So since I have little sense of the difference, I often wonder where exactly I fall on that bell curve. The picture is in my profile (if I need to post a different one for some reason, say so). So yeah, let me know- and feel free to go anon if you prefer.
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Attraction varies a lot. My best friend is attracted to guys who look completely different from what I'm attracted to. A lot of her crushes are a bit nerdy-looking, tall, and slim. I like big, beefy, muscular. guys. So, to give an example, let's say a scrawny, tall guy comes striding in the room. Should he feel insecure simply because I find him unattractive? Nope, because my friend probably thinks he's hot!
Really, personality is most important, especially to mature females. You can be a very attractive, muscular guy, but if your personality is lacking, a mature girl will not fall for you. I can think that a guy is very pleasing to the eyes but once I get to know him and he turns out to have an unattractive personality, he will literally look much less attractive to me.