Ladies, do you understand what a pick up artist really teaches men?

Question

So females are attracted to men through a process called "mate copying". It's where if another women shows interest in a man, other females will see the man as a prize. Women dont understand that they choose men by his reputation/how others perceive him and not his merit. A pickup artist teaches behavioral actions that give off the vibe that the man is more popular with women than he really is to increase the what is flawed primitive female attraction. Examples include:
a) teaching men to play hard to get which signals to a women subconsciously the man has more power to choose.
B ) qualifying women which means he asks difficult questions to the girl and makes the girl prove why she should be his girlfriend which signals he can be selective because he has the power to choose.
C) negging which is a technique where you give both and insult and a compliment. The compliment is to let the girl know you still are keen, the insult is to let the girl know "she has to prove herself to the guy". Its aim is to create hope but not hand at the same time a relationship to the women on a gold plate.

The process of the man appearing like he can choose creates attraction since women whether they understand it or not enjoy being choosen by the man.

Answer 1

Barbaric

Explorer

Women will never understand any of this.

Most people when they try to explain what they're attracted to and why, whether to other people or to themselves, backwards rationalise their behaviour. Women especially. Rationalisation occurs in the pre-frontal cortex, the part of the brain which deals with conscious thought.

Attraction comes mostly from the reptilian brain, which deals with instinctive behaviours. As well as coming partially from the limbic brain, which deals with subconscious thoughts and emotions.

Most often there's a disconnect between the reptilian and limbic part of the brain, with the prefrontal cortex. A disconnect between instincts and emotions with logical thought.

We don't choose what we're attracted to, and often because of this disconnect our backwards-rationalisations are wrong.

That's where behavioural and evolutionary psychology come in, because they're based on studies of behaviour, both in the modern world and throughout our evolutionary history.

Those studies, and women's instincts, will fit in with all you just said here. Any man who has studied pick-up, understands the how and why, will have seen it first-hand. Women will still argue until they're blue in the face that it's not real.

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Answer 2

purplepoppy | 119 opinions shared on Flirting topic.

Master

The correct term is fisarian runaway selection and is well documented in nature. The problem however is you actually need to be good looking to start with. Simply acting like your gods gift to women when your clearly not isn't going to work. We can also easily tell when a guys following some advicebook, it always comes across forced and artificial.

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ChrisG30

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See women are not good at picking up if a guy is faking this anyway. My dating coach who was a pick up artist was telling stories about how he has dated many women (which I believe because I have personally seen his success out), and most women dont even know what he does for a living. He says that most women enjoy the emotional rollercoaster of winning the guy over. He essentially could be a bum earning no income and still get women because the women he dates know nothing about him. One girl he was dating apparently asked him 6 months later what he did for a living, pretty funny actually. I was laughing because imagine when he is 40 years old and married and he has to do "a night on the job teaching men how to pick up women in a nightclub" while his wife and children are at home. It's also his only job after leaving school so good luck to him starting a business In another area of his life the day he does get married. I thought that was a fine example of how poor womens choice in men are.

Answer 3

ChrisG30

See women are not good at picking up if a guy is faking this anyway. My dating coach who was a pick up artist was telling stories about how he has dated many women (which I believe because I have personally seen his success out), and most women dont even know what he does for a living. He says that most women enjoy the emotional rollercoaster of winning the guy over. He essentially could be a bum earning no income and still get women because the women he dates know nothing about him. One girl he was dating apparently asked him 6 months later what he did for a living, pretty funny actually. I was laughing because imagine when he is 40 years old and married and he has to do "a night on the job teaching men how to pick up women in a nightclub" while his wife and children are at home. It's also his only job after leaving school so good luck to him starting a business In another area of his life the day he does get married. I thought that was a fine example of how poor womens choice in men are.

Answer 4

thrombis

Xper 5

I always called that being a dick.

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ChrisG30

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I'm the disrupter of the system. Even though pick up artist teach scientifically correct views, I don't support it. But I do enjoy destroying the evolutionary process which is flawed because pick up allows you to exploit it anyway.
ChrisG30

1 y
See pick up is right, if you can create an environment where every girl thinks you can have any women you want, then you'll be able to have any women (most anyway) you want regardless of your merits or your looks.

Women choose men on their perception that you can have your choice in other women.

Answer 5

ChrisG30

I'm the disrupter of the system. Even though pick up artist teach scientifically correct views, I don't support it. But I do enjoy destroying the evolutionary process which is flawed because pick up allows you to exploit it anyway.

Answer 6

ChrisG30

See pick up is right, if you can create an environment where every girl thinks you can have any women you want, then you'll be able to have any women (most anyway) you want regardless of your merits or your looks.

Women choose men on their perception that you can have your choice in other women.

Ladies, do you understand what a pick up artist really teaches men?

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