What happened to guys saying a simple "hey"?

[errorgoodnameunfound]

OK 1. You won't enjoy at least 60% of responses to this question near guaranteed so I hope you are not offended easily.

2. As many guys here will likely point out, it's not gals like you, but gals unlike you that guys fear. I'll explain in song in which the artist had much unfortunate irony a few months back. Made in the 90s, but VERY relevant. I'd pay attention to the comment section to the vid too.https://www.youtube.com/embed/IOaFh-yJk_k3. To explain more specifically, as the video points out, there are a SHIT TON of risks of interacting with gals. Will in the vid wasn't bad at all. But the issues he pointed out, especially the first (false harrassment, rape, etc claims) have very real implications. Today, guys VERY rarely have the luck like Will of girls going after them, as with Tinder and such, why would they bother? They have guys for miles around with surely at least a few willing to go for them, even out of the way You yourself even used that cliche "I like long walks on the beach" typical tinder bio, so you seem to see this quite clearly.

The truth though is that it's a trade off. You have far more options than the average guy (guys are 10x more likely to get rejected, just stats), but so much quantity doesn't equal quality. Guys that get on those apps usually want to pump and dump. Nothing more. So if you want a guy of quality as Hopsin says here, "be patient" and don't rush for it. Guys do it all the time no sweat, so can you.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/wlb-HWpDDx0

[ItsTheNephilim]

Last time I checked, it was 'hey', 'hi' or 'hello' that came off as undesirable conversation starters and made guys look boring. Getting straight to point works. Even in the case of sending dick pics. Because even if the guy starting with a 'hey' has in his mind that he'll send dick pics, he'll eventually.

[InferiorElegy]

My experience and everything I've learned from dating sites and a female mens dating coach is females don't like simple introductory words such as "hey" "hello" "hi" "how's it going" etc although most females also don't want dick pics and it still astounds me that guys do this. However females have killed the intro messages that are "hi" or "hellos" because they want something more and even then if a guy puts effort into his messages there's a high percent it goes to waste and then he has to think of something to say to another girl and make it seem interesting and yet still a high percent that even that girl will have wasted his effort because all they do is leave on read or delete without reading. I used to say hey but was told lots not to do that and then I put effort in and honestly trying to date sucks and I wish I could get all my time and money spent on that shit.

[Anonymous]

Women have said, even here on GaG, that a simple greeting is boring. As a matter of fact, there's been a laundry list of things men do that are distasteful to women. Men SHOULD have simply walked away from the dating app trend (the smart ones have) after realizing that it turned into just another means for women to entertain themselves by enjoying the endless supply of male attention and criticizing them for it.

All that's left on dating apps is men using it as entertainment by sending dick pics and sexual comments, and women using it for nacissistic supply. You're a pretty woman. Get out into the real world and meet real people.

[Anonymous]

I am also like you it's awful. Since I embraced myself as a CASANOVA. All I see is galleries of pussy pics in my phone. It's awful. I live in Latvia where there so many single women. Marriages are rare like diamonds. I have many women texting me all day. I have 6 sisters who are single. My mom is saying I should marry my sisters which is disgusting. I want women to challenge me not easy to fuck women who compliment me daily.

[thrombis]

Books n stuff? Whoa! Lol. I made a joke about sitting in a coffee shop reading a newspaper... Like a psychopath!. The millenila agreed that it was a creepy thing to do. What an idiot! Appearantly the art of pausing and reading while drinking coffee was lost in her. Either that or she didn't know what a newspaper is. Haha.

[chHaynes]

I'm right here decent guy is right here you're talking to him right now I say hi or hey but I may be a little shy so don't hold it against me I'm a decent guy but you're going to overlook me based on how I look and that shame on you shame on you epically

[MrSkin]

Hey. Well I can’t answer that sorry. I do know there are a lot of weird disturbed people out there and from what I have reason GAG. It would seem that a lot of them frequent this site. Just delete and block them. No reason for anyone to behave like that. There is a time and place and that isn’t it

[IAMNathanael]

I ain't gonna say hi, hello or anything like that

What's really on my mind is... Lol

[OmNomaly]

Sounds like you're hanging out in toxic area's. Whether it's online or in person.
I myself have just gotten to a point where I had to set my phone so I wouldn't receive anything from anyone that wasn't in my contact list. Then set all of my site settings so that noone can contact me unless they are a friend.
Otherwise I end up getting unsolicited pics. Yes. I have had unsolicited pictures from women. It comes across as desperate and sad..

[Lynx122]

You don't stand out if you say hey you have to say something witty or most girls are bored already. That's how online dating works. I'm glad I stay away from it.

[cth96190]

Women said that 'hi' was sexual harassment.
Women said that they were irritated when males tried to talk to them.
Males grew tired of being ignored, or called creeps or freaks when they tried to talk to females.
After a while, every man gets the message and walks away.

[The_Sal]

it'll help if you ladies put your interest in your profiles. I know shyness Is cute and all but having that can give us a good stsrting convo line.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I agree with you guys should not be sending penis pics to girls I can say I never did that stuff I agree guys should respect girls more then what they do

[Anonymous]

To most girls “hey” is boring because any normal, sane guy is gonna approach then and say “hey”. That’s what you do. You say “hi” or “hey”

But a lot of girls want to be entertained, and life is like a meme to them so only the “dankest memes apply.” That’s what it’s like. You’re doomed from the start with most women anymore, so most guys don’t even try. We noticed the behavioral trend and got sick of it.

[DrunkAss]

What's the point of taking long walks on a beach? I never really got that one. I get sand in my shoes. Seems more fun to swim in the ocean. Well, I'd say hey to you. Hey. What's up? You like chatty types? I'm chatty. I might irritate you instead.

[perfectchaos]

Hi, is this on dating sites or actual people you know?

[Anonymous]

The MeToo movement, many guys dont want anything to do with women because of the false claims you will make against us.

[Anonymous]

Nah, that's what creeps do now.

Don't say hi, don't make eye contact. Look forward, stay in your lane, walk with purpose to your next destination, don't speak to women unless spoken to and then keep head down and answers simple and to the point, then depart.

[chriscdi]

hey is just to simple i prefer starting with a convo starter

[OddBeMe]

I think it comes from a variety of things.
1) lack of sex education early in life
2) pressure to ask girls out

[TheFlak38]

Guys will be as verbal as women with their one-word answers are.