i was with my ex-boyfriend for several years - and we were very much in love. I thought he was going to be the love of my life...but he couldn't make up his mind up about marriage and kids and it started to cause fights and other issues. so I broke up with him very recently. now he says he wants to be friends and that it hurts him that I don't. I still love him and want to move on. and I broke up with him...why is he trying to be my friend? it's unrealistic to just turn off feelings and become friends.