The reason is because girls who seem to come off too strong can be labeled as sluts and so if we flirt with guys we may get that stigma attached to us. What is better if the guy takes the lead, in that way we can do as he says because we like him and it's not because we are a slut or anything like that.
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Well, that's not me I try to let guys know how I feel but not exactly tell them but anyways to answer your question their scared that they'll reject them but doesn't make sense because if you never try then, you'll never have a chance of getting them.
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it's built on a princess mentality. they feel themselves the center of the universe when dealing with men. do find someone better for your sake. unless you like to deal with this kind of behavior. I deem this ugly behavior and I say" no" to it!
Because mate, they don't have too. Their philosophy is if you like them enough, you'll make it happen. Ironically, it does not work both ways. I guess by their definition, they must not like you enough.
i don't think it's stupid at all. A LOT of men are only interested in sex from a woman, and when she shows interest, he knows he has that chance with her. It's not about being self conscious, it's about being taken advantage of when you're being genuine
Excuse me, but who are you to tell me that this reason is invalid? There ARE girls out there who don't approach because they're too shy. JUST like how some guys are afraid to. Your little accusation doesn't make sense. Come back later when you have a better response because that one is so ridiculous, I'm not even sure where to start.
As for me, I'm afraid to ask someone out. I would like it if the guy asks me out first. If I initiate talks too much, then I think that I'm a bother to him, so I pull back sometimes.
I think the same thing before talking to a girl, I always feel like if I talk to a girl I am just going to annoy her by talking. also on another note, that spoink pic is adorable, its so cute.
this is true. It's because we get judged on our looks way more than guys do so we always have to be presentable and do or say the right things. If we don't, we can easily be labeled as something negative (slutty comes to mind).
Because she is not really into him... In my experiences if she wants him she will go on the attack if she is not shy. When she attacks watch out... You may end up getting a wife or girlfriend lol.
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because our society, culture, made it that tradition, social-norm, status quo, and same reason why girls don't initiate, because we fear, hate rejection too, so we use the status quo to our advantage.
Because the girls that show all their affection become the "stalker exes"
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Girls like guys to make the first move. We're a lot more shy typically. If you want to know if she likes you, I say straight up ask her. Then there's no confusion at all.
Because rejection is one of the most mentally painful things in the world.
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I've done that a couple of times and honestly it wasn't intentional. I think it's because I don't want to let someone know I like them until I at least have an idea they like me back. If you think someone likes you, keep trying! Maybe the women are shy like I am, or nervous, or want to feel in charge. Don't give up if you think someone likes you :)
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The reason is because girls who seem to come off too strong can be labeled as sluts and so if we flirt with guys we may get that stigma attached to us. What is better if the guy takes the lead, in that way we can do as he says because we like him and it's not because we are a slut or anything like that.
Well, that's not me I try to let guys know how I feel but not exactly tell them but anyways to answer your question their scared that they'll reject them but doesn't make sense because if you never try then, you'll never have a chance of getting them.
it's built on a princess mentality. they feel themselves the center of the universe when dealing with men. do find someone better for your sake. unless you like to deal with this kind of behavior. I deem this ugly behavior and I say" no" to it!
ummkaaayyyy...
Because mate, they don't have too. Their philosophy is if you like them enough, you'll make it happen. Ironically, it does not work both ways. I guess by their definition, they must not like you enough.
cause when she shows interest first, most guys think its an easy way to get sex.
That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Girls need to stop being so damn self conscious about the STUPIDEST SHIT!
i don't think it's stupid at all. A LOT of men are only interested in sex from a woman, and when she shows interest, he knows he has that chance with her. It's not about being self conscious, it's about being taken advantage of when you're being genuine
yeah but you can get let pass good opportunities with genuine men with this mentality
guys make the first move, initiate, and they could only want sex, it goes both ways
this is true
@AmberChick, guys will still just want sex, use a girl for sex regardless of who initiated
they don't want to appear desperate and scare the guy off.
Some men try to take advantage of that. That's why some girls don't let the guy know that they like them.
guys still take advantage when they do the initiating
bullsh*t
lol xD
Not all of us do that. That's only the ones that know they can get whoever they want or something. Some of us actually want a relationship ya know...
because they don't have to, if we did not have to do something, would we do it?
lol, nice
You know how you guys are always going on about being afraid to approach when shy and all that? Same reason.
no no no I am saying after I have done the approaching, I am not talking about approaching men. They just seem to be passive.
Still the same idea.
Except you're excuse isn't valid, since you aren't encouraged to go after guys and experience as much rejection as we are expected to.
Excuse me, but who are you to tell me that this reason is invalid? There ARE girls out there who don't approach because they're too shy. JUST like how some guys are afraid to. Your little accusation doesn't make sense. Come back later when you have a better response because that one is so ridiculous, I'm not even sure where to start.
when work has to be done, it's easier to avoid it then do it
As for me, I'm afraid to ask someone out. I would like it if the guy asks me out first. If I initiate talks too much, then I think that I'm a bother to him, so I pull back sometimes.
I think the same thing before talking to a girl, I always feel like if I talk to a girl I am just going to annoy her by talking. also on another note, that spoink pic is adorable, its so cute.
It's Spoink. :)
Girls tend to be even more afraid of rejection than guys.
this is true. It's because we get judged on our looks way more than guys do so we always have to be presentable and do or say the right things. If we don't, we can easily be labeled as something negative (slutty comes to mind).
That makes sense, on the other hand guys are so used to rejection its meh after awhile.
No, Amber.. You're more afraid of rejection, because you haven't experienced rejection nearly as much as the average guy.. lol
Because she is not really into him... In my experiences if she wants him she will go on the attack if she is not shy. When she attacks watch out... You may end up getting a wife or girlfriend lol.
because our society, culture, made it that tradition, social-norm, status quo, and same reason why girls don't initiate, because we fear, hate rejection too, so we use the status quo to our advantage.
How many Women do you 'know'?
Because the girls that show all their affection become the "stalker exes"
Girls like guys to make the first move. We're a lot more shy typically. If you want to know if she likes you, I say straight up ask her. Then there's no confusion at all.
anyone can be shy
Hence why I said typically. Obviously everyone's different.
The guy is meant to be the hunter. Make a move. If she's not interested, move on.
Or if she is not interested Keep trying (but not over the top) and you will win her.
Because rejection is one of the most mentally painful things in the world.
I've done that a couple of times and honestly it wasn't intentional. I think it's because I don't want to let someone know I like them until I at least have an idea they like me back. If you think someone likes you, keep trying! Maybe the women are shy like I am, or nervous, or want to feel in charge. Don't give up if you think someone likes you :)