How do I stop asking too much questions?

Question

When im talking to a girl i tend to ask a lot of questions i think its weird and clingy. i can't keep a convo going for a long time.

Answer 1

Vviiccttoorr

Xper 4

If you’re naturally like that then just find a girl who appreciates that because you want to be with someone who likes you for you. However If you do believe that you’re too overbearing with asking questions and it’s affecting having a relationship then consider that you’re 16 and you’re probs nervous. Asking a girl questions is good Though because, it shows that you aren’t selfish and that you care more about what she says. Honestly what exactly do you mean by “asking too many questions” though? If you could give some examples then I believe my advise could be more useful.

vrothergotsplugs

1 mo
i can't keep a convo going for a long time so i tend to ask question after questions and i think its weird but she hasn't told me yet I don't know.
Vviiccttoorr

1 mo
If I were you I would try practicing with a buddy or pick an interesting topic to talk about (something where there is much to talk about) like maybe something you both like. if you ask a question, try to pick something where she can go off about it and you can just listen. Also if a girl tells you stuff it’s good to respond with basic stuff like “yeah” and “me too” as an examples. Also though when you’re talking make sure to repeat something she says. For example if she’s talking a lot about her trip to Florida and she says something like “the service was great” you should say something like “oh the service? Sounds like a good place” make sure to (on occasion) do this though. All of this shows that you’re listening to everything she is saying and that it’s not just going on through one ear and out of the other. However, it could possibly be that she is the issue and not you, if you ask questions and she keeps not giving a decent response then she’s either not interested or she’s stuck up or something. try to just remain calm when you’re talking and just know that there are so many amazing girls out there and that you don’t need them as much as you might think and the matter of the fact is that they should need you; a genuinely good guy who wants to improve on himself in certain ways. That shows humbleness and character. Remain chill when you talk and if someone doesn’t show interest then just end the convo there and do something else. You can even end it like “anyway great talking to you”. It shows that you don’t need them and that you’re the one doing them a favor by talking to them cause you’re cool and they should appreciate that.
Vviiccttoorr

1 mo
Also maybe it’s a good thing to just have a quick convo so that you don’t look needy, you could also be the one to end it. Make it a mission to ask only 2 questions at most and try to make them ones that can be long and then say nice talking to you I’ll catch you later or something

Answer 2

vrothergotsplugs

i can't keep a convo going for a long time so i tend to ask question after questions and i think its weird but she hasn't told me yet I don't know.

Answer 3

Vviiccttoorr

If I were you I would try practicing with a buddy or pick an interesting topic to talk about (something where there is much to talk about) like maybe something you both like. if you ask a question, try to pick something where she can go off about it and you can just listen. Also if a girl tells you stuff it’s good to respond with basic stuff like “yeah” and “me too” as an examples. Also though when you’re talking make sure to repeat something she says. For example if she’s talking a lot about her trip to Florida and she says something like “the service was great” you should say something like “oh the service? Sounds like a good place” make sure to (on occasion) do this though. All of this shows that you’re listening to everything she is saying and that it’s not just going on through one ear and out of the other. However, it could possibly be that she is the issue and not you, if you ask questions and she keeps not giving a decent response then she’s either not interested or she’s stuck up or something. try to just remain calm when you’re talking and just know that there are so many amazing girls out there and that you don’t need them as much as you might think and the matter of the fact is that they should need you; a genuinely good guy who wants to improve on himself in certain ways. That shows humbleness and character. Remain chill when you talk and if someone doesn’t show interest then just end the convo there and do something else. You can even end it like “anyway great talking to you”. It shows that you don’t need them and that you’re the one doing them a favor by talking to them cause you’re cool and they should appreciate that.

Answer 4

Vviiccttoorr

Also maybe it’s a good thing to just have a quick convo so that you don’t look needy, you could also be the one to end it. Make it a mission to ask only 2 questions at most and try to make them ones that can be long and then say nice talking to you I’ll catch you later or something

Answer 5

btbc92 | 294 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Master

You're supposed to ask questions. It's not clingy at all. If they feel that is kind of clingy than you're talking to the wrong kind of person. You're not there to impress them. They're to be yourself. If you're concerned about something then just be honest. Honesty is better than to be lying and trying to pretending and then you want to know why you have problems connecting with people. At the end of the day you're not going to connect with everybody. If you feel like you're asking too many questions then how about you spread it out and learn to listen more? Having better listening skills as important as being able to ask the questions that you want to know.

Answer 6

Licia_hersheys

Xper 4

It seems like u get really nervous, which is ok but u have to learn how to control it. For example (because I get nervous too) just a take a deep breath and come to the realization that they’re a person just like u so u shouldn’t have to act a little strange around them. Also, it’s important to ask questions... I ask a lot of questions u won’t know unless u ask right.;)

Answer 7

novaredphoenix

Xper 4

There are books on the topic but your young so its understandable. Here are a few starters , your probably nervous about silence. Most human beings are and fill dead space , be comfortable with breif pauses is a good way to start. Second pointer , if you fire off questions haphazard can cause pitfalls. Ask open ended general questions and pay attention to what is said. I learned from behavioral videos. If you listen to a person they will give you talking points think of these topics as threads pull them slowly and ask open questions while paying attention. Practice this first then study up some other things. Good luck.

Answer 8

DavidFox

Explorer

Learn to tell stories. It wasn’t obvious to me initially, but girls enjoy listening to a good story because they can connect to the emotions and feel your passion. So while questions are important in conversations, take your time and tell her some stories. You will find out that helps balance the conversation and she will be more willing to share.

DavidFox

1 mo
And obviously I mean in person. You should limit online conversations and texting because the whole idea is meeting irl and connecting in person

Answer 9

DavidFox

And obviously I mean in person. You should limit online conversations and texting because the whole idea is meeting irl and connecting in person

Answer 10

Avicenna | 1.1K opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Master

Just practice to figure out what works for you

vrothergotsplugs

1 mo
how do i practice?
Avicenna

1 mo
By talking to more women. You can’t script this, it has to flow naturally

Answer 11

vrothergotsplugs

how do i practice?

Answer 12

Avicenna

By talking to more women. You can’t script this, it has to flow naturally

Answer 13

Iron_Man | 2K opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Master

Just stop doing that catch yourself

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