I used to be OK with my body before I gave child birth. Although I am back to original size, I am left with a stomach that is saggy, has a lot of stretch marks, and is very loose. This has left with self conscious or wanting to cover up, every time I have intercourse with my boyfriend. (Please, don't try to make me feel better. A while back I did a post on gag. I asked what if a woman was very attractive, but the only flaw she had was a loose stomach) I posted a photo. A lot of you men said it was a deal breaker, those that didn't said they would at least need a warning before proceeding. Don't tell me to give my body time, I had my child at 23. I am now 26. I want to get tummy tuck surgery after I reach 30 (I choose that age specifically because before then, I plan on having another child). My boyfriend is okay with that. I also want to get breast augmentation because my breasts are a bit more saggy (even though they still look good). My boyfriend of 7 years told me he will leave me if I do so. I don't understand this, because he isn't even a boob guy. He doesn't even caress my chest while having intercourse so I don't understand why he would leave me. Can someone shed some light on my situation?
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He has his opinions, and he's being perfectly honest with them.
I can't explain them. I don't think anyone could.
But it's far better for him to be honest about these things, than to wait for you to get the surgery and them dump you with no warning.
Maybe he's just really really not attracted to large breasts. And despite him not playing with them much right now, he feels like he'd be utterly unable to be sexually attracted to a large chested version of you.
To answer the main question though, yes, a guy can love you and still leave you.
Girls are the same - they can love a guy, and if he puts on 100lbs, they can leave him, but still love him. They just aren't attracted to him anymore. And they are smart enough to know that attraction is vital in a relationship.0