So wait, you say attractive women don't have bad personalities, yet you don't make friends with unattractive people? A person with a good personality, respect and has morals wouldn't never say that. Both attractive and unattractive people can be a-holes or nice. You are generalizing. You are full of it. Respect everyone as a equal is how it should be, but unfortunately might never happen. "Do on to others, what you want others to do to you".
I had the same experience of insecure girls picking me apart and it affected me to the point of developing an eating disorder, which I've now overcome. There were both beautiful (if you consider only surface beauty) and unattractive ones that did that. I can't imagine ever saying it's only unattractive people that are insecure and jealous even if that was my sole experience in life, which it wasn't.
Everything is handed to an attractive woman all her life so she becomes spoiled, narcissistic, and just terrible to be around. That’s just the way it is. That is all I see when I see an attractive woman and don’t think twice about her. I always think she would be great for some other lucky guy. lol
Sorry but in my experience, most pretty girls have been mean. They didn't care about anyone else said what they wanted and didn't care they hurt their feelings but when the same thing happened to them they were pissed.
For me pretty girls used to always had some rude and something negative to say to me all the time. Only to find out later on that they liked me and was just teasing me. stuff like that happened all the time.
I don't think it's a myth about beautiful girls being unpleasant, but it is certainly true that the beautiful girls who have their heads gassed up 24/7 are not very nice people. Constantly being told how beautiful you are, and how much better you are than everyone around you while your mind is still developing will certainly have it's effects on someone's ego. You are not like that, because you were bullied but the girls who weren't bullied certainly are like that. Also, you seem to have a very narrow view of what is and isn't beautiful, which sounds exactly like the beautiful girl stereotype. You don't like people who stereotype you and assume what your personality is like, yet you assume and stereotype the people who you consider to be less attractive than you. Which once again, is another pretty girl stereotype (thinking you're above someone else, beauty wise).
I disagree. Being told you're beautiful develops a healthy self esteem. When I have a daughter I will certainly tell her how beautiful she is, which I know for sure she will be.
There's nothing wrong with being told you're beautiful.
"Constantly being told how beautiful you are, and how much better you are than everyone around you while your mind is still developing will certainly have it's effects on someone's ego. "
Read and reread again, since you didn't understand the first time.
And you are assuming that beautiful girls are being told how beautiful they are constantly? I wasn't and most beautiful girls I know haven't. They too had bad experiences with unattractive girls who would make negative comments about them. All the beautiful girls I know have great personalities so I beg to differ with your opinion.
I think you just live in a place full of assholes, in my group of friends there are both people attractive and unattractive and we all are respectful to each other, even if we of course joke about each other; maybe I can call someone short, maybe they can call me fat, that doesn't mean we are actually insulting each other, we are just joking.
The exteriority characteristics of a person doesn't define his or her inner self anyhow. The only case might be when someone really bad looking becomes Introverted due of the incapability of attracting the opposite gender, but that has nothing to do with "bad and good".
"That's why I don't make friends with unattractive girls, I don't need their negativity in my life. All my female friends are very attractive girls like me." Thanks for writing it so clearly. That reminds me , never to date again a spoiled girl who considers herself part of the attractive elite.
lol your perceived outward beauty appears to be all that you really concern yourself with. As a result, you believe peoples dislike for you can only be based on your appearance. In most cases such logic tends to speak volumes for a person character. I find it interesting that most people that are as arrogant as this post usually have nothing of substance to offer. It makes sense for you to focus on your outward appearance, there isn't anything else for you to focus on.
Confidence can be misinterpreted as arrogance. Society doesn't like attractive people to own their looks. While society praises attractive people, they also tend to resent them. You just can't win.
"That's why I don't make friends with unattractive girls, I don't need their negativity in my life." I guess grouping all girls that aren't outwardly appealing together, isn't an assumption. You claim beautiful girls do not fit the traditional stereotype of being dumb, boring and superficial. But if that is true, then by your logic the blatant hypocrisy you displayed in this post accurately places you in the same category as the girls you tried to separate yourself from. How ironic, you dislike ugly girls in your life because you deem them all negative, meanwhile you're the one clinging to *wait for it*... a "stereotype". You're clearly young and misguided so I'll hold off on the insults because I doubt they would even resonate, but you have a lot of growing up to do.
Ya some people don't realize we weren't all always attractive. Some of us grew into our looks and still have that "ugly duckling syndrome"!
On the bright side I love how people underestimate me. I'm actually a nice person a little too nice like a pushover but people never think I'm kind at first. They say i look mean and serious. It wards off people from taking advantage of me.
I'm guilty of judging good looking guys though. I assume they're assholes or stuck up. Probably because when I was less attractive they weren't kind to me so I still have that mentality stuck in my head
i agree that attractive girls aren't all dumb or mean but thats the same as ugly ones- some might be resentful or whatever but not all of them are, plus being pretty doesn't mean you take care of yourself- and 'ugly' person could shower 20 times a day, it doesn't make them pretty.
i agree with you that the generalization involving beautful girls and bad personality is a myth, as are almost all, if not all, generalizations, but still there are people that have bad personalities and are pretty, and a lot of people let the power of some favorable characteristic lead them to narcisism, but i agree that the myth that all beautful people, not only females, but males as well, have bad personality is indeed due to some great butt hurt of unattractive people towards them.
You're right that it's a myth, if anything pretty girls are nicer in general.
However, the fact that you base your friendships off attractiveness... says a lot about you.
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Never heard of this myth. But I do know that attractive girls are high maintenance which is not ideal for guys. Those girls will drive the guys crazy in the long run. Being high maintenence does not necessarily indicate a bad personality. Just harder to deal with. The movie is more like a joke. Fiction. Just to make people laugh in a good way.
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It is relatively clear that you are writing this as a young person. In the long-run, and I've been around a tad longer than you have, I have found no connection between personality and beauty and furthermore genetic beauty is very rarely sufficient past a stage in life. I do understand and agree with you perhaps in your age grouping because young adults and teenagers do actually vie for attention and more often than not looks are considered to be one of the pinnacle elements but as you get older, and this has nothing to do with physical aging, it just gets less important.
Just because you are the exception to the rule does not make the rule invalid. Generally, the more attractive a woman is the less "intelligent" she is. I saw some fairly attractive women struggle with the self checkout. I had a fairly attractive girl ask me if I was Asian or Chinese? The general trend for people is as their ego increases, they tend to look down on others who are not "worthy."
It is completely unfair and biased to label each type like that. In reality, there are unattractive people that are nice and there are attractive people that are nice as well. The opposite is also true: there are a lot of horrible attractive people and unattractive people.
The world is not so black and white. The world has MANY exceptions.
It's not a myth some people have bad personalities, some don't and it has nothing to do with how they look. I've met people on both ends of both spectra- some attractive people with toxic personalities, some attractive people with good personalities, ugly people with toxic personalities, ugly people with good personalities and people somewhere in between.
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I agree that outer beauty doesn't define who a person is inside. I've met a lot of attractive girls with great personalities. I've also met some attractive (physically) girls with who are shallow, materialistic, rude, and who looked at other people as beneath them for not looking "hot", not having money, status, power, etc.
I think the most important thing for people to do is not judge a book by its cover and get to know people before just assuming stuff about them.
That’s simply not factual. To say all members of any group are or aren’t a certain way isn’t factual. You said your personal experience, I said mine, what’s the problem here?
People think attractive guys have bad personalities too. I wonder where the hell people get their assumptions from. I'm assuming it's jealousy because I met a lot more unattractive people with horrible personalities than attractive people with horrible personalities.
Well, I've been around for a while, and I've found no reliable correlation between attractiveness and personality. Both attractive and unattractive people can be mean or generous, spiteful or loving, in roughly equal measures. YMMV, for any of a number of reasons, but your reasoning is rubbish.
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So wait, you say attractive women don't have bad personalities, yet you don't make friends with unattractive people? A person with a good personality, respect and has morals wouldn't never say that. Both attractive and unattractive people can be a-holes or nice. You are generalizing. You are full of it. Respect everyone as a equal is how it should be, but unfortunately might never happen. "Do on to others, what you want others to do to you".
This is what I was going to write.
I had the same experience of insecure girls picking me apart and it affected me to the point of developing an eating disorder, which I've now overcome. There were both beautiful (if you consider only surface beauty) and unattractive ones that did that. I can't imagine ever saying it's only unattractive people that are insecure and jealous even if that was my sole experience in life, which it wasn't.
@Astria I'm glad you overcame it. People can ruin your life without noticing or caring.
Everything is handed to an attractive woman all her life so she becomes spoiled, narcissistic, and just terrible to be around. That’s just the way it is. That is all I see when I see an attractive woman and don’t think twice about her. I always think she would be great for some other lucky guy. lol
Sorry but in my experience, most pretty girls have been mean. They didn't care about anyone else said what they wanted and didn't care they hurt their feelings but when the same thing happened to them they were pissed.
For me pretty girls used to always had some rude and something negative to say to me all the time. Only to find out later on that they liked me and was just teasing me. stuff like that happened all the time.
I don't think it's a myth about beautiful girls being unpleasant, but it is certainly true that the beautiful girls who have their heads gassed up 24/7 are not very nice people. Constantly being told how beautiful you are, and how much better you are than everyone around you while your mind is still developing will certainly have it's effects on someone's ego. You are not like that, because you were bullied but the girls who weren't bullied certainly are like that. Also, you seem to have a very narrow view of what is and isn't beautiful, which sounds exactly like the beautiful girl stereotype. You don't like people who stereotype you and assume what your personality is like, yet you assume and stereotype the people who you consider to be less attractive than you. Which once again, is another pretty girl stereotype (thinking you're above someone else, beauty wise).
I disagree. Being told you're beautiful develops a healthy self esteem. When I have a daughter I will certainly tell her how beautiful she is, which I know for sure she will be.
There's nothing wrong with being told you're beautiful.
"Constantly being told how beautiful you are, and how much better you are than everyone around you while your mind is still developing will certainly have it's effects on someone's ego. "
Read and reread again, since you didn't understand the first time.
And you are assuming that beautiful girls are being told how beautiful they are constantly? I wasn't and most beautiful girls I know haven't. They too had bad experiences with unattractive girls who would make negative comments about them. All the beautiful girls I know have great personalities so I beg to differ with your opinion.
You clearly don't know how to read.
I think you just live in a place full of assholes, in my group of friends there are both people attractive and unattractive and we all are respectful to each other, even if we of course joke about each other; maybe I can call someone short, maybe they can call me fat, that doesn't mean we are actually insulting each other, we are just joking.
The exteriority characteristics of a person doesn't define his or her inner self anyhow. The only case might be when someone really bad looking becomes Introverted due of the incapability of attracting the opposite gender, but that has nothing to do with "bad and good".
"That's why I don't make friends with unattractive girls, I don't need their negativity in my life. All my female friends are very attractive girls like me."
Thanks for writing it so clearly.
That reminds me , never to date again a spoiled girl who considers herself part of the attractive elite.
lol your perceived outward beauty appears to be all that you really concern yourself with. As a result, you believe peoples dislike for you can only be based on your appearance. In most cases such logic tends to speak volumes for a person character. I find it interesting that most people that are as arrogant as this post usually have nothing of substance to offer. It makes sense for you to focus on your outward appearance, there isn't anything else for you to focus on.
Confidence can be misinterpreted as arrogance. Society doesn't like attractive people to own their looks. While society praises attractive people, they also tend to resent them. You just can't win.
And being a dick to others can be misinterpreted as confidence.
Nothing I said here so far has been offensive. Read all my comments. I have been respectful of everyone's opinions. You're just making assumptions.
"That's why I don't make friends with unattractive girls, I don't need their negativity in my life." I guess grouping all girls that aren't outwardly appealing together, isn't an assumption. You claim beautiful girls do not fit the traditional stereotype of being dumb, boring and superficial. But if that is true, then by your logic the blatant hypocrisy you displayed in this post accurately places you in the same category as the girls you tried to separate yourself from. How ironic, you dislike ugly girls in your life because you deem them all negative, meanwhile you're the one clinging to *wait for it*... a "stereotype". You're clearly young and misguided so I'll hold off on the insults because I doubt they would even resonate, but you have a lot of growing up to do.
Ya some people don't realize we weren't all always attractive. Some of us grew into our looks and still have that "ugly duckling syndrome"!
On the bright side I love how people underestimate me. I'm actually a nice person a little too nice like a pushover but people never think I'm kind at first. They say i look mean and serious. It wards off people from taking advantage of me.
I'm guilty of judging good looking guys though. I assume they're assholes or stuck up. Probably because when I was less attractive they weren't kind to me so I still have that mentality stuck in my head
i agree that attractive girls aren't all dumb or mean but thats the same as ugly ones- some might be resentful or whatever but not all of them are, plus being pretty doesn't mean you take care of yourself- and 'ugly' person could shower 20 times a day, it doesn't make them pretty.
i agree with you that the generalization involving beautful girls and bad personality is a myth, as are almost all, if not all, generalizations, but still there are people that have bad personalities and are pretty, and a lot of people let the power of some favorable characteristic lead them to narcisism, but i agree that the myth that all beautful people, not only females, but males as well, have bad personality is indeed due to some great butt hurt of unattractive people towards them.
You're right that it's a myth, if anything pretty girls are nicer in general.
However, the fact that you base your friendships off attractiveness... says a lot about you.
Never heard of this myth. But I do know that attractive girls are high maintenance which is not ideal for guys. Those girls will drive the guys crazy in the long run. Being high maintenence does not necessarily indicate a bad personality. Just harder to deal with. The movie is more like a joke. Fiction. Just to make people laugh in a good way.
It is relatively clear that you are writing this as a young person. In the long-run, and I've been around a tad longer than you have, I have found no connection between personality and beauty and furthermore genetic beauty is very rarely sufficient past a stage in life. I do understand and agree with you perhaps in your age grouping because young adults and teenagers do actually vie for attention and more often than not looks are considered to be one of the pinnacle elements but as you get older, and this has nothing to do with physical aging, it just gets less important.
Just because you are the exception to the rule does not make the rule invalid. Generally, the more attractive a woman is the less "intelligent" she is. I saw some fairly attractive women struggle with the self checkout. I had a fairly attractive girl ask me if I was Asian or Chinese? The general trend for people is as their ego increases, they tend to look down on others who are not "worthy."
It is completely unfair and biased to label each type like that. In reality, there are unattractive people that are nice and there are attractive people that are nice as well. The opposite is also true: there are a lot of horrible attractive people and unattractive people.
The world is not so black and white. The world has MANY exceptions.
It's not a myth some people have bad personalities, some don't and it has nothing to do with how they look. I've met people on both ends of both spectra- some attractive people with toxic personalities, some attractive people with good personalities, ugly people with toxic personalities, ugly people with good personalities and people somewhere in between.
I agree that outer beauty doesn't define who a person is inside. I've met a lot of attractive girls with great personalities. I've also met some attractive (physically) girls with who are shallow, materialistic, rude, and who looked at other people as beneath them for not looking "hot", not having money, status, power, etc.
I think the most important thing for people to do is not judge a book by its cover and get to know people before just assuming stuff about them.
I know plenty of pretty girls with crappy personalities.
Unattractive girls have bad personalities. They can't appreciate another woman's beauty.
That’s simply not factual. To say all members of any group are or aren’t a certain way isn’t factual. You said your personal experience, I said mine, what’s the problem here?
No problem, you're entitled to your opinion. I just don't trust unattractive girls.
@macix670 And you have a bad personality. So I guess y'all are even now.
People think attractive guys have bad personalities too. I wonder where the hell people get their assumptions from. I'm assuming it's jealousy because I met a lot more unattractive people with horrible personalities than attractive people with horrible personalities.
Well, I've been around for a while, and I've found no reliable correlation between attractiveness and personality. Both attractive and unattractive people can be mean or generous, spiteful or loving, in roughly equal measures. YMMV, for any of a number of reasons, but your reasoning is rubbish.