Annleigh if you wanted out of the relationship just end it, simple as that. id rather have a girl break my heart and be honest, then be living a false relationship.
my ex is 1,2,4,5,6,7,8, and sometimes 9... one problem for her though was I knew her friends. because her friends ratted her out real fast because she was cheating and none of them were going to let her get away for treating me like that.
Excellent. Although I'd say you could list of twenty more of these at least.
As for the first one, it is true but only to an extent. It depends on the type of issues and her reactions to them. If she has an extremely volatile relationship with her father and it seems as if many of her issues and problems are directly related to her relationship (or lack of relationship) with her father- then you have something to worry about.
Pretty interesting. This can be applied to men as well =) The exes thing is weird, but I know not to get into a relationship with a guy who cuts them off like nothing because I wouldn't want to be that girl. Some people break up and then find out they've made a mistake, and work it out the 2nd time around. Mind you, I said some. For things to work, both of their bad behaviors had to change.
#1 is so not true. there are so many girls out there with daddy problems.. that doesn't mean that they're all crazy and none of them deserve boyfriends! Don't write from your experience, because that is a bias, and biases are signs of a sh*tty article (:
I don't see why this is about Women , in particular. I could easily you flip it around to men in a heterosexual relationship. homosexual relationship, trans, hermaphrodites - and still want out of the relationship.
I don't think you're making bad points, but these are very fluid recommendations you're making... you can apply this advice to any sex in existence.
Wouldn't you, if you were a Woman dating a guy like the character you have presented here?
Wow how rude number one is- I have issues with my dad and it doesn't mean sh*t. That's pretty rude to say. My dad left my mom and me when I was 2 and he was a heroin addict and alcholic my whole life getting thrown and getting in to car accidents numberous times. I can't help that, its part of what makes me, me. I may have a lot of guy friends but that doesn't mean I flirt with everyone and I have respect for boyfriends and I don't "brand them assholes" so no, your wrong.
Disagree hugely with number four. I work a lot and have some familial pressures on me, and I know a lot of other girls are in the same boat. It really shouldn't be hard to imagine a girl actually having some sh*t to do that takes priority over dating.
I do not agree with no 4. I am at uni studying informatics, my boyfriend does it as well. Trust me, we both do not have time, and we understand it. We do not get suspicious or angry that the other can't meet up at that exact moment. It is called being an adult. For me, it would be more suspicious if another person COULD meet up whenever I would suggest it...
This is bullshit. It's not my fault my dad is a piece of shit. And no matter how soon or late I start dating makes no difference. And most girls who are worth it, are usually made to feel like they have other choice but to make shitty choices in guys.
Fair. I Think he is saying unresolved issues with a poor father. There are ways to get past that. Realize everyone has their wounds from childhood that impact us in our behavior until they are resolved. Some girls have sucky fathers and it can impact them. May take many years to resolve it. Check out the singer Jewel's story to see an example of how she over came. Doesnt' mean you are a bad person, it does mean there may be more turmoil w/ boyfriend than if those deep rooted emotions aren't resolved. that's my 2 cents after being around a few women... And realize the guy writing this is not perfect either, he has flaws, guys have mommy wounds, daddy wounds, etc..
First one is not true. My dad and I have a bad relationship but I don't carry it around and let it affect me or my love life. some of the stuff in there is great, couple things I think sound a little like somebody had one too many bad experiances with b*tches, either way good info to consider but its general, not true for everyone.
I'd say #2 is actually a good thing. I don't talk to my ex's either. The last thing you need is lingering feelings or competition in your relationship. Relationships should strive to be as ex free as possible with the exception of ex's that are now MARRIED to someone else. Dating does not count. If she doesn't talk to her ex's then she's a smart decision maker.
"Relationships should strive to be as ex free as possible " YES! I wouldn't want to keep in touch with someone I have a romantic history with while in a new relationship out of respect.
Another exception would be if they had children together and both parents still want the the child in their lives.
Well done, id say they’re all pretty spot on. Although number 1 could be unfairly misinterpreted. You’re right with some, my ex housemate had issues with her Dad, and yes she was hella crazy! BUT, my friend and myself don’t get on brilliantly with our Dads because of their mental health issues, and we have guy friends, but that hasn’t made us psycho, quite the opposite. We know exactly what we don’t want in our lives so we work harder at avoiding any of that. Just something to bare in mind.
Sooo if her dad is a rapist or a molestor or drug abuser or abusive or if he abondoned or hurt her in some way, so they have a bad relationship, she's pschyo, its all her fault and you shouldn't date her? Get f***ing real asshole
Sorry but some women are NOT lucky enough to have good Dads or good exes. Er hello? Why did those relationships not work out in the first place. Honesty shouldn't be considered a bad thing. Nor should valuing serious relationships over sex/not every sexual experience becoming a relationship. According to this list, a woman is damned if she does, damned if she doesn't, and the kind of mug who would take heed isn't of interest to me anyway.
It's true, another good sign to watch out for is how the girl treats her pets especially dogs. If she has the dog neutered and never lets it out of the house or, god forbid, hates dogs, its a good warning sign to look for
Secondly, FirstLastOnly, you, as a modern day woman, are telling me that if you met Jonny Depp or Robert Pattison or anybody you are truly star struck by, hit it off and they asked you out, you'd be too busy to reschedule? Ever?
@Reggieray I only have two exes and I ended it politely. We all went our separate ways. That being said, my two exes would have sex with me if I offered. So there's clearly no friendship. One has a new girlfriend and still comments on how sexy I look on my instagram pics.
Issues with Dad? Like you guys don't have that too? And why don't you investigate why some girls just DON'T respect their fathers? Like the fact that he's not doing a good job being a role model? Or the fact that he cheats again and again? So it's a girl's fault that she disrespects him for something he does/did?
#8. She lies? So you've never lied? So guys are saints who are honest all the time?
Trust me, my dad was an abusive ass and it affected my sisters in certain ways because we grew up in a loveless environment and my mom just assumed she had to stay with a jerk because that was her only option. I learned I can't treat my kids that way because if I had kids and treated them the same way I call that a wasted generation.
A father's love for his daughter is extremely important, a parents direction and love is important, I've taken psychology and understand the effects, I have lived and breathed it, hell I even dated girls who have had issues with their fathers and I do believe it played a role of not working out. You might say, well dude if your dad was like that did you turn out that way? Honestly, at 33, I'm different now and it took years of reflection and fuck-ups to change my ways and some people aren't willing to do that. People can say, oh I want to finish university or I want to lose weight but you gotta put in the work, right? It's easier said than done. I'm not saying it's the girl's fault but let's say her father passes away by the time she's 40 and she lives til 80 well that's 40 years to change one's way, it's not healthy to harbor that much hatred for life, there are people in this world who are that bitter in life.
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Annleigh if you wanted out of the relationship just end it, simple as that. id rather have a girl break my heart and be honest, then be living a false relationship.
my ex is 1,2,4,5,6,7,8, and sometimes 9... one problem for her though was I knew her friends. because her friends ratted her out real fast because she was cheating and none of them were going to let her get away for treating me like that.
Excellent. Although I'd say you could list of twenty more of these at least.
As for the first one, it is true but only to an extent. It depends on the type of issues and her reactions to them. If she has an extremely volatile relationship with her father and it seems as if many of her issues and problems are directly related to her relationship (or lack of relationship) with her father- then you have something to worry about.
Pretty interesting. This can be applied to men as well =) The exes thing is weird, but I know not to get into a relationship with a guy who cuts them off like nothing because I wouldn't want to be that girl. Some people break up and then find out they've made a mistake, and work it out the 2nd time around. Mind you, I said some. For things to work, both of their bad behaviors had to change.
#1 is so not true. there are so many girls out there with daddy problems.. that doesn't mean that they're all crazy and none of them deserve boyfriends! Don't write from your experience, because that is a bias, and biases are signs of a sh*tty article (:
I don't see why this is about Women , in particular. I could easily you flip it around to men in a heterosexual relationship. homosexual relationship, trans, hermaphrodites - and still want out of the relationship.
I don't think you're making bad points, but these are very fluid recommendations you're making... you can apply this advice to any sex in existence.
Wouldn't you, if you were a Woman dating a guy like the character you have presented here?
Wow how rude number one is- I have issues with my dad and it doesn't mean sh*t. That's pretty rude to say. My dad left my mom and me when I was 2 and he was a heroin addict and alcholic my whole life getting thrown and getting in to car accidents numberous times. I can't help that, its part of what makes me, me. I may have a lot of guy friends but that doesn't mean I flirt with everyone and I have respect for boyfriends and I don't "brand them assholes" so no, your wrong.
Disagree hugely with number four. I work a lot and have some familial pressures on me, and I know a lot of other girls are in the same boat. It really shouldn't be hard to imagine a girl actually having some sh*t to do that takes priority over dating.
I do not agree with no 4. I am at uni studying informatics, my boyfriend does it as well. Trust me, we both do not have time, and we understand it. We do not get suspicious or angry that the other can't meet up at that exact moment. It is called being an adult. For me, it would be more suspicious if another person COULD meet up whenever I would suggest it...
This is bullshit. It's not my fault my dad is a piece of shit. And no matter how soon or late I start dating makes no difference. And most girls who are worth it, are usually made to feel like they have other choice but to make shitty choices in guys.
Fair. I Think he is saying unresolved issues with a poor father. There are ways to get past that. Realize everyone has their wounds from childhood that impact us in our behavior until they are resolved. Some girls have sucky fathers and it can impact them. May take many years to resolve it. Check out the singer Jewel's story to see an example of how she over came. Doesnt' mean you are a bad person, it does mean there may be more turmoil w/ boyfriend than if those deep rooted emotions aren't resolved. that's my 2 cents after being around a few women... And realize the guy writing this is not perfect either, he has flaws, guys have mommy wounds, daddy wounds, etc..
First one is not true. My dad and I have a bad relationship but I don't carry it around and let it affect me or my love life. some of the stuff in there is great, couple things I think sound a little like somebody had one too many bad experiances with b*tches, either way good info to consider but its general, not true for everyone.
I'd say #2 is actually a good thing. I don't talk to my ex's either. The last thing you need is lingering feelings or competition in your relationship. Relationships should strive to be as ex free as possible with the exception of ex's that are now MARRIED to someone else. Dating does not count. If she doesn't talk to her ex's then she's a smart decision maker.
"Relationships should strive to be as ex free as possible " YES! I wouldn't want to keep in touch with someone I have a romantic history with while in a new relationship out of respect.
Another exception would be if they had children together and both parents still want the the child in their lives.
Well done, id say they’re all pretty spot on. Although number 1 could be unfairly misinterpreted. You’re right with some, my ex housemate had issues with her Dad, and yes she was hella crazy! BUT, my friend and myself don’t get on brilliantly with our Dads because of their mental health issues, and we have guy friends, but that hasn’t made us psycho, quite the opposite. We know exactly what we don’t want in our lives so we work harder at avoiding any of that. Just something to bare in mind.
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Sooo if her dad is a rapist or a molestor or drug abuser or abusive or if he abondoned or hurt her in some way, so they have a bad relationship, she's pschyo, its all her fault and you shouldn't date her? Get f***ing real asshole
I was thinking the same.
Sorry but some women are NOT lucky enough to have good Dads or good exes. Er hello? Why did those relationships not work out in the first place. Honesty shouldn't be considered a bad thing. Nor should valuing serious relationships over sex/not every sexual experience becoming a relationship. According to this list, a woman is damned if she does, damned if she doesn't, and the kind of mug who would take heed isn't of interest to me anyway.
It's true, another good sign to watch out for is how the girl treats her pets especially dogs. If she has the dog neutered and never lets it out of the house or, god forbid, hates dogs, its a good warning sign to look for
"Holy f***ing sh*t, you just blew my f***ing mind" --George W Bush, Harold and Kumar escape G Bay
I totally f***ing agree with you on 3 and 4. Wow, awesome article, you should read mine, totally unrelated but just as interesting.
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Secondly, FirstLastOnly, you, as a modern day woman, are telling me that if you met Jonny Depp or Robert Pattison or anybody you are truly star struck by, hit it off and they asked you out, you'd be too busy to reschedule? Ever?
The first one is SO true.
i dated a girl who live with her mom
she flirted with everyone. it upste me pretty bad
so let her go. and plus she was going away to a far college.
I don't talk to my exes and it's because I don't think exes can be friends. It's not being damaged goods.
I thought the same thing
I can see your point, as long as your on good terms with them. I don't think you gave to be buddies, just not enemies...
@Reggieray I only have two exes and I ended it politely. We all went our separate ways. That being said, my two exes would have sex with me if I offered. So there's clearly no friendship. One has a new girlfriend and still comments on how sexy I look on my instagram pics.
Wow that is sad. I would hate to be his new girlfriend.
I so disagree with #1.
Issues with Dad? Like you guys don't have that too? And why don't you investigate why some girls just DON'T respect their fathers? Like the fact that he's not doing a good job being a role model? Or the fact that he cheats again and again? So it's a girl's fault that she disrespects him for something he does/did?
#8. She lies? So you've never lied? So guys are saints who are honest all the time?
Trust me, my dad was an abusive ass and it affected my sisters in certain ways because we grew up in a loveless environment and my mom just assumed she had to stay with a jerk because that was her only option. I learned I can't treat my kids that way because if I had kids and treated them the same way I call that a wasted generation.
A father's love for his daughter is extremely important, a parents direction and love is important, I've taken psychology and understand the effects, I have lived and breathed it, hell I even dated girls who have had issues with their fathers and I do believe it played a role of not working out. You might say, well dude if your dad was like that did you turn out that way? Honestly, at 33, I'm different now and it took years of reflection and fuck-ups to change my ways and some people aren't willing to do that. People can say, oh I want to finish university or I want to lose weight but you gotta put in the work, right? It's easier said than done. I'm not saying it's the girl's fault but let's say her father passes away by the time she's 40 and she lives til 80 well that's 40 years to change one's way, it's not healthy to harbor that much hatred for life, there are people in this world who are that bitter in life.