He brought it up when he suggested we go out for pizza list night and I didn't want to
He says I'm "obsessed" with being skinny as in that I can never not think about calories and ya it's true. I've never been one of those people that can eat whatever they want without getting fat. So counting calories (or at least being aware of them) has become second nature
Tbh I think a lot of girls are like that?
Also he was complaining that I'm a good cook hardly ever make "real food" but always diet versions. And ya in my house dishes like Mac n Cheese or cookies are always going to be the exception
So I asked if he would mind if I was 10 or 20 lbs heavier and well he wouldn't. So I don't know what to think? I feel like this whole conversation was all about him wanting me to be something else.
And you know, most guys like skinny, he for sure does and you can't have it both ways. You can't junk food all day and be super skinny
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I'm sort of similar. I don't count calories but I am very aware and deliberate of the food I put in my body. I do it both to be healthy and to be on the thinner side. As I've gotten older I've realized all the extra additives in food that we don't need or are very harmful. I'm more about eating fresher foods and whole grains. I am more concerned with taking care of my body and nourishing it. It just makes me feel better physically. On a shallower note, I feel better about myself when I'm on the skinner side. I don't want to be rail thin but I like to keep my waist around 26".
My husband thinks I'm nuts when it comes to some of the foods I eat. He tries to eat more healthy but he will never eat exactly how I do or what I do. He thinks that I take things to the extreme because I won't eat fast food, processed foods, white grains, or sugar. So we generally make our own food. He makes what he eats and I make what I eat. He also thinks I'm crazy when I make comments about thinking I'm getting pudgy in the stomach area or that my thighs are big. But I also know that he wouldn't think it was too attractive if I got above 135 lbs. (I'm 5'6" by the way)
I guess what's important is finding a balance. Its perfectly fine to be aware of what you are putting in your body. But you don't want to take it to the extreme where you see food as a negative thing or as the enemy. Food is amazing. All the textures, aromas, and tastes. And it gives us energy and sustains life. Just don't take your counting calories to the point where it prohibits you from enjoying food. Because life is too short to not enjoy every part of it. As far as your boyfriend goes, just try explaining to him that its more of a long term healthy lifestyle. That you don't want to be one of those elderly people that is just incredibly massive and plagued with all sorts of healthy problems. Tell him its more about the big picture and your overall health.0