every time my boyfriend and I go ANYWHERE in public, he scans all the people to see if there's any pretty girls and a lot of times stares at them. I have mentioned to him that it's getting annoying and then he denies it.
Now however, he said too bad, he is going to look at pretty girls/women and doesn't care how I feel basically.
Like sometimes I'll be talking to him and he doesn't even hear what I say because he's looking at some other girl. Sometimes girls that are really young like 13.
Am I off base? I think it's OK to glance at pretty women, I even do that, but to out and out keep staring or keep looking back at them feels disrespectful to me and it hurts my feelings.
I am considered fairly good looking. We've been dating 2 years and he used to say he doesn't need to look at other women because I'm the most beautiful girl in the world.
Has he grown tired of me? Is he fantasizing about them? Does he go talk to them when I'm not with him? Does he want me to break up with him? He has only had 3 other relationships that lasted less than 6 months.
I'm about ready to break up with him over this. I almost think that's what he wants.
SOS - HELP!
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I can understand why you're angry.
If you really stop and sit down and think about this, he SHOULD be allowed to look at other girls. It's his eyes, it has nothing to do with you and him, and he isn't touching these girls.
However, in an ideal relationship, he would at LEAST have the mindset to understand you are upset about it and he should pay attention to himself a bit more when he is around you.
As for your questions:
1 - I don't know if he's grown tired of you, I would need to know more signs. Looking at other women does not mean you have grown tired of your OWN woman.
2 - He is most certainly fantasizing about them, he's a guy. In his own private mind, he can get away with anything he WANTS. You bet your ass he will be, as do a lot of guys in relationships in general, hell, women too.
3 - I don't know if he talks to them, obviously.
4 - I don't know if he wants you to break up with him either.
I DO know this though, there's a problem when something legitimately bothers you and you have at least asked him to not do it when he is around you. Quick glances I can understand, but straight up STARING and ignoring what you have to say, that would grate on me in either way.
Hell, I would really talk to him about it one final time, if he says too bad. It's off.1