Okay. So I agree about if a guy wants you, he should just straight go for you. I also agree that there are a few jerks and a**holes out there (just like there are bitches and whores out there). However, I have to disagree about the rest of it. I believe the term "what you put in is what you get" plays. Plus, I'm amazed at most guys' honesty -- they can be very honest and open if you just straight up ask them things. Prime example number 1? This site!
Guys are simple. We are stright forward and right to the point. Guys act on simple Logic, while woman act on emotion.
"Where emotions are present, Logic will never succeed"
Men don't share because woman treat us like objects, we are replacable as soon as a hot guy walks into the room. Every 'jerk" you met act that way because they met a woman like yourself and had their heart broken. why care when woman just use you to buy things and move onto a new guy within 30 min of dumping you?
I HATE articles like this one. It imposes certain opinions to all girls. Speak for yourself! I'm also a girl and I don't agree with you! What you need to do is grow up and stop stereotyping and being so narrow-minded. How would you feel if some guy said: "All girls are arrogant, manipulative bitches..." ?!
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Well, some of that may be true for some guys, but girls aren't any easier. Girls are confusing too you know. Most girls to me seem very distant and show absolutely no signs of interest to any guy. I think girls should meet us halfway and stop expecting guys to do all the heavy lifting. The mistake girls make is that they think it's easy and natural for us to be the MAN (approaching, leading, etc.) But it's not. Just because men have always been expected to do these things doesn't mean it comes any more easy to us. Were just as clueless as you would be in the same situation.
It's a hard time to be sexually/romantically aggressive as a man when nearly anything can be constituted as sexual harassment... with the additional possibility of being rejected in the first place.
The rest of your list is naive, overgeneralizing, or just wrong.
You sound un-datable tbh. . . . You're kind of like my father (LOL daddy issues). . . You take every little slight or question personally, don't notice where you mess up because you're too busy feeling sorry for yourself and refuse to change anything.
He alienated all of his kids with his unlikable behavior. You sound like you alienate every guy you meet and get mad.
It's very funny to see all these things that get labeled as men, but I see it in the individual I'm with who is a woman, I speak my mind and beg her to communicate with me, always bring up the fact that her opinion matters, and so on. I believe that you can't desypher someone based on there gender like this post is stating with its list.
1- because women teach men that if they do they get dumped. Think about the last time a guy said "i love you" to a girl after the 2nd date. for example.
2-girls do that more than men.
3. Only if he's not into her.
4. Yeah.
5. Men are visual but don't look for sugar mamas.
6. they like that stuff sure, but will commit if the woman is fun and hot.
7. Yeah men do that. But again, most men are trained not to say hi because they've been treated like sh*t from other women just by saying hi.
I once got in between 2 girls out of a trilogy of friends. One liked me, and I ended up liking the other two at different times while being completely oblivious to the one that liked me. How's that for totally screwing up that rule?
(What a huge ordeal, lol.)
So on that one, I agree guys must be very confusing. The funny thing is- I wasn't intentionally doing any of that.
17. I'd rather make someone happy than look "cool"...
18. I give props to people that can help themselves...
19. Too shy to bust that type of move...
20. It's really a case of shyness. We don't want to look stupid in front of you, so rather than straight up talk to someone that doesn't even know them and look stupid doing it, they don't talk to them at all, and hope they get noticed eventually...it's a lonely world for guys like me. Maybe I should just generalize girls...
15) You're getting mad at us because girls are too stubborn to communicate and wish guys would magically read their minds? Seriously?
17) They tease you because being nice all the time leads to being friendzoned.
18) Far from true. When guys complain about their problems to other guys, we do it because we're looking for a solution and hoping they can help. So guys think that you're looking for advice when you just want to rant.
Well, you can make it a lot simpler for yourself by avoiding the wrong kind of guys. Avoid players and stick with the guys that are morally upright and you will understand them 100 % better. You are confused because you are messing with guys who have bad intentions. Find a guy that you won't be embarrassed to show your parents. Find a guy who is honest. Then you will understand them better. You are basically dealing with con artists and that's why you are confused.
Girls are so mysterious to us, the mood and period thing. When you are in the mood, when you gals say no, trying to control our sex drive. Then all that time in the bathroom, when you only have to pee. Just do not understand women!
Guys are 100% non-psychic. Guys only speak 100% verbal language. If you said something but the words never came out of your mouth or if you said something that actually means something else then you need to be clear the failure was totally yours and if things fail out its your fault.
Also the number of times you said "get us" implies that you treat your relationships as games where we win you. You will have trouble finding guys who feel winning you means more than just getting laid. Sorry 4 U
Women are just as bad as men. Women all flock to the hot guys then whine when they get abandoned or cheated on or ignored. Same with men. You look at the jock and apply that to all men. You would probably have a very loyal nerdy boyfriend. I don't go around complaining about women. I was dumped after finding out she dated me for a bet, and another dumped me after I spent 5k on anything she wanted. I know (or at least hope) not all women are like that.
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Okay. So I agree about if a guy wants you, he should just straight go for you. I also agree that there are a few jerks and a**holes out there (just like there are bitches and whores out there). However, I have to disagree about the rest of it. I believe the term "what you put in is what you get" plays. Plus, I'm amazed at most guys' honesty -- they can be very honest and open if you just straight up ask them things. Prime example number 1? This site!
Guys are simple. We are stright forward and right to the point. Guys act on simple Logic, while woman act on emotion.
"Where emotions are present, Logic will never succeed"
Men don't share because woman treat us like objects, we are replacable as soon as a hot guy walks into the room. Every 'jerk" you met act that way because they met a woman like yourself and had their heart broken. why care when woman just use you to buy things and move onto a new guy within 30 min of dumping you?
I HATE articles like this one. It imposes certain opinions to all girls. Speak for yourself! I'm also a girl and I don't agree with you! What you need to do is grow up and stop stereotyping and being so narrow-minded. How would you feel if some guy said: "All girls are arrogant, manipulative bitches..." ?!
Well, some of that may be true for some guys, but girls aren't any easier. Girls are confusing too you know. Most girls to me seem very distant and show absolutely no signs of interest to any guy. I think girls should meet us halfway and stop expecting guys to do all the heavy lifting. The mistake girls make is that they think it's easy and natural for us to be the MAN (approaching, leading, etc.) But it's not. Just because men have always been expected to do these things doesn't mean it comes any more easy to us. Were just as clueless as you would be in the same situation.
It's a hard time to be sexually/romantically aggressive as a man when nearly anything can be constituted as sexual harassment... with the additional possibility of being rejected in the first place.
The rest of your list is naive, overgeneralizing, or just wrong.
You sound un-datable tbh. . . . You're kind of like my father (LOL daddy issues). . . You take every little slight or question personally, don't notice where you mess up because you're too busy feeling sorry for yourself and refuse to change anything.
He alienated all of his kids with his unlikable behavior. You sound like you alienate every guy you meet and get mad.
It's very funny to see all these things that get labeled as men, but I see it in the individual I'm with who is a woman, I speak my mind and beg her to communicate with me, always bring up the fact that her opinion matters, and so on. I believe that you can't desypher someone based on there gender like this post is stating with its list.
1- because women teach men that if they do they get dumped. Think about the last time a guy said "i love you" to a girl after the 2nd date. for example.
2-girls do that more than men.
3. Only if he's not into her.
4. Yeah.
5. Men are visual but don't look for sugar mamas.
6. they like that stuff sure, but will commit if the woman is fun and hot.
7. Yeah men do that. But again, most men are trained not to say hi because they've been treated like sh*t from other women just by saying hi.
19.
I once got in between 2 girls out of a trilogy of friends. One liked me, and I ended up liking the other two at different times while being completely oblivious to the one that liked me. How's that for totally screwing up that rule?
(What a huge ordeal, lol.)
So on that one, I agree guys must be very confusing. The funny thing is- I wasn't intentionally doing any of that.
17. I'd rather make someone happy than look "cool"...
18. I give props to people that can help themselves...
19. Too shy to bust that type of move...
20. It's really a case of shyness. We don't want to look stupid in front of you, so rather than straight up talk to someone that doesn't even know them and look stupid doing it, they don't talk to them at all, and hope they get noticed eventually...it's a lonely world for guys like me. Maybe I should just generalize girls...
9. I never get that far before a girl finds a more handsome guy
10. What I tell you is what I mean...EXACTLY what I mean...
11. I guess I'm more serious than the guy listed
12. I give eveyone their due respect
13. It's the opposite! But we look weak, and become predictable if we show it.
14. I can't get the people I'm interested in out of my head!
15. P*rn is so awkward! I'd like to do something else! If you really wanna punish me, talk to me about the problem!
16. I hate mind games...
LOL
Your age is pretty aparent in your writing.
1) Yes we do. It just takes a long time before we trust someone enough.
2) Lol seriously? If going after someone who is taken is the trade of one gender, it's the female one.
3) Women do that too.
6) Bullsh*t.
9) Because girls talk about permanent commitment after 2 months.
10) You think they're mixed messages because you over-analyze
13) And some girls are lying manipulative bitches. How is this an argument in your article?
13) Bullsh*t
15) You're getting mad at us because girls are too stubborn to communicate and wish guys would magically read their minds? Seriously?
17) They tease you because being nice all the time leads to being friendzoned.
18) Far from true. When guys complain about their problems to other guys, we do it because we're looking for a solution and hoping they can help. So guys think that you're looking for advice when you just want to rant.
You have much to learn.
Here's the answer. Ready? It's really simple:
1. If a guy doesn't want a girl, then the girl thinks the guy is 'confusing'. He's not, he just doesn't want you. Simple as that.
2. If a girl doesn't want a guy, then the guy thinks the girl is 'confusing'. She's not, she just doesn't want you. Simple as that.
Now can we please stop having these types of questions/articles? If a girl/guy likes you, HE/SHE WILL MAKE EFFORT TO SHOW YOU. End of story.
"2.) They go after the girls that are already taken." Girls do this too, rather notoriously.
"17.) They tease us to make themselves cool.Really?!" Girls do this ALL the time espescially if they are with friends.
"9.) Change the subject when we want to talk about relationships." You do the same when we want to talk about sex.
"5.) Men are "Visual Creatures" - meaning that they all look for their sugar mama/baby mama/ you get the picture." Women are "emotional creatures"...
so on and so on
Well, you can make it a lot simpler for yourself by avoiding the wrong kind of guys. Avoid players and stick with the guys that are morally upright and you will understand them 100 % better. You are confused because you are messing with guys who have bad intentions. Find a guy that you won't be embarrassed to show your parents. Find a guy who is honest. Then you will understand them better. You are basically dealing with con artists and that's why you are confused.
Funny, I thought it was the other way around.
Girls are so mysterious to us, the mood and period thing. When you are in the mood, when you gals say no, trying to control our sex drive. Then all that time in the bathroom, when you only have to pee. Just do not understand women!
Guys are 100% non-psychic. Guys only speak 100% verbal language. If you said something but the words never came out of your mouth or if you said something that actually means something else then you need to be clear the failure was totally yours and if things fail out its your fault.
Also the number of times you said "get us" implies that you treat your relationships as games where we win you. You will have trouble finding guys who feel winning you means more than just getting laid. Sorry 4 U
2 sides of a coin here, all I see is the arguments about "Bad Boys" and nothing to back up the nicer ones who genuinely do give a damn about women.
They do exist, they just got crushed under the pre-made image that a lot of people have about how they should be. Thank you society & evolution!
Women are just as bad as men. Women all flock to the hot guys then whine when they get abandoned or cheated on or ignored. Same with men. You look at the jock and apply that to all men. You would probably have a very loyal nerdy boyfriend. I don't go around complaining about women. I was dumped after finding out she dated me for a bet, and another dumped me after I spent 5k on anything she wanted. I know (or at least hope) not all women are like that.