I see all the time on this site questions where people ask about looks over personality. People complaining that they are too ugly to meet someone...
What I don't get is, if they are not happy with their appearance why not change it? It's fine if you don't want to change your appearance, but if you're not happy with the way you look you can change it if you want to. I don't see the point in complaining about something if you aren't willing to do something about it. It's one thing if you are trying and not getting results, then you have the right to complain.
For example, my cousin complains all the time that she doesn't have a job or money. Well she doesn't try to find a job. Whenever someone tells her to get a job she says: "What's the point, I probably won't get hired anyway." and then gets depressed and complains more about being jobless. We've all told her, if you're unhappy being unemployed do something about it instead of feeling sorry for yourself.
It's the same with appearance. If you are not happy with the way you look, try to change it.
I'm not talking about people who are overweight due to circumstances they can't control either. Like thyroid problems, or meds that make you gain weight. Obviously you have something to be frustrated over, because you can't help it.
It's post like: "I am too ugly find a guy, why can't they just see I am a nice person?"
If you think you are ugly, work on changing your appearance. If you don't want to, stay the way you look but don't complain if you're not willing to do the effort.
Anyone can look good with a different hairstyle, some makeup, and clothing. And girls can have sex anytime they want.
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Because the people who complain often want reassurance that it ISN'T their appearance, but that the opposite gender is just composed of dumbasses. They don't want people to actually state and make it known that appearance DOES matter and it plays a role.
Plus, some people are lazy in general. Or they see no point in putting in effort if it won't make them beautiful.
Let's face it: makeup doesn't fix ugly nor does it hide ugly. Photoshop and airbrushing can, but makeup can only go so far in reality. Some people are just butt ass ugly and no amount of working out, applying makeup, taking care of their hair/skin nails, eating healthy or dressing for their body type will change that.
So they think, if they can't go from one extreme to another, it's all pointless.
Also, A LOT of guys and girls on this site have nice girl syndrome and nice guy syndrome. They think that because they're "nice"--which means they're pushovers and have a sense of entitlement--guys and girls should just flock to them.
They're nerdy, lack confidence, lack personality, lack physical appeal but because they're NICE(pushovers, resentful, bitter, virgin & inexperienced, which to them translates into nice), girls and guys are supposed to ignore their major personality flaws and just flock to them.
It's not just common among guys on here, it's common with the girls too. A lot of people have special snowflake syndrome, where they huddle on this site, gain support from other fellow "nice" girls and guys, they're unique. See, the culture on this site often creates a sense of "you're special." Because you're nice, you're a unique snowflake; because you're a virgin and inexperienced, you are a unique snowflake; because you can't manage to even talk to the opposite gender, you're a special snowflake. DAMN RIGHT y'all are, but not in a good way.
So basically, a lot of people reaffirm the "ugly" people that they shouldn't have to put in effort and improve themselves because their unhappiness is the fault of the opposite gender.
They DON'T want to change it. They want to hear that there's nothing wrong with them or that they're beautiful or that it's OK to be overweight. They don't want to believe these are flaws.10
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