You can date someone and only like them.
So I don't love him?
Actually, I was just trolling, but now that you've asked that, let me put on my serious hat, because clearly there is something going on here. Sorry for dicking around.It's common for people to become enamoured with their own feelings and to want to surround themselves with things or people who make them feel good. Nothing wrong with that, either. It can be the beginnings of love.Now, real love goes beyond oneself. It's also important how the other person feels--you want them to feel good as well. That's a more complete love. But love goes further still.Love is mutual. They must feel the same. That you make them feel good and they want you to feel good too. Both of you mutually feel this way, and you then choose to act consistently with that feeling. You choose to look out for your own AND their best interests. So love goes beyond feelings and extends to choice and a commitment to that choice.
That's really nice way of putting it. Thank you.
Don't be afraid that he won't feel as you do... You want to learn that asap. Why be with someone who doesn't love you? But he may feel the same, in which case, you will have the beginnings of love between you two. If he's been with you that long, maybe he does feel for you.Fingers crossed it turns out how you want.
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Because he said that he never will earlier on in the relationship because he doesn't think he knows the emotion. I get that. I understand it.
Do you agree with him that he doesn't know the emotion, or is it perhaps something else?Are you cool with being in love with someone who doesn't know the emotion of love?
He's never been in love and doesn't know if he could ever feel it.I'm not sure. Honestly if I hit a year and he still doesn't feel it I'd probably break up with me.
Break up with him*
If you tell him, and he never says it back, how would you feel?
It would eventually destroy me.
Wow. I'm sorry to hear that. Perhaps you should tell him, and if he says yes then that's wonderful. If not, then you must decide if you want to continue in this relationship, or seek someone who you are compatible with.You will be hurt, but you won't be destroyed, asker. I sincerely mean that. And I'm sorry I couldn't offer more help, and I sincerely mean that, too.