Very good list thank you for taking the time to come up with that. very helpful!
15) Focusing on your own feelings, and not sympathizing with his feelings.
This guys covered it all.. no need to add my 2 cents worth.. Good Job.
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I totally agree with your opinion of girls and their double standards. There's a girl who doesn't know if she likes me right now, and doesn't know what she wants at all, and she will not contact me in any way for up to two weeks on end and be okay with it, but if she's trying to get my attention, or "just be nice" is the way she puts it, if I don't talk to her for a couple hours, she gets upset and tries calling me or texting over and over.
Wow, I've been reading a lot of your answers, and you are very smart and precise. I think it is a sad day when women when women resort to lying and playing games to try to trap guys emotionally. We sometimes forget men have emotions because we've been dogged before, and it is something that is just all around very sad. Maybe in this world we need to treat each other better???
Uh... you're just understanding this... now? Well then, lady. Better late than never.
What the girls don't understand is that the guys who screwed them before are not the guys they're with now. As girls (and guys) mature, they stop dating a-holes, and it's the good guys/girls who pay for the sins of the a-holes that you dated when you were too stupid to choose more wisely.
I'm checking back on some of my old answers. Doing a follow up.Was this answer at all helpful to you?
Seriously women say we are insensitive to their emotionals all the time. Why are men not allowed to have emotions. We do very much so all have feelings. Although I guess maybe your under the mentality that only women are allowed to have Emotions. I'm not saying go cry your eye's out for attention purposes. I'm just saying if my bro left for iraq I have the right to cry too, and if a women can't accept that, that's pretty insensitive. Although if we neglect their emotions god forbid.
So in conclusion for example the other day, this girl jumps into my shit. As most women do over nothing at all. She uses abusive language. Cusses at me. Tells me off. Although I'm just supposed to accept that not be hurt, and move on. That's really fair. Maybe you need to look into men's rights for once. I don't understand why we feel the need to berate me for sticking up for your rights. Why must everything go back to women in this society? Look at the media.
Whenever domistic violence is discussed it's only one sided. It's only about women. Did you know that 38 percent of the Domistic abuse in this country is women on men? Did you know, the 89percent of the time in custody cases the mother gets the kids and all rights? Did you know that 8 percent of the time the man gets rights? Did you know that the remaining percent is joint custody? Did you know that men have no national healthcare system yet women do? 98 percent of death in war is men?
Who where the first people off the titantic sir? Women and Children. Right? Did you know, that for the same crime, of armed bank robbery a women goes to prison for 8 years a man 10. Is that right? Or is it insensitive now? Or do you need more? Try crying to get out of a speeding ticket. LOL. Better yet, did you know that you have No right's in a abortion, even if your a great father and want the child. If she want's to abort that's all her choice, you have no say, even if ya wana keep it
Also the 38 percent of women on male domestic violence, is only the reported amount. Imagine how much of that goes unreported, due to men like you not wanting to be a sissy supposedly and report it. Due to fear of how they will be frowned upon by the public. Along with that goes male sexual assult, rape, and many other offenses that are strongly overlooked. I knew a female teacher here at 40yrs old that malested a 15yr old boy student. She only got 30days in jail a guy would have got 15yrs easy
Wow you are very angry sir. I'm sorry for whatever happened to you that caused you to have so much resentment towards women. but I see your perspective and it has opened my eyes. I admit to having been very callous with my ex at times. it isn't an excuse but I know in myself I used to have poor control of my emotions and also at times, because he was so reserved, I was trying to get a reaction out of him. I wanted to know he cared and wanted him to SHOW ME SOMETHING. he kept everything inside
Which was very frustrating. like I said, not tryna make excuses but trying to help you see our side a bit more. I was more hostile and emotional then I should have been but he was so unemotional that it drove me crazy and to extremes of trying to draw emotion out of him. I also sometimes felt I needed to assert myself so he wouldn't take advantage of my vulnerability because he knew I loved him and that he was my weakness. I also don't think it is entirely fair to blame this imbalance on women.
Socially constructed gender roles play a huge part in creating the typical "man" and typical "woman"... creates expectations and norms of how each sex should behave and thus if a baby is born a boy, he is raised to act a certain way, to be stoic, to be more physical than emotional, etc and vice versa ofr girls.... question society because the root of the problem is bigger than either of the sexes. men and women only reinforce stereotypes by behaving in these ways.
So true what you said about guys and how they are brought up to be less emotional. I had a guy like this who showed no emotion at all not even a little and it hurt me a lot cause I showed him how I felt for him and he just wasnt responsive to it. Guys like this who show no emotion really aren't not feeling anything for us. Guys show less emotion but none at all means he's just not that into you like my guy. If a guy feels something he will show it in some small way but if you can't get nothing out of.
...him then he just doesn't feel the way you feel. why when it felt so right? he may have at some point but there's always one person who loses the feelings for whatever reason they were not strong enough feelings for you and me in our case.
Idk. personally ya back in the 1800's you women had less right's. Although now day's we have less than you do. By far. I'm waiting for them to try and take my right to vote, that's next I bet. I'm not a women hater. I just hate the fact that it's like I'm not allowed to cry, I'm not allowed to have emotions too, I'm not allowed the same "privliges" and rights as you are. That's Not right and it's not fair, and it has absolutely nothing to do with hating women. I've noticed a trend here.
When ever a man attempts to fight for his rights, or defend his right's as they are being ripped from us men daily. All the sudden I'm a women hater? When did I ever say I hate women? Nowhere..? Exactly, why because in this society everything has to be about women, like the news the other day prime example. They where talking about domestic violence. Never once did they mention women on male domistic violence. Did you know 38 percent of domestic violence in the home is women on men?
That's only the reported amounts think how much of that goes unreported so a man can protect his ego. It just upsets me that men don't matter. We honestly don't. Who has to go off and defend this country at a moments notice. Men. 98 percent of military death. Men. Not women. It is not equality it is not fair. If women want equality fine please give it :). Although I think we stand to gain some right's to if it where True equality. Did you know if a women robs a bank she gets 8 yrs.
On average, did you know a man for the same crime gets 10yrs. On average. Is that right? Why shouldn't you receive the same punishment for such a hanus act? Because your a women that's why. So much for the equality you preech. Seems like men sure get the short end of the stick especially since all there are is "women's rights activist's." I am a firm beleive we need men's right's activist's to protect what little we men have left. That's all.
What I ment by insensitive is. I asked this girl out she said yes. :) I was all happy right. Not two seconds latter she gets a phone call from a guy and they bs on her cell phone right infront of me for a good 2hrs. So, I personally think that's a tad insensitive. Honestly, if I did that to a women would I have any chance of getting with her that night? F*** NO! So why should I as a guy have to tolerate such crap? I shouldn't. Best of all I won't. I'll leave. Why? It's not right.
Although it sure seems like your trying to say what every other women in this country has said. You must hate women. No that isn't the case. I don't hate women. I just love that I'm a guy. I want the SAME respect you would receive as a women. I think us men deserve some respect. I think we deserve fair treatment too. If I rob a bank I should only go to prison for 8yrs too, and that's just how it should be. Or you should go for 10yrs. However you choose to look at it.
Because last time I checked just because your a female god didn't place a halo around your head and say you can do nothing wrong. There are women serial killers, there are female rappists. You name it. That's why we have women's prisions in this country people. Get your head straight. What upset's me the most. Is a former teachers aid of mine in Middle school sexually abused a 15yr old student yet all she received was 30 days in jail and they wiped her criminal sexual conduct record wow!
That's totally fair. Totally. You know what would happen if you where a man and commited that same hanus act. Of ciminal sexual conduct on a 15 year old girl? You'd go to prision for 15-25yrs hun. That's fair? I didn't think so. I didn't think you'd think that was Right ethically morally nor fair. And if you do I'm sorry you feel that way and you don't Truly want "TRUE" EQUALITY. That's all I want. That's all I ask. It's not hard. It's what's right, and it's what's fair to all.
Everything you had pointed out is very true. It is not fair but must you make men the only victims here? the reason why women get away with more nowadays because there was a time way back in history that went on for thousands a nd thousands of years where woman weren't treated fairly and consider beneath men, men back then were allowed to hit women cause they saw then inferior and to cater to men. women bck then weren't allowed to enjoy sex, the men were. I learned this in my history class in the book
So just because of a few idoit's mistakes in "history" I should have to give you more right's than I? I think not. Why? You have more than equal rights as it is? Sorry I disagree. We deserve to be treated the same why do you think your so much better? Men get beat everyday. Every day. We are forced to have "zero emotions" and be tough. Yet we haven't endured hardship? I'm not trying to say what happened was right. No it wasn't although doing the same back isn't right either.
Two wrongs don't equate to a Right. I'm sorry. What should have been done is give you "equal" rights. That's all women in your "hisotry book" in the 1860's wanted to begin with. They never once said we want so many rights, that men will be at our disposal. That's not right either. ANd for you to "Claim it is." Shows your "lack" of wanting true equality. You don't want equality you want revenge. WHich is wrong. You want revenge for what some asshole did over 100yrs ago excuse me?
Get over it. It happened, it's done. YOu have rights. Be greatfull. That you do. ANd just be happy be your own person, ANd move on in life instead of sulking in a past you never even played a role in. Just be greatfull that your foremothers fought for your rights that you have them, don't go on some seige attempting to attack males because of something that happened over 100yrs prior in this stuborn country. Maybe you need to pick up a book and read about the stuides of Martin luther king
He firmly was Adimant about the fact that Peace. Will get you a lot further than Hate. Read on it. Maybe "YOU'll" learn something. Hint Hint. Nudge Nudge. I merely am asking for "true Equality." Enough of the Poor me syndrome's in this country. I've had enough of the Poor me syndrome. Why can't we as Lincoln said all be "created Equal?" Blacks cacasans, hyspanics, lations, Asians, Japeneese, russians, english, arabs. Why can't we just come to a general consesus.
That we are all human beings. We deserve the "Same Equal Rights" that our founding Forefathers bestowed apon us. That no one person is worh Any more in this god giving land than anyone else? That you are women I am man although that doesn't mean we should be treated any differently. We should exact the same respect the same fortitude, and mostly the same will to do what is right, morally and ethically, come together realize we are here together. We can do this "together." and in Harmony.
Or, we can contiune down the rightous past that we are once again doomed to repeat. What you should take from that History book of yours is this quote, "Thoses who fail to study history and what should be learned from it, are thus doomed to repeat that history." Meaning That if you neglect to remember where You women came from your about to cause a totally new situation with men in the forfront. The roles will be reversed. Which is just as wrong as the postion you females endured.
And you can call me crazy if you'd like I personally don't care. Although men loose more and more right's daily. Daily. Before you know it we will be at that point. Don't beleive me, look at things in our society, look at how women punch men. Get into full blow fist fights with us now. As if it's ok. It's acceptable treatment of men. So keep up the attitude. Keep on down that dusty road and doom yourself to repeat history once more. It may be slightly different although the principles
Are very irealy similar. Very similar. The gender is changed although that is all. In the end I don't want to fight, I don't feel the need to bicker with you personally I don't even feel nessacitated to answer you. Although, in conclusion before I go I just have to say this one more time, Why can't we just be truly equal ? What are women so afraid of? It's time. It's time that reality be grasped. We come to reality and just be equal. No one gender is better than the other lets be fair.
Hon, you are really heated over this. I never said I agree with the inequality and how unfair it is for men. I was just pointing out a time when we were just as much as victims as you are and women are still not being treated as fairly as men. men get paid more than women in a lot professions and I' never said men deserve what they are getting now from how they did women real bad in the past. I was just saying that is probably why its like that. I dint have anything to do with this inequality.
So plz don't take it out on me. lets jus discuss here without judging. I was jus stating that fact that men and women have been treated unfairly and that it started with women first and to not make men to be the only victims here. there are a lot of things women are still not getting fair treatment on. Your making it out to be like women caused this. No. the laws did and ppl's mentailty did. We can't help that we get off easy compare to men. I don't understand why its like this but it is.
And all we can do is accept it.
I totally agree with you brother.. I've been on the same boat. /=
I did do that because this guy I dated for 7 months would never chase or pursue like I did to him and I got fed up with it like 2months ago, disappeared and everything now he is sort of kind of chasing me. he texts me more now and I hardly text back. So nope I'm done going after him and wanting more when he never gave that back. your right. but I'm over him just being polite answering her text but I keep it short and sweet.
Good girl -- you don't need that in your life. That's not what love is. I'm going through something similar -- I care the world for the girl, but you know ... I'm not going to be anyones "mat". I've disappear for the last day or so and now she emailed me asking for me to email her back. I don't want to hurt her, but it seems like I'm at her convenience as of lately ...
Yep. its like you never know what you hasd until its gone and once its gone, that's it cause they had there chances and they blew it. Its the attention they miss, not us and there back just because we backed off and I rather a person come for me or chase me because they really wanted to not because I get quiet on them and move on. Its not sincere really.
Exactly ... you want someone to love who you are ... I had a girlfriend who broke up with me once when I was going through a hard time with my family ... I don't need that ... love is easy when things are good, I want someone whos going to stick by me even when I'm down. This new girl, she's a sweetheart and I'm sure she's mad right now, but wtf -- its a double standard. she can ignore me for a full day w/o warning and when I do it, she's gets upset ... good I say ... but I hate playing this, trust me.
We don't like going a long time or a day without hearing from a guy cause most of us are needy
You know I disappear for two days, now she's playing the same card ... only thing is I did email her after two days twice and told her I would call -- she didn't pick up. Its either a game or she's seeing someone else ... its not natural to act like this and well I really don't want it this way ... my problem is she is coming to see me in july and I paid half her ticket ... I want so bad to be like ill take my loss, don't come anymore.
Then do that. if you feel that she's playing games, drop her because she is a headache. She wants you to respond every time she calls abut won't do the same for you. that's immature.
Hahaha. I like this one. it's fun to play with ;)
I disagree. If you like a guy.. DON'T play mind-games with him.. You can feel free to play hard to get in the beginning, Question Asker.. But if you keep on doing it after you start talking to the guy.. It just gets frustrating and confusing after.
^^Unless you're talking about pushing a guy away first.. Then AFTER.. you shouldn't bother chasing him and wait for him to come to you--if he's interested. If not--move on.