Why do so many people assume that if a man is messaging you on social media then he is either looking to date or to have sex?

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pigoat | 106 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Guru

So what's the other option friends?

Someone to talk to?

There is a friend section on bumble that i tried and there are a lot of friendly guys on their i talked to some

Never ever come across a friendly girl conversation

Might be the fact of your question

If a man talks to a girl online he's looking for more than friends unless he's gay or something

Answer 2

Unit1 | 171 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Master

You can thank the blues for it, who kept saying that "men and women cannot be friends" BS.

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Unit1

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Answer 4

ririissleepy

Xper 5

Well because it os mostly that way. After only 3 messages they ask for nudes, want ro know intimate details or just send dirty stuff...

So if 9/10 boys are like that... one can quickly assume so

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1 mo
I do not understand why people do this. I messaged you but I did not ask for nudes or anything like that, and I do not understand what getting one nude from a stranger on the internet is even supposed to achieve.

I'd really like to see those messages where men started asking you for nudes after 3 or more messages, I want to see it to solidify in my mind that this happens to women often.
ririissleepy

1 mo
I know we texted back and forth for a bit ^^ it was nice.
ririissleepy

1 mo
On here there are actually some guys who are just curious about things that dont feel like they can ask openly and would rather ask a woman privately. On instagram however there are only guys who are interested in sexual exchanges. Since I can't post the examples here check your DMs. I found some English ones. Since I am german most of the guys that text me text me in german.
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Asker

1 mo
I know all about instagram. A lot of thirsty men there, honestly. They could just send a decent message, that would increase their chances to get a decent reply.

Answer 5

Asker

I do not understand why people do this. I messaged you but I did not ask for nudes or anything like that, and I do not understand what getting one nude from a stranger on the internet is even supposed to achieve.

I'd really like to see those messages where men started asking you for nudes after 3 or more messages, I want to see it to solidify in my mind that this happens to women often.

Answer 6

ririissleepy

I know we texted back and forth for a bit ^^ it was nice.

Answer 7

ririissleepy

On here there are actually some guys who are just curious about things that dont feel like they can ask openly and would rather ask a woman privately. On instagram however there are only guys who are interested in sexual exchanges. Since I can't post the examples here check your DMs. I found some English ones. Since I am german most of the guys that text me text me in german.

Answer 8

Asker

I know all about instagram. A lot of thirsty men there, honestly. They could just send a decent message, that would increase their chances to get a decent reply.

Answer 9

Smoke-n-Growls

Yoda

Because in a majority of cases, if a man messages a woman unprompted, the reason is sex.

Especially if they open with just "hey".

Answer 10

aWes0MeNeSs | 72 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Influencer

Unfortunately, probably because there are a lot of guys who do that.

I think it happens with girls messaging guys to a point, as well. I had a former friend (not a super close one, but someone I talked to on a daily basis and got along with pretty well) that I hadn't seen in ages, saw him on social media and shot him a message to ask how he was doing, and he blocked me, which was pretty surprising. My best guess is that he was thinking I was hitting on him (which I absolutely was not, just wanted to see how he was doing these days), had a jealous girlfriend who was suspicious of me, or possibly thought I was trying to sell him MLM crap (despite having never been involved in one, but I know people tend to suspect that when hearing from someone after many years), lol.