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It will just get worse...
And he will always apologize.
He has anger issues, and he needs help.
You should talk to him about this.
Tell him you love him and you care, but that you have to break up wtih him for your own safety. If he really loves you, he will understand and will try to get help to fix his anger problem. Let him know you will be there for him, as a friend. But until he is "healed" you have to leave him.
Sticking with him, and waiting will not make things better. He will def do it again.
If I were you I would get out as soon as possible if he does t one time he will surely do it again. Love doesn't hurt and if he gets so enraged and jealous over a few texts and phone calls imagine what else he is capable of. I mean when you came to he didn't even try to help you and you head was bleeding.You should really leave him next he'll be buying you all kinds of gifts and saying sweet things and how sorry he is until you set him off again and he bashes your skull in. Get Out now before this becomes a regular occurance in your relationship PLEASE!
Omg okay first of all that is assault so you would be completely in the right if you pressed charges on him.
Break up with him. Do not accept his apologies or think that he means anything he says. He doesnt. What you need to do is not be his girlfriend anymore and stay away from him. you don't even have to talk to him anymore. Your safety could be at risk because he could do this again. If he flips out over this kind of bull that is a product of his jealousy anyway, him assaulting you will not be a 1 time thing. If you stay with him it WILL happen again.
Tell your close friends and family so they can support you.
Its actually battery, assault is just a threat, at least in the US, its different in different countries though awesome how the law works.
i'd give him one more chance.. and if he does it ONE more time, than leave him.
and how long have you both dating for?
I mean everyone makes mistakes, and if he was crying about it, and was truley sorry.
I'm sure he didn't mean to, and he will never do it again.
Although I never had to deal with a guy who hit me before.
I always said that if a guy ever touched me, as in hit me I would never talk to them ever again.
But it never happened to me, and you love him.
So just give him one more chance.
Why the hell would you even give someone the opportunity to hit you AGAIN?! If he didn't mean to do it... and TRULY didn't mean to do it... he shouldn't HAVE DONE IT. He could have seriously injured her if she would have hit that corner just right. When someone is hit for the first time and they wake from their coma 4 years later should they still give that guy another chance? It COULD have happened. WEEPING OR NOT it was something that he couldn't control and won't be able to without counseling
Lol. He hit me once...but I'm gonna stay so he can beat me up two more times so it's like the strikeout rule.
No offense but statements like this make you sound like a future battered wife. Crying doesn't always mean someone is sorry, it can also be used as a manipulation tool like what he did in her situation. Disney movies have so many girls f***ed up!
IF HE DOES IT ONE MORE TIME??? that's like being pushed off the roof of a building, adn then after recovery, going back to the ledge with the same person who pushed you off the first time! oh yearh, let's get hurt again, just to see if it feels different the second time around! how can he not have meant to? oh, maybe he mistook her for the wall he was going to punch instead! that is total crap.
NEVER give a second chance to a guy who hits a woman! :@
Oh my god, sweetheart, they all apologize!! But the apology never keeps them from hitting again. Please understand that if a man hits a woman it isn't anger. It's a very, very specific mindset that he has gotten into probably from childhood.
Please understand that a man hitting you is like you beaten a child. Wouldn't you feel sorry afterward too? But wouldn't you be in a very bad place in your mind to get to the point of beating a child?
That's why we say leave.
Cam1423 is probably her boyfriend lol read my story above... give me a break... of course they all cry and hit again... abuse is abuse... wish i was on this thread when i needed help. i was on another professional thread and they said give him another chance and he beat me...
Christ. if you fell, hit your head and blacked out, that means you suffered a traumatic brain injury. It's also known as a TBI. You definitely suffered a severe concussion and probably don't realize it. You should be evaluated immediately by a neurologist.
Post concussion syndrome could set in and believe me I'm having a hard enough time trying to deal with it. It's tough.
You also need to file assault charges, because it's never right to hit a girl. Nothing justifies it. Guys are naturally stronger than girls...this whole thing is complete BS.
You're asking advice on a public forum, which shows you know there's something a miss here.
Arguments happen and things can get heated. The thing I would be concerned about his inability to deal with his anger and the fact that he lashed out at you.
I have experienced this before, its an awful situation to be in. I can't advise you on what to do, I can only say what happened is wrong.
I don't know if this is out of character for your boyfriend or if he has a tendency to violent outbursts.
Me personally, after what I have experienced would be out of the door quicker than he could say sorry. I am no angel but I don't hit the people I love.
NO ONE DESERVES TO BE HIT. Leave him okay Hun, this is not love, this is abuse and you need to leave him, it will be hard but leave him, you deserve a better man then this. I don't care what he says, leave him and tell him that with that hit you won't ever get back together because you shouldn't. One hit can lead to multiple hits, its a icy slope and I want women every were to have a good man, and this man is not a good man by doing that.
I just need to add on, This might be hard to do, but there are something in life which are not acceptable, and he used up all his chances, I wish I was your friend because I would pull out an aluminum bat and say to this guy to leave you alone, I am sorry I am harsh towards any man who lays an abusive hand against women.
I see that you love him, because you wouldn't consider staying with him if you didn't. This is serious though. Me and my boyfriend do get in heated arguments but he never punches me. He punches the walls or something but never me and I have been with him for 3 years. Maybe you should talk to him see if he can get help for this. Tell him you love him and make him understand that you would leave him if you didn't. You wouldn't still be with him if you loved your ex, especially after that little incident. If your decision is to stay with him just definitely get him to get help with his anger issues because he clearly has some. No guy hits a girl ever! He has to understand that! I mean if you didn't love him so much I would tell you to leave him. But emotions are involved and you do like him. he let his jealousy and anger really take over and that can't happen again. He really needs help containing it.
i don't think you should stay in this relationship, you may love him but he doesn't trust you enough and he has some anger issues he needs to sort out. you don't deserve to be treated like this especially when you haven't done anything wrong. If you think he honestly didn't mean to do this then maybe you can work through this but being in a violent relationship isn't in your best interests and isn't acceptable. my advice is to talk this over and discuss why he reacted like he did, and think about whether your safety is more important than being with him. hope this helps you x
LEAVE HIM LEAVE HIM LEAVE HIM. He is abusive...I'm sure he did apologize, and tell you it will never happen again, he loves you, he made a mistake...Blah , blah. Blah. IT WILL HAPPEN AGAIN! Whether it happens next week, or next month, it WILL happen again. And it will get worse. Tell EVERYONE you know--take pictures and document the evidence. Call the police an file a report.
Please, please, GET OUT. Do not stay and be victim. There is NO excuse for abusing you, and YES it was abuse. HE IS AN ABUSER. HE WILL DO IT AGAIN. YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF AND LEAVE HIM.
It's an age old saying that if he hits you once he will again. I am really sorry about what happened to you no matter what you did it doesn't give him the right to lay his hands on you let alone to the point where you were blacked out. If you really truly are willing to make this relationship work then it is in the best interest for the both of you for him to seek counseling. He obviously has an anger and trust issue. I understand many people believe that if he does it once he'll do it again but I do believe that people like this need help and with enough time and counseling can get better. My advice to you would be to take a break from him until things cool down. Let him know that you think he should seek counseling but give him his space right now to get better and to think about his actions. I will keep you and him in my prayers and I hope everything works out for the best.
I don't care how angry he was, how sad he was post-punching...get out! No one, guy or girl, deserves to be beaten around. that's just no respect for you whatsoever! Its just that if he got angry like THAT over just text msgs you haven't replied to, think: what if things in the future creates an argument and he hits you again? if he's done it once, he can do it again. when he gets enraged, the button for hitting gets pressed...i think it can happen again and I really don't want you to endanger yourself again!
wtf is wrong with that first guy wow your pathetic! don't listen to him honey! anyways leave him if he hit you now he will again but do what I always do forgive but NEVER forget! you can forgive him but don't forget what he did it was wrong and you can't give him a chance to do it again! plzz honey do the right thing leave him and move on he's going to do it again that's a promise! if a man can put his hand on a girl in the wrong way then he ain't worth any of your time! no offence hun but he's pathetic too apoligizing should not count in this situation! and that damn anonymous user can shut his damn mouth seriously he needs his asss kicked BADDDD! and honey your beautiful they way you are never put yourself threw that abuse!
good luck sweetie do the right thing,
Kiersten<33 Ps. if you need anyone to talk to feel free to message me(:
You need to leave him and quickly. Any guy who cannot control himself enough that he would hit a girl, is a dangerous guy. And, once they get the taste of hitting you, they will do it again, and again.
When a guy is so threatened by an ex trying to contact you, that is a sign of an insecure guy. It is the insecurity (which runs deeper than you realize) that is the worse thing about this. When a guy is insecure they need a way to feel in control and in charge again. When they hit a girl, that is their way of feeling good again, until the next thing comes along that triggers them to remember how insecure they really are. And then they hit you again.
I went through this in my teens and luckily I did finally leave the guy. His ability to hit me was a drug to him, I much later realized. Everytime something in his life upset him, he could take it out on me. Short of him recognizing his problem and getting serious help, I am sure he still hits women today.
Oh, and in case there is any confusion, not all insecure guys hit girls. But once a guy does, the feeling it gives him is empowering and as far as I can tell, hard to resist. Also, not all guys or girls have deep feelings of insecurity. I think we all have our ups and downs in this area, some more than others, but there are those that are truly, deeply affected by insecurity on a regular basis, and, again, when it is a guy and he resorts to violence, it is a hard habit to stop.
1th thing,if you were my daughter or sister I'd kill him.Wait I'd ask him some questions the kill him!A man should not hit a woman no matter what she has done and not to mention you didn't even hit him first.I don't care what the situation is if you get mad walk away don't put you hands on a woman,your not her father.Anyway it sounds like the first time so talk and don't stick around for the second time.If you feel like he is gonna hit you ever again, leave.
Get out of there and fast if he has hit you once he will do it again , the weakest guys normally hit girls and will often never stand up to another man as we hit back you see , I would tell him to stay away and call the cops if you feel threatened again and even consider reporting this one, never let a guy hit you there is never any excuse for a guy using physical violence against a girl
Call the police and report it. It's very important that these types of incidents are documented. I know that you probably don't want to get him in trouble but guys typically don't just do that once. Having it on his record means that if he does again to you or someone else he'll be punished.
Guys don't punch girls... ever. Any guy who crosses that line needs serious help.
My girl and I have been in quite a few arguments but I have never once even thought about punching her. This one time I got my girl in the eye with an elbow when we were tickle fighting. Probably the hardest I've ever hit anyone. That was an accident and I cried because I felt really bad that I hurt her... so yeah I bet he was crying but that doesn't change the fact that he hit you.
Sometimes sorry isn't enough.
LEAVE HIS ASS! I witnessed my step mother get hit by my father. but my step mom didn't get injured like you did. Abuse is why my mother left my father. My dad hit my mom (real mom) once and she took a knife and cut his ass, they broke up after that. (that was when I was 3) I'm 16 now. I still remember it like it was yesterday. I just moved in with my dad last year and I when I saw him hit my step mom I was in total shock. My step mom says she's moving out but it happened like 1 week ago and she's still here, cleaning, cooking, sleeping in the same bed with my dad like nothing happened. Watch when it happens again she'll learn.
I really hope that you have left him. There is never a reason for a someone to punch you. IF he punched because of a simple argument that seems like it evolved a confidence issue for him (if he does not trust you then he isn't confident in the relationship) then he will definitely do it again and before you know it, it will become a frequent thing. Ya'll aren't married and it doesn't sound like ya'll have kids so you have no reason to just try to stay with him. AND even if you were married and/or have kids then you should also be trying to figuring out how soon you could possibility get away from him.
Leave him right now!
He hit you once he will be more likely to do it again. And if you put up with it once you will put up with it again and again.
He doesn't trust you that is made clear by the way he reacted to your ex contacting you. He doesn't love you, that is made clear by his lack of trust and violent behavior towards you. He just wants to control you.
DO NOT STAY WITH THIS PIG FOR 1 MORE DAY. You might not live to regret it.