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I like guys like you. A serious guy who is looking for a long time relationship is a good thing. There are a bunch of people looking for the same thing. DONT CHANGE YOURSELF! that's the only advice I can give you. A worthwile girl will love you for yourself. Also its possible to change yourself so much you lose who you are. When I was 12 I wouldn't have even been able to tell you my favorite colour or movie. That's how much I had changed myself for someone else. Its a horrible thing to do and I don't advise it. Love will find you. Don't worry about spending your life alone it won't happen.
GOOD LUCK! I hope the girl you find is worth you
Maybe you aren't looking for the right girls. Don't look for the girls who hang out in bars. Look for the ones who hang out in the libaries, and maybe you'll find someone you'd actually like to spend time with. Be friendly and as outgoing as you can be with the girls around you. And don't worry about having a relationship immediately. If you're looking for a long-term relationship, are you going to be ready for something like marriage in the near future, especially considering you just started medical school? My advice is to just form friendships with girls until you find the right one.
Trust me, you'll find your gal! I know what it feels like to be introverted too...and I like introverted guys too! they're very laid back, and trusting, and highly intelligent which I love! someone I would definitly date :) Don't change yourself...accept it and embrace it.
it sounds like you're repeatedly tieing yourself to one type of girl, you may not be seeing it but there is a lot of girls who would be interested in you (and after I read how you described yourself, I couldn't help but think that you were the perfect guy, lol), but try looking around more often because there is definitely girls who would love to know you. Never try changing yourself because then you are just attracting the wrong attention from the wrong girls and you really do not want that. It may also be that a lot of girls your age are at that "partying" stage of their life and will share other interests in comparison to you. you shouldn't worry because then you'll start to panic and make bad decisions. relax and take everything that comes to you with both hands.
It seems to me that you are interested in finding girls who have different/opposite interests than yours. A girl who does not enjoy outdoor activities. If you are not looking for your opposite girl than why would you go to bars and try to change yourself?
Listen, you are taking away one of a girls purpose in life, changing a man is one of them. Wait for her and let her change you. Ha! ha! ha! :)
It's been said already, but really: Don't change. You don't sound boring, you sound ideal and plenty exciting. You're still young, and not to get too cheesy, but soon enough you'll meet someone who can appreciate you in all your introversion-y goodness.
I second what someone else said about being sure to look for girls in the right places, where you're more likely to meet those that will be compatible with you. Also, maybe you need to take a look at the sorts of girls you're pursuing? If you're finding that they're not into 'guys like you', then maybe you shouldn't be looking for 'girls like them'.
Im an introverted person as well. Except I have trouble talking to people I don't know like I'm quite closed off at first. You sound like a guy most girls will go for maybe the girl of your dreams is somebody completely different to the people you are maybe looking at right now.
I would love to be in a relationship with a guy like you. If you are picking girls up in bars or at clubs, you are going to get girls that won't appreciate who you are. You have to meet the right girls at school, a coffee shop, library, bookstore, etc. That is where you will meet girls that appreciate your interests.
i have a boyfriend almost just like you. although we are only 16, wich makes people think its weird, I think its cool when guys are serious and funny and all that. I think you should stick with your personality. try going out with different girls, maybe the girls you're trying with just aren't the right kind of girls. try girls who are open and like to laugh and crazy! might help. hope you find someone! hope I helped
Dont stress man ask 20 guys what they like in women and you'll get 20 different answers, do you think its different with women? You'll be alright man and don't change yourself your the relationship will bomb becuase you will be miserable for different reasons
anyway man best of luck
“Almost everything you do will seem insignificant, but it is important that you do it”
Oh gosh, don't change at all! I love introverted guys, I love guys who are laid back, I am not so much interested in the party boy and center of attention. Oh, no need to read the relationship tips, just be confident, and be yourself entirely! Hahaha, you're totallly my type of guy! .< Oh goodness, medicine is a plus for me because we could study together wow, hahah you're like my ideal guy :P oh, and if you're shy, it's a plus! I wish you good luck :D
Don't change yourself and never do anything that you find uncomfortable. You sound plenty appealing to me and there are plenty of girls out there who find intelligent, relationship type kind of guy. Its great that your more confident when talking to women now so I would just keep doing what your doing and be social ( but not the things that are discomforting ) I understand, I'm not too much of a party person either.
well, hate to say it- but you need to be enjoying your life. You sound like you lead a full one at that. Hell, I say just be yourself (Im a little older, so I been through this)... I say you should focus on being the best man you can be... you're only 21 once. Don't waste you yung years in regret, and made-up shame about not having a chick...
As youve probably seen from all these comments I actually think a lot of girls would rather a guy like this. Me myself loves introverted guys I think your exiting I think writing and reading makes you far more interesting than someone who hangs out at a bar all the time.
Im sure you won't be stuck alone either there's lots of girls in many places whether its being in a bar or a library who will be interested :) x
first of all, don't try to change who you are, I think that maybe the problem is that girls your age aren't looking for a long-term relationship, but that doesn't mean that there aren't any girls at all who want that, I mean going to bars and clubs isn't exactly the most appealing thing in a guy, I'd like a guy who can do fun things like you mentioned. And you're smart too, that's a plus, as long as you don't come off being too nerdy it's a good thing. I hope I helped :p
Med school? When you graduate and you're making $$$$$$$ you will be a lot more desirable. Right now though your only option is to be an asshole - simply put, you can't be nice when you're younger and still get laid/have relationships with most girls out there. Yes, occasionally you'll meet one who will accept you for you but if you want to broaden your horizons start acting like an arrogant prick, and fast.
a lot of girls actually like guys like that. a girl that is who doesn't want a fling either. you may be better off becoming friends with a girl first then moving on to dating her. she'll see that you're a lot of fun to be around, she'll probably appreciate that not everything you two do will be in crowds of people. she'll like that it's more intimate. don't worry you'll be fine.
What she means is, girls like guys like that who are hot. If your'e average and below and are like that, girls will ignore you
brunohusker is exactly right.
No worries-- you will find someone lol trust me.
For ex. I am really outgoing & really talkative I have tons of friends & guys like me but I don't go for most especially the hyper ones doing al sorts of partying.. & I think introverted guys are hot ! For real I liker sort of a calming affect because I'm on, all the time :-)
Don't change. You're gonna be a doctor, with great taste in music and who have a lot of interesting things to say in any conversation and without a shady past. Dude, they're gonna be all over you in a few years ;).
I like guys who sound like you lol. Well I don't party, go to bars, I even don't drink. I'm sure you will find a girl. Just stop worrying about it. I mean, I find guys less attractive when they go to bars and stuff and get drunk.