What helps to lessen that "ugly" feeling .
I feel like I'm ugly.
Thank you .
Does it help if I tell you that I used to be really really overweight ( 60 pounds) ?
My friends say that I have changed on the outside but I still feel like that ugly , left out fat girl.
Hopefully I won't feel like that for long .
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The first thing is: STOP comparing yourself to OTHER GIRLS. Just STOP. You are YOU.
Your only "competition" is with yourself. Ideally, you want to improve something about yourself every day, and it doesn't have to be anything to do with physical appearance or beauty, it can be knowledge, or improving your attitude, or helping someone else, or whatever. If you can look in the mirror at night and say "today, I improved myself by..." and write that down, in no time, you'll have a huge list of positive changes about yourself.
Second, I have no idea what you look like, and neither does anyone else here. But obviously you're insecure about something. That doesn't matter. You need to realize that most things about your physical body can't be changed; if you're tall, you won't become short, and if you're short, you won't become tall. If you naturally have big boobs and hips, you'll never be a string-bean.
BUT... yes, there may be a few things you CAN do to improve your physical body. You probably already know what they are, so if you think it would make you feel better about yourself, then DO them. And if you know what you want to do but don't know how to get there from here, find someone who does and let them help you. This is mostly exercise/toning stuff, but could also be learning to style your hair differently, or put on your makeup differently (or to use LESS for BETTER effect). Maybe you need help with your wardrobe, finding things that show you off in the best way. Whatever.
With that stuff, your only competition is YOU. Don't be afraid to take pictures of yourself before you start, and then keep taking pictures as you find ways to improve. You might be shocked.
Finally, know that GUYS ARE NOT AS PICKY AS YOU THINK! Your girlfriends are the ones that have make you think we are, but we aren't. We are experts at finding beauty in females, and most of us are not at all bothered by little things that you girls seem to think are HUGE flaws. A stretch mark, a bit of cellulite, a couple extra pounds, that stuff isn't important to us. Your personality and positive attitude is what's important to us.
Sometimes, I really wish women could see themselves as we see you...