Can these just be signs of close friendship and not necessarily romantic chemistry between 2 shy people?

Question

- prolonged eye contact with each other
- whole body facing each other for example when waiting for a train at the station
- sometimes nervous around each other but still want to be around each other
- being close to each other’s faces
- prolonged goodbyes - always standing facing each other and wishing each other a good rest of the week etc
- meeting alone before going to group events (they always have an excuse for why - for example, they wanted to go to restaurant early to guarantee a good table for the group)
- they follow each other around and always wait for each other (for example if in a group and they go to the bar together, they’ll wait for each other at the bar before coming back)

Yes it could be close friendship

No this is much more likely to be romantic chemistry

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Answer 1

Pennypolish

Yoda

Ouuu this could go either way. Here is how you can tell... start texting outside of where you see them. Do you both randomly text one another? If so, thats another good sign.

Only issue I see is you both never making a move because of being shy. But someone will need to. I suggest giving them compliments and moving a bit move towards showing your intrest. If you dont- someone else will.

Asker

1 mo
She rarely texts me first. Is that a bad sign?
Pennypolish

1 mo
Not a bad sign. Does she keep convo going though? Does she chat back with you when you do talk? If so. Great signs. If it’s one word replies with not asking you follow ups- bad sign
Asker

1 mo
Follow ups yes, and she’ll always reply. Although not long replies generally.
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Pennypolish

1 mo
I say make a move... even if its a small one.
Asker

1 mo
Well I generally always recently make prolonged eye contact with her whilst talking and she’ll make prolonged eye contact back. Last time we were about 6 inches away from each other’s faces on the train. If we’re waiting for a train, if I stand face on and close to her, she won’t necessarily look me in the eyes if we’re not talking but she’ll face me on and won’t move away.
Pennypolish

1 mo
So ask her out. Say "lets go grab dinner" or coffee. Make a move ---
Asker

1 mo
We have been for a coffee twice and 2 museums.
Pennypolish

1 mo
Dude. Why don't you make things more official!!! lol She is prob wondering what ur waiting for?
Asker

1 mo
I doubt it. We’ve been friends for a long time and I only got feelings recently. This is the complication. Also we’ve never even held hands before. Bad sign isn’t it?
Pennypolish

1 mo
No. Friends dont hold hands. Have you tried to hold her hand?
Look- if you like her, you have to TELL HER. If she doesn't feel the same---cool---move along. But if you keep overthinking each detail and try to talk yourself out of telling her how you feel, you will NEVER have a shot.
Asker

1 mo
I haven’t tried to hold her hand. We only started doing stuff 1 on 1 recently.
Pennypolish

1 mo
Then don't ask if its a bad sign lol If she rejected your hand that would be bad. Look, I'll say it again and again, you have to own up to ur feels. NOW. Don't keep waiting or she will slip away.
Asker

1 mo
Well it’s just that whenever I’ve asked in this kind of situation in the past, I’ve always been rejected without fail.
Pennypolish

1 mo
That’s life. You will ask 100 and maybe only get one yes. But that one he’s could be the best relationship of your life.
Asker

1 mo
It’s humiliating and lowers my self esteem every time. I start thinking why would this girl be any different and why would she say yes.
Pennypolish

1 mo
Well you will continue to be single.
Good luck

Answer 2

Asker

She rarely texts me first. Is that a bad sign?

Answer 3

Pennypolish

Not a bad sign. Does she keep convo going though? Does she chat back with you when you do talk? If so. Great signs. If it’s one word replies with not asking you follow ups- bad sign

Answer 4

Asker

Follow ups yes, and she’ll always reply. Although not long replies generally.

Answer 5

Pennypolish

I say make a move... even if its a small one.

Answer 6

Asker

Well I generally always recently make prolonged eye contact with her whilst talking and she’ll make prolonged eye contact back. Last time we were about 6 inches away from each other’s faces on the train. If we’re waiting for a train, if I stand face on and close to her, she won’t necessarily look me in the eyes if we’re not talking but she’ll face me on and won’t move away.

Answer 7

Pennypolish

So ask her out. Say "lets go grab dinner" or coffee. Make a move ---

Answer 8

Asker

We have been for a coffee twice and 2 museums.

Answer 9

Pennypolish

Dude. Why don't you make things more official!!! lol She is prob wondering what ur waiting for?

Answer 10

Asker

I doubt it. We’ve been friends for a long time and I only got feelings recently. This is the complication. Also we’ve never even held hands before. Bad sign isn’t it?

Answer 11

Pennypolish

No. Friends dont hold hands. Have you tried to hold her hand?
Look- if you like her, you have to TELL HER. If she doesn't feel the same---cool---move along. But if you keep overthinking each detail and try to talk yourself out of telling her how you feel, you will NEVER have a shot.

Answer 12

Asker

I haven’t tried to hold her hand. We only started doing stuff 1 on 1 recently.

Answer 13

Pennypolish

Then don't ask if its a bad sign lol If she rejected your hand that would be bad. Look, I'll say it again and again, you have to own up to ur feels. NOW. Don't keep waiting or she will slip away.

Answer 14

Asker

Well it’s just that whenever I’ve asked in this kind of situation in the past, I’ve always been rejected without fail.

Answer 15

Pennypolish

That’s life. You will ask 100 and maybe only get one yes. But that one he’s could be the best relationship of your life.

Answer 16

Asker

It’s humiliating and lowers my self esteem every time. I start thinking why would this girl be any different and why would she say yes.

Answer 17

Pennypolish

Well you will continue to be single.
Good luck

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