How can I derive my physical acceptance of myself from how my boyfriend sees me?
I know you're not supposed to let others define you and be confidant and think you're the shit all by yourself, but I can't.
I have a horrible body image. I hate the way I look and I'm always trying to look better - get toned - new hair cut - bigger chest - etc.
My boyfriend, however, bless his soul, has been around for a very very long time in my life. We've been friends since we were 8 and have been dating since we were 18 (2 years).
He thinks I'm drop dead gorgeous and perfect and incredibly attractive yada yada yada.
And I can't see myself like that. If I thought I was just okay looking and he said I was gorgeous I'd take the compliment and move on. But I think I'm ugly as sin. Like, on the scale I'm probably a 3.
I have two views on this. I feel awful that I can't see myself the way he does and at the same time I feel awful that he's gone and paired up with such an ugly downer as myself. He deserves someone confidant and beautiful and perfect because that's what he is.
I'd really like to change how I see myself but I can't and I'm afraid it's going to lead me down a very not nice path. Like doctors have said that if I keep going how I'm going anorexia is where I'm headed.
I want to stop, reset, and think I'm as attractive as he says I am, but I just can't.
So how do I change my view of myself?
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Is it so hard to believe him ? To trust his word ?
You might think you're a 3, but he knows you.
Your appearance might not be the one of a 10, but to him, you're a whole person, and a beautiful one, mind you.
He finds you gorgeous because when he adds all he knows about you, he just loves you like you are.
He's not demanding, he loves you just the way you are.
Beauty is just physical appearance only to people who don't have a clue.
So quit being stupid. Trust his word. He finds you beautiful, gorgeous, and that is all that should matter to you.