Giving a blowjob to a friend?

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I am 24. Virgin - waiting for the one. I had been wanting to have sex and get over with it, but just want to do it with a guy that I have feelings for, not with just any guy. I have known this guy for about 2 years, we are friends, but not too long ago, I started having feelings for him, and one day we were talking and the sex conversation came up. He started asking me about positions I like, etc. He does not know I am a virgin. While on the conversation, he told me that he wanted me to give him oral sex - that's it. And then I say, that I am not a one night stand girl, he said he knows, but he just want to make something happen with me. I don't really know if he meant just sex or a relationship with me. Anyways, I feel like I want to because I like him, but I just don't know if he feels the same for me. I know it's just oral sex, but I haven't even done the other thing so then how can I do the blow job? I just don't want him to think of me that way.... however, if I were in a relationship with him, I would, but not with someone I don't have a relationship with, not as a friend. Do you guys think he is at least interested in me? I know he tried to date me before when we met, but unfortunately, there were obstacles.  But now there is none, but he just came out with the oral sex thing and that he wanted to make something happen with me but did not say directly a relationship... I am confused.... help! I want to do it, but the only thing that stops me is that I don't want him to think of me that way - it's just weird because any guy who knows me as a friend would know that I am not that kind of girl - like a one night stand girl. and would not even suggest it ... I guess not him, or he got too comfortable with me that he felt he could just ask me. By the way, we flirt a lot on the phone either talking or text message..

tammyjean80 · Accepted Answer

I'm not really providing an answer for you, but I feel like it's me writing the question. Only for me, it's this guy that I really don't know all that well. He just brought it up the other day. He's my cousin's ex-boyfriend. But the more major problem with him is that he has a girlfriend who lives two hours away and he just asked me to help him out since he doesn't see her that often. He's not looking for a relationship from me. I think if he didn't have a girlfriend, it wouldn't bother me quite so much. But I'm like you, a virgin and not sure what to do. He says all he needs is for me to give him head.

So I don't know. I think I'm gonna go post my own question about it. I think I'll get pretty much the same answers you got.

darwinluver · Accepted Answer

It just sounds like this guy only wants to do sexual things with you.  If he really cared about you and wanted a relationship, he wouldn't bring up oral sex.  If you have never done this before, you must decide if he is really worth it.  Since you have waited this long, I don't think you are the type to do things without it meaning something.  Do you want to do this and have the guy leave you? Or do you want to be in a monogamous relationship with someone, and then get sexual? If the guy hasn't brought up getting into a relationship with you, then he just wants sex.  Guys can easily separate sex and really caring about someone, girls have a harder time with this.  Only you can decide if he is really worth it.

calgirl · Accepted Answer

As a girl who has similar values, but is not caught up with the emotions you have for this guy, I would say don't do it. Believe it or not right now, you will get over this guy, and then you will wonder why you compromised yourself for a guy who, at the very least, knows the type of person you are and would still ask this of you. If he wanted to make something happen I feel like that should be pursuing a relationship, not asking you to give him oral sex.

Also remember to think of how you will feel after.

Seriously though, I know what your situation is like because I find myself in a similar one :)

DeanW · Accepted Answer

Sounds like a bad idea to me. You will never have trouble finding a guy to perform oral sex on. That's easy for a girl to do. But if he is asking for this outside of a relationship then it's trouble. You can always use Cosmo's list of the 10 ways to get/keep a guy, but if you have to compromise yourself in the process, what have you gained?

Don't take it personally if his only interest is sex. Seems like a lot of guys are wired that way, regardless of the worth of the girl herself.

f15x28 · Accepted Answer

It sounds that neither of you are sure of what you are doing, nor what you want. If you are "waiting for the one" (I support you on this), it should be the other way round: both of you should be very certain that you want each other, and should have no doubts in your minds. A good rule of thumb: in case of doubt, just wait. I'm not saying this guy is not the one for you. It just seems to me that you still have a lot of figuring out to do. Hope this helps...

Stonez · Answer

It's just a blowjob just blow him off.

wonderingwhy · Answer

"Anyways, I feel like I want to because I like him, but I just don't know if he feels the same for me. I know it's just oral sex, but I haven't even done the other thing so then how can I do the blow job? I just don't want him to think of me that way. however, if I were in a relationship with him, I would, but not with someone I don't have a relationship with, not as a friend."

Right here, I think you just answered your own question. If you don't believe in having any form of sex with someone who you are not in a romantic relationship with, i.e. A FRIEND, then why would you? Even oral. If that's all he wants from you, what makes you think he actually 'likes' you?

CrazyAce · Answer

Poor guy.. lol

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