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story answer: My ex husband (12 year relationship) started off as one of my best friends. I respected him and knew he would be a good husband and father. He was so funny and we always had such a good time. I loved his family and the traditional upbringing he had (opposite from mine). He's not unattractive, but I personally was not physically attracted to him. I thought that would grow, and it didn't. This caused a lot of guilt for me and stress for him. He became very controlling and obsessive because of the insecurity from my not being capable of showing sincere desire for him. The result was that I lost everything in him that I did love. This wasn't the sole reason for the end of the marriage, but I can see that it was a contributing factor. What I learned was that for me personally physical attraction is important, and should be balanced with other traits that I look for. On the flip side, I would not want to be with a man that only liked my personality. I need my partner to be physically attracted to me and desire me.