I realized that there are quite a few men who seem to feel this way.
Why do people find it so odd/hard to believe that guys can be like this?Women can be like this too, admittedly it is a lot more common among women, but if women can feel so in love with someone that they don't notice others anymore, then why wouldn't men?
I honestly thought that 99.9% of guys look at other girls, because they can't help it, and I also thought that all men look at p*rn, now I feel really stupid for generalizing pretty much all the males in this world into one category.But people who do have this view seem so sure of themselves, saying things like ''All men look at other women'' &, ''Men are hardwired that way, they can't help it.'' That's why I thought pretty much all men are like that.But their not,are they?
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I don't think it has anything to do with how in love you are.
A significant group of women (probably less then half, but a lot) are classified as having an essentially 'reactive' sex drive. If they were alone on a desert island, they would not think about sex much at all. When they are with a partner they are attracted to, how initiates sex, they get turned on and respond. This doesn't mean they love their partners more then other women (or men) who have more of a raw, innate desire to screw, it just means their sex drives work differently.
People who are 'sure of themselves' ... well I have met (online, not in real life) a few men who claim to function this way. But as I said on a thread (maybe the one you're talking about) I managed to make to age 35 or so before encountering _any_ man who said this. So while clearly some men DO think this way, they are a small, small minority. That's why people are surprised, or make claims like 'men don't think this way'. In general, men don't think that way, but there are a few men who do. I don't believe they are 'better' or worse, or more in love, or have different ethics. Its just that their sex drive works a little differently from the way most men are.
We all need to remember that on the internet, you can find 'quite a few' of anything.