After gaining weight and looking sh*tty these days (stress, depression, lack of effort into my outfit), I have noticed a remarkable difference in how others treat me, and more specifically how approachable I am to others.
it seems like more people on the streets are comfortable asking me for directions or panhandling me for money (happens quite often these days), and this may be caused by my non threatening appearance, as in I look pathetic and vulnerable, rather than sturdy and looking like I take sh*t from nobody.
i know this change in my approachability shouldn't be bothering me, but it does bother me how I am now perceived as one of the average looking people and nobody seems to be intimidated by me.
I remember two or three years ago, when I wasn't so unattractive, there were guys in my class who seemed to visibly be uncomfortable around my presence... now it's as if guys have no trouble speaking to me when they need to whatsoever.
does anybody else experience the same thing? as in do you feel like you are more easily approached by strangers when your appearance has gone a few notches down?
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I had a similar appearance issue but in my case I was butt fugly..see nobody wants to ever talk to the butt fugly girl because the butt fugly girl ...is clearly butt fugly...people were scared of my appearance at that time. When I loosed sh*tloads of weight...got my face together...people started being nice and saying b.s like "aww, you look so much better now..." I felt like mike jones song... "Back then they didn't want me, now I'm hawt they all on me." Then before when all the dudes would be like "eewwwwwwww that fat gorrilla lookin beast bitch!" now they are like "damnnnn you lookin sexyy as fukk" But this is what I went through...i realized people are fake as sh*t. If you really gave 2 sh*ts you would like me when I look like a cow and when I look human...Not just because I looked good at the moment. I am honestly less approachable in both states..when I was fugly..no one liked to talk to me..and now people consider me better looking..I still don't get approached..But people are most happy when I talk with them now..than when I was fugly.1