I work in a professional office. One day last summer I wore a dress - it was very professional, but still cute, stylish, and flattering. A guy in the office made me feel really uncomfortable by calling it a "hot dress", making multiple comments, and even trying to drag 3rd parties into it by saying stuff like "doesn't she look hot"?
Obviously he was out of line, but he doesn't work there anymore. I still haven't worn the dress (or anything like it) again because I feel like I'm doing something wrong if I dress in anything I know people might find "sexy", even if it is appropriate.
I also have large breasts which and can have awesome cleavage, but even outside of the office I feel like I'm doing something wrong if I wear anything that shows any amount of cleavage.
In general, I feel like I'm doing something wrong by wearing anything I know men like.
I have a boyfriend, so I think that might be part of it. He'd of course be upset if I wore something completely revealing, but he has no problem with me wearing things just because he thinks they are sexy - like dresses, etc.
It wouldn't be an issue, but I *like* feeling put together, confident, and attractive and a lot of times that's pretty synonymous with "sexy".
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Unfortunately, some men assume that when you wear something that's sexy, you are giving them the right to make comments about your body. They also probably think you're taking it as a compliment though, so the comments are usually harmless (unless they're excessive like that guy). If you still look professional and YOU like how you look in what you're wearing then wear it! There's nothing wrong with it if it isn't violating any kind of dress code or just looking inappropriate. Embrace your sexiness :D4