I met this man before Thanksgiving. He is a man that likes doing guy things. He is a mechanice. He can build things. He loves guns, hunting, etc. He is also very sensitive. He gives wonderful massages, loves talking, shopping, etc. He is very active in his church and works with transgender people. He is very compassionate and helps anyone he can. We talk on the phone all the time. He will come out of his way to go to lunch with me. He even worked on my vehicle, wouldn't take payment for doing it, and then afterwards played catch with my sons. I could see myself with this man long term. The only problem -- he has a condition that is causing him to grow breasts and lowers his testosterone levels. Right now, he likes wearing dresses and heels when he is not around his family. He has been completely honest and open with me about this. In a few years, when the condition "worsens", he wants to become a woman full time. He's asked me if that would upset me. I honestly don't know what to respond to that.. I have never had to contemplate that in the past. I need some advice. He is such a wonderful person, and I know it's what's on the inside that counts. Should I overlook the fact that he will one day become a woman?I need some advice, please.
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You should not overlook the fact that he will become a woman. As a rule, don't overlook the long-term implications of your relationships.
Your question seems to be: Do I want to sign up with this guy/girl long term? My answer seems to be: I dunno. I don't what you're built for, what you can handle.
He seems like a really good guy, but one day he's going to be a really good girl. Will you be okay with that, long-term? Are you ready to ride this upheaval with him, and hang around for the aftermath?
You need to have an open, forthright conversation with yourself. If it's too much for you, be okay with that. If you want to gamble on a happy future with this person, be okay with that.
Then, either way, take a deep breath, and make the leap. Good luck.1