He's with someone else :(

[Snow123]

I'm sorry to hear that, I know how it feels so I can understand how tough it is. You're broken up but it's not like you two exist completely separate of each other, there's still leftover feelings and trickle-downs of past memories, etc. that sort of thing.

When I was in your situation I remember it being hard and feeling really torn because I had wanted to move forward and "forget" about him so to speak, but a part of me wanted to hold on to something that didn't exist anymore. And finding some way to cope with that and productively continue to live my life seemed really hard, and at times impossible. But just know that it is possible and that no matter how long it takes, you will get past it. I would suggest that if you find yourself reminiscing or ruminating about your previous relationship with him that you look at your memories fondly, but accept that that was the past and not the present, and try to find comfort knowing that there's a future ahead of you that likely involves someone just as great if not better. Someone who will really get "you" and what you're all about.

And remind yourself that just because your ex is now in a relationship with someone else does in no way guarantee that they'll work out, or that he's even happy or will be happy in the future with her. He's simply in a relationship at the time. That's it. There's no grandeur statements of love or lifelong happiness or anything like that emanating from him. You just need to find a new path that is not dependent on the one that he's currently on. I'm sure you're a wonderful person with lots to offer the world so please know that it'll work out. Eventually, things with you will work out. Your happiness and sense of fulfillment is not dependent on him, just as it's not dependent on his being in a relationship or not with another girl.

I'd suggest doing things that make you feel good or help you engage with the world, like volunteering (if you have the time), or - the one that really helped me out when I was feeling down in that situation - running. Something active or just gets your body going and your mind focused on other parts and aspects of your life. Maybe even just treat yourself to a "me" day and get all dolled up, go shopping, and hit a restaurant with a few friends later on.. just anything that makes you feel good and like you're putting your best foot forward in the world. I'd also suggest dessert lol, lots of dessert. Cheesecake is particularly awesome in my opinion haha.

Anyhow, I hope you feel better :) And hey, if you need a day or two to just kind of mope around and listen to music that you feel relates to you, then there's nothing wrong with that either! :)

[heartmedic]

"you were awesome before, and you are awesome now, and you'll be even awesome-er later with a better guy. If he couldn't see your awesome-ness, then he's just not as awesome as you thought" someone told that to me and I thought about it, made me laugh, but still rung true.

[Anonymous]

Telling you that you just need time is not going to help because you already know that. What I do when I feel like that is I look forward to that time when I will feel better. It's weird but works for me.

[wilbur12]

This happens to a lot of women, you aren't alone. Keep your head up. Make a lot of friends because guess what...in every opposite gender friendship, there is always one of you that will like the other more. You are 25-29, not 59-85. you are in your prime. it hurts and I know but time will heal your wounds. Just reset your priorities in life. go out and meet people in school or wherever and watch how fast you will meet another "lovebug" lol. keep your head up

[nvestan]

I am in the same position at the moment. 3 weeks ago my ex while a break up told me that she is getting married to another guy. Sometimes I feel guilty, lost, angry, caring about her. But focusing on what making me feel good makes me feel better, temporarily, But focusing on my passions helps. Hope we will get over it.

[martyfellow]

That will make it easier for you to move on. Take it as a sign that now it's final, and you don't have to feel guilty about looking for someone new!

[ZenQueen]

this feeling will pass, you have to get over him and get the idea that you will every be back together out of your head.

[KERMlT]

Ice cream from the carton?

Who cares that he is with someone else? Why not be happy for him? If he can find someone else, so can you.

[TaffyTongue123]

Ur probadly still sexy, so you might as well go out on the town.

Come on, you deserve it.

[Anonymous]

I know how that feels :(