I’ve been friendzoned. One of my good friends did it to me but I think I did it to him first. I was talking w him one night about how I feel like women can generally have sex with,(or maybe not sex but say, a blowjob or handjob), with almost any guy they set their mind to. As soon as I said that he was like “not so fast girl, that’s not me”. But we’ve had a good friendship with no undertones of sex for about 5 years. I have friends he’s slept with, one of them is not attractive really at all, but they sext sometimes. So I know he’s got interest in her for other reasons. We just have no sexual chemistry.
I have another friend, maybe one of my very best friends, and we’ve been really close for about 7 years. But I’ve always known he’s liked me, under the surface. I don’t think that counts as friendzoning, tho we’re friends only. He’s cute to me and I love him, but for some reason I would rather have our friendship as it is. I think the true test was me dating his best friend of 20 years, and we’ve remained solid friends.
I feel like it’s kind of creepy if someone can’t be really “friends” with someone of the opposite sex. It may be immaturity, I’m not sure what it means. But it says loudly to me that that person is preoccupied with sex only, and they can’t see someone for who they are aside from anything related to sex with them.
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No. Never as I don't believe in the friendzone crap. I believe that the best relationships start off as friends first and then maybe grow into a good relationship if both parties wanted that. People who care too much about that friendzone nonsense needs to seriously reevaluate how they treat their relationships with people. Friends are friends, but not every friend of the opposite is and can be your potential lover. You have to share things in common as well as share the same values, desire, etc. It's all about mindset. So don't try to date somebody who doesn't share them just because of their looks. That is the major problem. People focus too much on looks and petty things.
The friendzone is when a girl likes a guy enough to keep around, but has no romantic or sexual attraction to him.
Girls are fine with this as long as he kisses her ass and does shit for her - they like validation.
Weak guys, called beta-orbiters, will hang in there and keep doing things for her in the hopes that somehow or one day she'll change her mind and give him some sex. It's pathetic.
Guys don't really do this, their motives are generally more pure, if you want to call it that, if she's DTF he's into her. Otherwise NEXT!!
And really, why does a guy want to hang around a girl unless he's getting something out of it? To go shoe shopping? Or hang at the cosmetics counter? Seriously, guys are WAY more adventurous and fun.
Why would a guy friendzone a girl? This means he is attracted to her but decides Nah lets just keep her around as a friend.. makes no sense. If he isn't attracted to her then it is up to the girl to not want to hang around as a friend or not. He doesn't have some magical spell he puts on her. There is already a name for that it's called LEADING THE PERSON ON. Let's not get it twisted folks.
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Kind of... I went on a date with a guy and then he referred to me as "sister" in a text message. So I assumed that he wasn't interested. Later I found out he still was.
Maybe he couldn't make up his mind.Yes, I did.
Said friend didn't take it well, so she's no longer my friend.No I haven't.
Guys rarely friendzone.
They can simply not be attracted to a girl and consider her a friend.
Being considered a friend from the start is not the same as being friendzoned. Being friendzoned is putting someone otherwise at least decently attractive into the "box" of being 'just a friend' in such a way that it means if they tried to initiate something more then the confines of the box prevent them from being seen as a potential partner.
If I considered them unattractive then I could consider them a friend but that wouldn't be friendzoning.
If I considered them attractive then I can be friends with them and calling them a friend has no impact on whether I consider them attractive.
The friendzoning phenomenon occurs when a guy that is at least not unattractive to a girl acts in such a way around her that makes her categorize him as "just a friend" where if he had been more confident and direct he would have been seen more as a "suitor."
This is why it's localized to girls and why guys don't' really do it.
There's no such box that guys put girls into. Girls are either attractive or unattractive there is no behaviour that puts girls into a friend box. Your behaviour can make you more or less attractive but again that's not really about being friends, it's simply that you are or aren't attractive at any given time.
So if a guy only sees you as a friend it's because he doesn't find you very attractive (barring the plethora of circumstances that might also come up and cause that).
Whereas for girls it's *sometimes* the other way around, i. e friendzoning.
If a girl doesn't find you very attractive it's *sometimes* because she sees you as a friend.
However I don't think people will accept that. Most are too used to their own definition of friendzone and will have variation of it that is basically synonymous with simply being friends -- which would make "friendzoning" obviously pointless terminology to me, but that doesn't stop people from powering through. So who the F knows what to make of the poll results?I hate it when it happens!
Just when I begin to develop pretty little feelings, lol friend zoned like what the heck?
I know people are no psychics, I just wish they were😧its honestly frustrating when the person refuses to acknowledge you more than a mate of a platonic relationship! Usually I make it clear for the sake of friendship to guys that I ain't interested but them...
Even if I hit hard on them, they are just oblivious of how I feel.
There's only one down side to be with me, my feelings change in a week (no I'm not a player but still, its unfair on other's part)I am a girl who is permanently friend zoned with all guys! I really don't know what I'm doing wrong but guys only want me as a friend and never to date. It's a weird position to be in because I can know guys very very well and be really close with them, but I can never be romantically close with them.
So it's like a blessing and a curse in a way. I have a lot of amazing friends but because of something I am doing wrong, I will never have a boyfriend.
But yes, it does happen to girls, not just guys!I suspect very few hot or pretty women have been friendzoned by a guy. Whereas the women friendzoned were average looks or fat. I have, she was cool and I still wanted to be friends but she had a boyfriend at some point and he didn't like me. I think he knew her liking to me even though I had no interest in her. But both women I've friendzoned I didn't have sexual interest in because I didn't find them physically attractive and they did happen to be bigger girls.
I've friendzoned myself before as a way of getting my feelings out but still wanting to keep the friendship I had with that person - bit stupid and should've just not said anything. However I had a guy do the same thing to me and I think it's the best way to go about feelings if you aren't sure or don't want to ruin the friendship yet need the emotions out.
Did that, she freaked out and talked anything about that this isn't nice and equal rights but bit unlogical... years after, everytime I catch her looking flirty at me she acts distant and bit angry...(she friendzoned 9 of 10 guys who liked her, but thats something only woman can do according to her)
Yes he friend zoned me even though he told me he knew I was a good fit because he was still in love with his ex. She cheated on him a lo. Then he told me he was over her, that he was ready to give me a fair shot. Things were looking good for us then she decided she wanted him back and he started seeing her behind my back and next thing I knew they were back together. They’re married now, hope it lasts cause I feel it doesn’t I’m out.
A guy I liked friendzone me because he was 28 and I was 14. He lived next door and I would always flirt with him, change with my curtains open, wear a bikini and shorts on hot days, smile at him, wave at him, I sent him nude selfies, and videos of me masturbating. I broke out of the friendzone as he eventually cracked when I sneaked into his home when his and my parents were away.
Yes, girls get friendzoned all the time. Guys tend to focus on being friendzoned by top 10% girls and forget about the other 90% girls who don't look like models and can't just choose whatever guy they want.
Yep it was actually a girl that had dumped me in high school, she tried to get with me in college when she’s wasn’t as pretty but id just always shut it down, she was downright mad when I’d call her just a friend and give her those ass sticking out friendzone hugs that girls give guys 😂
I was first friendzoned by the boy I liked... 1 year later I got asked out, then the year and 6 months later we are still together :)))
Only the friends that were with somebody already. I don't dig cheaters 😒 and I guess a few that I really wanted to like romantically but could never get my self to be sexually attracted to😭
I friendzoned two girls in my life. Both were good friends and I did not wanted to ruin that friendship. Some year after I actually kissed one of them. It was just a kiss don't know if that actually got her out of the friendzone or not xD
Yeah, I kept going after shy guys who had trouble socializing. Don’t know why I was so attracted to that... smh
I do friendzoning girls a couple of times. I just feel that I don't wanna be involved in any relationship anymore. Even for now, it's falling apart. Long distance relationships, again, suck. :)
Yes, my (now) boyfriend did in the past. He changed his mind about half a year later though 😅 therefore I'm not sure if it counts.
I remember now that I clearly did. I friendzoned a girl in high school, and my 'friends' started teasing her about it. I felt really bad so I confronted them about it
Of course, I have friendzoned a woman. I am sure most guys here have.
They just don't think of it in those terms.
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