Her family may not accept the fact that I am white.
My family (extended) may act sort of weird about it and I wouldn't want things to be awkward for her.
I tend to be sort of old fashioned and calm while black females have a reputation for being pretty outgoing and vociferous.
Granted I am stereotyping but so are you by asking this question. So in closing, your average run of the mill black chick just wouldn't be that compatible but say a more reserved one that doesn't dress and talk hood with a good friendly family would be more appealing because that is generally what I look for in a female anyway!
i have a black friend who also questions this. she said she really likes this one white guy. in a group chat, he said that he would date any race or creed but when it came to her asking him out he said, I'm not into u. the next day I asked him why didn't you say yes? he said because she is black and she is too big I'm afraid of her. I figured its cus she's a tall strong girl(she played on a male football team in high school) a lot of white guys are afraid of big girls. guys want to protect someone then someone protecting them. as hard as it is to say this but if my friend was a lot smaller girl this guy would have went for her, I have noticed that a lot of black girls are tall or heavier then a white, Hispanic or any other race. I don't kno how much you way for your body type but a lot of guys like to hold someone and not be held
wooooh.. Asian guys are the wost? I wonder.. could you please elaborate or give me the site so I can read it.. I'm just curious and a little bit stunned with what you post..
anyways, I believe it matters to one's perception about beauty... as they say," beauty is in the eye of the beholder.".. some will say "black women is a big no no!" and some will say ." wooooh.. Black ladies are definitely HOT".. it really doesn't matter at all because it all depends on how you see beauty,..
if you read the answers in your question everyone gave different opinion about beauty. and if you just sum it all up, it ends up in saying that every one of us has their own perception how beauty is..
because of strong influence of the norms in our society or in tv, commercials, and the people we are with(race), helps develop how we see the beauty of one person...
Perhaps it's not as much an issue of black or white, but other factors? If you're a really great person, some guys may just be intimidated by that. They may assume you have a boyfriend. You may just be bad at flirting. You might not be aware of how guys flirt and you send off a different vibe, it could be that your look isn't working for you, you could be an extreme pessimist, you may be a nasty cruel hearted girl, it could be that you're just so busy that a guy can recognize it and not want to date you because you're too busy for a relationship - I don't know. Point is to just be aware that there could be so many things other than race that can affect how the dating life goes.
You could be right, though - it could be a race issue where you live, but I know that around me at least, there doesn't seem to be any problems with "interracial dating."
I seem to be just as ugly to black girls as I am to the white girls, so ANY dating tends to be pretty limited for me. Lol.
I think it depends on where you grow up! I grew up in the ninth ward in New Orleans. I was like one of 3 white kids in my school. I went to several dances and dates with black girls. I see no problem with it. My sister is with a black guy. I really think its the society that you grow up in.
Why do we need to analyze this? You like who you like and that's it period! It doesn't make you racist and it doesn't make you a bad person. What it may do is limit the opportunity for meeting someone truly special. But oh well...we live and learn. I've dated all kinds of women what they had in common was they were pretty, respectful, smart and could make me laugh. Black, white, asian, latinas it never mattered to me. Of course it may be because I've grown up in a very multicultural environment that allows me to see PEOPLE not ethnicities.
i am so glad that you posted..i agree..why is preference in question here as though it's a huge effing issue?some date outside their own race but as I've said recent studies show that most people ,(even though it's 2013 ) still date and eventually marry within their own race./why is this such a huge problem or issue to some people I don't understand
I go to a community college and I notice this a lot too...
I think its just a social stigma. White men think that they have to act like the black men that they see on TV if they are going to date a black woman.
I am a white female and I am dating a dominican/black mixed male. I never saw the color of his skin as being a problem, and I knew that my family would respect whoever I choose. I think that most white household families are not okay with the whole situation, so the men feel pressured not to bring a black woman home.
half these things the guys are saying are not true, I'm a black women and I'm very attrated to white guys but I'm not rude,loud,ignorent or any of that stuff it actually takes me a while to truly get close to a guy any race of guy,but I also lived in australia for most of my life but before any of you stereotype its a good country(and I'm not aboriginal..lol)and not a lot of white guys approach me .i realllly don't like the way some black guys are just so upfront with their comments it does kind of suprize me but seriously guys approach a black women sometimes you might be suprised by her response :)
I disagree with your impression, and I find it to be exactly opposite of my own. All the issues you brought up are archaic, and they are melting, eroding, fading away. Though the old curses still retain some power, interracial romance has never been more popular, and it only grows.
What you really want to know, I suspect, is why YOU are single. So stop lying to the world and to yourself, and REFUSE to shelter your ego by taking refuge in a stereotype. It's a non-constructive mindset. You know those guys who ask girls out, get rejected, and say "must be a lesbian"? That's an analogous thought process at work. A guy who doesn't like you, most of the time, just happens to not like YOU, or else is subject to any of 600 different issues that have little to do with race.
Sorry for being such a brutal bastard about it. I hope that doesn't stop you from taking my response seriously. Good luck, Creolebby, and good love.
I've dated black girls. There are some I find attractive and others I don't... for a number of reasons.
I'm not partial to really kinky hair on girls - whether they're redheads from Scotland or brunettes from Cameroon.
I don't prefer coarse facial features on a girl - whether she's from Estonia, Italy or the Congo delta.
It is the same with girls of each ethnic background and every conceivable combination.
I'm sure women have the same sets of personal preferences and that they vary broadly person to person.
Each person has their own baggage. I don't think there's a universal explanation for the phenomenon you perceive.
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Na it is more that black GUYS seem to like black and white girls but black GIRLS only seem to like black guys. Don't know if that's true but its just the impression I get like if black girls are in a group in a club I would probably not approach them and just think they won't be interested becoz I'm white. And also you hardly ever see a White guy with a black girlfriend. I don't know maybe its us white guys fault for thinkin black girls won't be interested and not trying it on?! I don't think that white guys don't like black girls though all my white friends like black girls. Also I never checked where ur from I'm from england so things mite be different here to america etc. etc.
It's simple, men are attracted to what stimulated them as young developing adults. Mostly what they've seen on TV or in magazines. Those physical images that got them off then, gets them off now. Most of the more popular pornography in the United States involves white women. That's just how it goes. It has nothing to do with you as a person or whether or not you're attractive, or other black girls in general.
In the interest of full disclosure. I'm a white male, and I've never been involved in a romantic relationship with any other ethnicity than white.
i think that a lot of white males might find the stereotypical (loud, in your face, whatever else falls under there) black female intimidating and too much of a hassle, so they just stay away from all in general. obviously the stereotype doesn't apply to all, but I've seen this sort of question several times on this site now and a lot of answers always come back to the stereotype, with guys saying, "if she doesn't fit the stereotype and is nice and calm and etcetc, I would like to get to know her better"
Personally, it has nothing to do with the fact that a girl is black (or any other race for that matter). It just has to do with rather or not I find them attractive or not. I have seen many, many smoking hot black chicks that put your typical white blond girl to shame.
I just think that on the average, since you don't really see all that many white guys with black chicks, that there may be a...how do I phrase this, a 'there's no way she would date a white guy' syndrome. I mean, you don't really see all that many black girls going after white, asian, middle eastern, etc. guys...at least not as much as you would see a white girl with a black guy (on the average). But, if I came across a black girl that I liked and she liked me then I would absolutely date her.
Yeah that's true, I've seen many instances where a comparison between an extreme end of one spectrum and the average of another puts the average to shame. Normally comparisons like that are made because the extreme from the former would not compare favorably to the extreme of the latter case. I'm glad you've set your standards in such a way that you can feel good about yourself! Yay self esteem!
media white men see is mostly a certain type of white woman. So not just black, but size, and such.
Intimidation - women tend to be more free thinking, and have less peer pressure. Also may get more support form friends when they date a litle different than they have in past. I think the culture may be intimidating as well.
Things tend to go in runs. Like older guys with younger women, but not younger guys with older women. That seems to have changed quite a bit. I assume you will see that change as well. Awful lot of beautiful black women I have caught myself checking out when Girlfriend not looking. :)
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Looks like a lot of people think all black people behave like American, black people from different cultural background, different homes and different environments. the fact that some black people from some part of the world like a popular country like america, have some kinda stereotypes means all blacks in general. I am an African girl and get very offended by some of this rude ass comments towards black females. in Africa and other part of the world this false accusation some people are saying doesn't exist at all, next time when saying something unpleasant about black females, remember not only black Americans females exist in the entire word, there are other black females In other parts of the world who are innocent about this so called stereotypes existing in america thanks
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I don't know, I have a thing for a black girl I know but she only likes black guys (so many bad boyfriends and I'd treat her like a queen... at least, a queen on a limited budget) anyway, maybe it's not your race, have you tried examining your approach? seeing what shape you are in? and maybe if you find a nice guy who treats girls well and is single, just come out and ask him out, you'd be AMAZED how many guys are good, honest, caring, demons in the sack etc... but are just too shy to come out with it.
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the biggest draw back to me about black women and I know I shouldnt think this way is the stereo typical ghetto girl. I can't stand when they start snapping their fingers and talk so loud you can hear them down the street. I know not all are like that, but it has go to be the biggest thing that will always keep me from dating a black girl. also latin girls are in the almost there category, they are almost too loud for me as well I'm a calm chill laid back kinda guy so the quiet but still fun white girls and Asian girls are the top for me
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I think physical attraction, which is the first attraction a guy has for you, is something that is just inside of you from an early age and it isn't thought out or logical. I personally like certain odd little physical qualities because I connect them to guys who once had a crush on me. For instance, my last boyfriend shaved his head and though I have no interest in being with him, I notice that when I see a shaved head it triggers this sense of attraction, though I can later talk to the guy and feel nothing.
Physical attraction can be influenced by environment and not just genetics. Ideal bodies have changed and differ by culture. During times of desolation in early Europe heavier women we more attractive. Then look at the strange neck things in a few African tribes, bound feet in China. Ridiculously oversized fake boobs in America.
True, but luckily now there is such a range of what we are attracted to as individuals. The media may portray a one-size-fits-all look that guys like but is not the case in reality.
For one thing, it's quite dangerous since many black men won't tolerate us making a move on 'their' women. Of course, no one ever objects to them flirting with Caucasian women because then we'd be racist, etc., But of course they're not racist, just ask them, they'll tell you.
Secondly, most of them, like their role models among wealthy Caucasian women, are simply for sale, and that's not really very attractive unless you're into that scene.
But we're NOT THEIR WOMEN just because we're the same race. Please get a backbone (no offense) and go after the woman you WANT!!! Let NOTHING stop you. Richard Loving boldly pursued and married Mildred Loving in the 1950's in the SOUTH, when it was forbidden by LAW for mixed race couples to marry!!! So what's stopping you again?
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Well I would break it down into a few things:
Her family may not accept the fact that I am white.
My family (extended) may act sort of weird about it and I wouldn't want things to be awkward for her.
I tend to be sort of old fashioned and calm while black females have a reputation for being pretty outgoing and vociferous.
Granted I am stereotyping but so are you by asking this question. So in closing, your average run of the mill black chick just wouldn't be that compatible but say a more reserved one that doesn't dress and talk hood with a good friendly family would be more appealing because that is generally what I look for in a female anyway!
Best answer I think
Thanks!
i have a black friend who also questions this. she said she really likes this one white guy. in a group chat, he said that he would date any race or creed but when it came to her asking him out he said, I'm not into u. the next day I asked him why didn't you say yes? he said because she is black and she is too big I'm afraid of her. I figured its cus she's a tall strong girl(she played on a male football team in high school) a lot of white guys are afraid of big girls. guys want to protect someone then someone protecting them. as hard as it is to say this but if my friend was a lot smaller girl this guy would have went for her, I have noticed that a lot of black girls are tall or heavier then a white, Hispanic or any other race. I don't kno how much you way for your body type but a lot of guys like to hold someone and not be held
wooooh.. Asian guys are the wost? I wonder.. could you please elaborate or give me the site so I can read it.. I'm just curious and a little bit stunned with what you post..
anyways, I believe it matters to one's perception about beauty... as they say," beauty is in the eye of the beholder.".. some will say "black women is a big no no!" and some will say ." wooooh.. Black ladies are definitely HOT".. it really doesn't matter at all because it all depends on how you see beauty,..
if you read the answers in your question everyone gave different opinion about beauty. and if you just sum it all up, it ends up in saying that every one of us has their own perception how beauty is..
because of strong influence of the norms in our society or in tv, commercials, and the people we are with(race), helps develop how we see the beauty of one person...
Dude, don't worry about it, the biggest playa I know is asian lol
My sister and I LOVE asian guys. My sister wants to marry one.
Perhaps it's not as much an issue of black or white, but other factors? If you're a really great person, some guys may just be intimidated by that. They may assume you have a boyfriend. You may just be bad at flirting. You might not be aware of how guys flirt and you send off a different vibe, it could be that your look isn't working for you, you could be an extreme pessimist, you may be a nasty cruel hearted girl, it could be that you're just so busy that a guy can recognize it and not want to date you because you're too busy for a relationship - I don't know. Point is to just be aware that there could be so many things other than race that can affect how the dating life goes.
You could be right, though - it could be a race issue where you live, but I know that around me at least, there doesn't seem to be any problems with "interracial dating."
I seem to be just as ugly to black girls as I am to the white girls, so ANY dating tends to be pretty limited for me. Lol.
I think it depends on where you grow up! I grew up in the ninth ward in New Orleans. I was like one of 3 white kids in my school. I went to several dances and dates with black girls. I see no problem with it. My sister is with a black guy. I really think its the society that you grow up in.
Most definitely
Why do we need to analyze this? You like who you like and that's it period! It doesn't make you racist and it doesn't make you a bad person. What it may do is limit the opportunity for meeting someone truly special. But oh well...we live and learn. I've dated all kinds of women what they had in common was they were pretty, respectful, smart and could make me laugh. Black, white, asian, latinas it never mattered to me. Of course it may be because I've grown up in a very multicultural environment that allows me to see PEOPLE not ethnicities.
Well said.
I'm not asking this question because I specifically want to fall in love with a white man. I was just curious . . .
i am so glad that you posted..i agree..why is preference in question here as though it's a huge effing issue?some date outside their own race but as I've said recent studies show that most people ,(even though it's 2013 ) still date and eventually marry within their own race./why is this such a huge problem or issue to some people I don't understand
I go to a community college and I notice this a lot too...
I think its just a social stigma. White men think that they have to act like the black men that they see on TV if they are going to date a black woman.
I am a white female and I am dating a dominican/black mixed male. I never saw the color of his skin as being a problem, and I knew that my family would respect whoever I choose. I think that most white household families are not okay with the whole situation, so the men feel pressured not to bring a black woman home.
half these things the guys are saying are not true, I'm a black women and I'm very attrated to white guys but I'm not rude,loud,ignorent or any of that stuff it actually takes me a while to truly get close to a guy any race of guy,but I also lived in australia for most of my life but before any of you stereotype its a good country(and I'm not aboriginal..lol)and not a lot of white guys approach me .i realllly don't like the way some black guys are just so upfront with their comments it does kind of suprize me but seriously guys approach a black women sometimes you might be suprised by her response :)
Blaccent? Brothers? Jerry Springer?
No.
I disagree with your impression, and I find it to be exactly opposite of my own. All the issues you brought up are archaic, and they are melting, eroding, fading away. Though the old curses still retain some power, interracial romance has never been more popular, and it only grows.
What you really want to know, I suspect, is why YOU are single. So stop lying to the world and to yourself, and REFUSE to shelter your ego by taking refuge in a stereotype. It's a non-constructive mindset. You know those guys who ask girls out, get rejected, and say "must be a lesbian"? That's an analogous thought process at work. A guy who doesn't like you, most of the time, just happens to not like YOU, or else is subject to any of 600 different issues that have little to do with race.
Sorry for being such a brutal bastard about it. I hope that doesn't stop you from taking my response seriously. Good luck, Creolebby, and good love.
I've dated black girls. There are some I find attractive and others I don't... for a number of reasons.
I'm not partial to really kinky hair on girls - whether they're redheads from Scotland or brunettes from Cameroon.
I don't prefer coarse facial features on a girl - whether she's from Estonia, Italy or the Congo delta.
It is the same with girls of each ethnic background and every conceivable combination.
I'm sure women have the same sets of personal preferences and that they vary broadly person to person.
Each person has their own baggage. I don't think there's a universal explanation for the phenomenon you perceive.
Na it is more that black GUYS seem to like black and white girls but black GIRLS only seem to like black guys. Don't know if that's true but its just the impression I get like if black girls are in a group in a club I would probably not approach them and just think they won't be interested becoz I'm white. And also you hardly ever see a White guy with a black girlfriend. I don't know maybe its us white guys fault for thinkin black girls won't be interested and not trying it on?! I don't think that white guys don't like black girls though all my white friends like black girls. Also I never checked where ur from I'm from england so things mite be different here to america etc. etc.
I tend to feel the same.. I don't approach guys in general but I assume white guys wouldn't be into me and think what other people might say..
Its not white guys fault its both. I don't care what people say wen I tell them I'm into white guys.
Hey,I think you should answer my question,im superrr curious.lol
https://www.girlsaskguys.com/Dating-Questions/189740-why-do-guys-of-different-races-assume-black-women.html
It's simple, men are attracted to what stimulated them as young developing adults. Mostly what they've seen on TV or in magazines. Those physical images that got them off then, gets them off now. Most of the more popular pornography in the United States involves white women. That's just how it goes. It has nothing to do with you as a person or whether or not you're attractive, or other black girls in general.
In the interest of full disclosure. I'm a white male, and I've never been involved in a romantic relationship with any other ethnicity than white.
i think that a lot of white males might find the stereotypical (loud, in your face, whatever else falls under there) black female intimidating and too much of a hassle, so they just stay away from all in general. obviously the stereotype doesn't apply to all, but I've seen this sort of question several times on this site now and a lot of answers always come back to the stereotype, with guys saying, "if she doesn't fit the stereotype and is nice and calm and etcetc, I would like to get to know her better"
Personally, it has nothing to do with the fact that a girl is black (or any other race for that matter). It just has to do with rather or not I find them attractive or not. I have seen many, many smoking hot black chicks that put your typical white blond girl to shame.
I just think that on the average, since you don't really see all that many white guys with black chicks, that there may be a...how do I phrase this, a 'there's no way she would date a white guy' syndrome. I mean, you don't really see all that many black girls going after white, asian, middle eastern, etc. guys...at least not as much as you would see a white girl with a black guy (on the average). But, if I came across a black girl that I liked and she liked me then I would absolutely date her.
Yeah that's true, I've seen many instances where a comparison between an extreme end of one spectrum and the average of another puts the average to shame. Normally comparisons like that are made because the extreme from the former would not compare favorably to the extreme of the latter case. I'm glad you've set your standards in such a way that you can feel good about yourself! Yay self esteem!
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media white men see is mostly a certain type of white woman. So not just black, but size, and such.
Intimidation - women tend to be more free thinking, and have less peer pressure. Also may get more support form friends when they date a litle different than they have in past. I think the culture may be intimidating as well.
Things tend to go in runs. Like older guys with younger women, but not younger guys with older women. That seems to have changed quite a bit. I assume you will see that change as well. Awful lot of beautiful black women I have caught myself checking out when Girlfriend not looking. :)
Looks like a lot of people think all black people behave like American, black people from different cultural background, different homes and different environments. the fact that some black people from some part of the world like a popular country like america, have some kinda stereotypes means all blacks in general. I am an African girl and get very offended by some of this rude ass comments towards black females. in Africa and other part of the world this false accusation some people are saying doesn't exist at all, next time when saying something unpleasant about black females, remember not only black Americans females exist in the entire word, there are other black females In other parts of the world who are innocent about this so called stereotypes existing in america thanks
I don't know, I have a thing for a black girl I know but she only likes black guys (so many bad boyfriends and I'd treat her like a queen... at least, a queen on a limited budget) anyway, maybe it's not your race, have you tried examining your approach? seeing what shape you are in? and maybe if you find a nice guy who treats girls well and is single, just come out and ask him out, you'd be AMAZED how many guys are good, honest, caring, demons in the sack etc... but are just too shy to come out with it.
the biggest draw back to me about black women and I know I shouldnt think this way is the stereo typical ghetto girl. I can't stand when they start snapping their fingers and talk so loud you can hear them down the street. I know not all are like that, but it has go to be the biggest thing that will always keep me from dating a black girl. also latin girls are in the almost there category, they are almost too loud for me as well I'm a calm chill laid back kinda guy so the quiet but still fun white girls and Asian girls are the top for me
I think physical attraction, which is the first attraction a guy has for you, is something that is just inside of you from an early age and it isn't thought out or logical. I personally like certain odd little physical qualities because I connect them to guys who once had a crush on me. For instance, my last boyfriend shaved his head and though I have no interest in being with him, I notice that when I see a shaved head it triggers this sense of attraction, though I can later talk to the guy and feel nothing.
Physical attraction can be influenced by environment and not just genetics. Ideal bodies have changed and differ by culture. During times of desolation in early Europe heavier women we more attractive. Then look at the strange neck things in a few African tribes, bound feet in China. Ridiculously oversized fake boobs in America.
True, but luckily now there is such a range of what we are attracted to as individuals. The media may portray a one-size-fits-all look that guys like but is not the case in reality.
For one thing, it's quite dangerous since many black men won't tolerate us making a move on 'their' women. Of course, no one ever objects to them flirting with Caucasian women because then we'd be racist, etc., But of course they're not racist, just ask them, they'll tell you.
Secondly, most of them, like their role models among wealthy Caucasian women, are simply for sale, and that's not really very attractive unless you're into that scene.
But we're NOT THEIR WOMEN just because we're the same race. Please get a backbone (no offense) and go after the woman you WANT!!! Let NOTHING stop you. Richard Loving boldly pursued and married Mildred Loving in the 1950's in the SOUTH, when it was forbidden by LAW for mixed race couples to marry!!! So what's stopping you again?
And when Mr. Loving was told he must separate from his wife he BOLDLY stated to the world during a news reporter: "I WON'T divorce her!" This is 2016.
@Joan2016 tell that to them