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My boyfriend asked me to wear a seductive bikini on the boat with some of his friend there, is this a bad idea

My boyfriend gets to travel a lot for his job and we get to go to some pretty cool places such as Spain and Brazil and really kind of all over South America And on some trips I am able to go with him. Girls in this part of the world where some pretty seductive things on the beach such as thong bikinis and sometimes topless. When we go to the beach and some of these places I usually wear a thong bikini and I have even laid out topless for him a few times On the beach. I am pretty comfortable wearing a thong bikini on the beach even in public areas Because it is very common in South America, I am still a little nervous about being topless but like I said I have only done it a few times. Well next week my boyfriend and I are supposed to go out on the boat ( here in the U.S) with some friends of his and he wants me to wear one of my thong bikinis. The bikini he asked me to wear kind of shows a lot of side boob and I am sum what of a busty girl So I kind of pop out of the top a little more than most bikinis And not to mention the thong part. The reason I'm asking this question is because people in the US view wearing a thong bikini a little differently than people in South America. Also I am not sure if it would be a good ideal because all of his friends would be around and I don't want them to look at me in a dirty way or think I am a slutty girl because I'm not. Just to clarify I am not uncomfortable wearing the thong even in the US I'm just wondering should I do it in front of his friends or not? Any suggestions would be appreciated and thank you ahead of time.
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Ok so today we went on the boat with my Boyfriend friends and we did compromise a little bit. I did where a thong bikini on the boat but I wore a less reveling top that covered up my boobies more than the major side boob one. The top did show some nice cleavage so my Boyfriend was still pleased and I did wear the thong. It was not weird or awkward or anything and the guys were very respectful to me witch made me more comfortable also Thank you for your answers
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I agree with most of the other comments. You're hot, he knows it, he gets an ego boost from it, and he wants all of his friends to know it too so they can further inflate his ego. It's not necessarily a horrible thing; some guys are more prideful than others and like to show off. But if you're already having doubts and asking strangers for an opinion on a personal decision rather than discussing your concerns with him, that's a sign that you're not comfortable with being presented like a trophy.

    And rightfully so.

    You choosing not to wear revealing clothes shouldn't make him like you less. You're not withholding sex. You're hot harming him. You're still giving him the same affection. You're just respecting your personal boundaries. And in a healthy relationship, he would understand.

    • The best advice ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

  • If you have to ask you probably shouldn't do it; it clearly makes you uncomfortable. You're not his toy and he shouldn't treat you like one. Dress the way you want to be looked at. You shouldn't wear something to revealing. I would definitely think a girl was attention seeking if she was walking around like that, but it's up to you ultimately. Be careful if you do wear that. You might get the wrong kind of attention.

  • Well, they may look at you and think certain things but I believe you should do it if you want to. He may just want you to because he wants to show you off. If you don't really feel comfortable with the situation then don't do it. I'm sure he'd understand.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I find this to be unsettling. What your boyfriend is basically doing is living out a fantasy where his hot girlfriend dressed in a revealing swimsuit is being drooled over by his friends, but he is the only one who is allowed to have and he's the one who gets all of your attention. I wouldn't want this. I'd want my friends to think of my girlfriend the way I think of her as an amazing, intelligent, and fascinating human being not as a sex object.

    I don't know, maybe I'm thinking about this wrong.

    Anyway you shouldn't do something that makes you uncomfortable for your bf.

    • Lol. Wtf. People are such prudes here. I think you are taking it wrong. I just thong all the time and dont care what other people think and my friends dont care. And soon my wife will join me. ^^ she just wanted to loose a couple of pounds first. The thing is the small two pieces girls wear including my wife dont loose that much fabric to become a thong. Lol. Tiny two pieces are fine but thongs are not. What a joke based on stigma.

    • you're so right

  • If the idea makes you uncomfortable, then wear something more modest. You're not going to be in Brazil, afer all, and guys in the US will take that bikini as an invitation to hit on you, whether byour boyfriend is on board, or not! Lol! My French friends tried going topless once at a public beach in the US, and there was nearly a riot.

    • it sounds like you got all your bases covered, lol!

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  • Either you feel comfortable with it or you don't. Relationships are all about give and take. I doubt your boyfriends cares enough about it that he would want you to be upset by it.

  • If you feel uncomfortable about it, then don't do it.

    You also need to respect your own boundaries.

    Your boyfriend just want to show off to his friend how beautiful your body is.

  • He thinks your hot and wants to flaunt his hot girlfriend a bit... if you're ok with that, have fun! If not, I like your compromise.

    • KrisPW My girlfriend wear with reluctant and confident. I proud of her confidence and choice of revealing tiny sexy bikini publicly too.

  • I think it would be best to find a more modest bikini. You can still look hot without wearing a thong or popping out of the top. I think you'd feel more comfortable in something that shows a little less in front of his friends.

  • Go for it. You're going to be with your boyfriend so he'll keep anything from happening.

  • Nice to know

  • Ask him, would he ask you to wear the same if you were his wife or sister?

    • I hope now you know how and where to draw the line. Wish you the very best.

  • My girlfriend wear all kinds of bikini without my consent and I appreciate and approved.
    I do agree with you, he can not force you to wear whatever he likes.
    You have a your own choice, dignity, and respect, so he should consider.

  • I have seen more cleavage at work when I used to be a cashier than some woman with a small top. I don't understand you it's not that big of a deal. Men aren't pigs you know we are respectful.

    • Where about? In Thailand, Singapoore, Indonisia and Vietnam pretty normaL

  • so what ever happened here?

  • Same as my boyfriend too, he was proud of me among his friends and hey respect me too, as well as his friend's partners wears too, so I got huge confidence build up, since then I wear always on vacation and some times wear micro Brazilian bikini too.
    My advice is as long as he loyal you why not and no reason to stop wearing it.

    • Your advice is good, my girlfriend is pretty much accordingly she dress up and flexibility of dressing

    • @soe11 Welcome, you should allow to her and be proud. I love my body I maintain my body and care my body it's my beauty, my boyfriend love me so much. Have a beautiful life

    • Oh yes of course I do geve her full freedom, she never shy to wear anything also she proud of her body and outfits, she live according to time

  • Not at all. As long as nothing is sticking out.

  • Hey QA! How did this story turn out?

    • The trip went good I did where the thong bikini and the guys were very respectful about it did not make me feel awkward at all. Since then I have worn a thong around them several times and they all seem to enjoy the view but they're very respectful about it

    • That's cool. What about the boob display? What's your bra size and how small is the top you're spilling out of? Would you say these guys are more into your thong clad ass or your big boobs?

    • So keep wearing it and be confident and joys

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  • i don't like that, seems like he is trying to show you off. it's not so respectful. only you know how he usually treats you but I would not like that. a lot of guys in fact want their girl to be a little more covered up and do not want their friends staring at her that way!

    it's up to you but that's the impression I get, like he's showing off, because he specifically asked you knowing his friends will see.

  • We can't tell you what to do, you have to decide for yourself but I find it odd that he's basically telling you what to wear, as if he thinks other things you wear aren't "good"

    If it were me and you together, I probably wouldn't want you wearing something revealing but maybe that's cause it's me. I find that what I get to see in the bedroom, should stay in the bedroom between you and I. Why should my friends get to see you like that? They're not your boyfriend. Also, the reason North Americans view topless as "wrong" is because it's illegal. If it were legal, people would do it as they please. Just because it's moral and legal in the south doesn't mean it's legal and moral in the north.

  • Why not find another bikini that fits you a bit more modestly? It's totally possible to rock a bathing suit that you aren't popping out of and still look really attractive

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