I’ve stumbled upon a MyTake on here titled “I’m a ‘’Good Girl’’ in This Day and Age’’, and I thought it would be appropriate to share the opposite side of this. The topics that the Anon author tackles are sex and virginity, drugs, infidelity, and makeup, so I’ll do the same. Keep in mind that I’m not hating on anybody, just expressing my opinion on the matter :).
Virginity and sex are not that big of a deal in my opinion. They are a natural part of our lives, and there’s no need to make it more than it is. Why ‘’save yourself’’ for the right person or wait for marriage, when you could have it right now? Enjoying the pleasures your body offers to you is not a sin, and it doesn’t make you less of a person. Promiscuity and casual sex should not be frowned upon in my opinion. I have never held back and limited myself when it comes to sex, and I regret nothing. I may have been called a slut, a whore, probably many other names, but I couldn’t care less. I’d rather be slut-shamed than miss out on something as awesome as sex.
There’s little to no difference between alcohol, which is legal, and soft drugs. As long as you have some common sense and don’t get too fooked up, I think there’s no harm in trying. If anything, it’s better to go all out and do some slightly messed up stuff now than when you’re 40. I want to enjoy my youth and go crazy (within moderation) as long as I’m young, so that when I want to settle down and have a family, I won’t have the feeling that I missed out on anything. It’s much better to get trashed and make mistakes in your early 20s then to do it when there’s a family depending on you.
Cheating, in my opinion, doesn’t have that much to do with being good. Even though I might not be your conventional good girl, I can still love a person just as much. People who cheat don’t appreciate and value relationships, and that’s just plain stupid. If I wanted multiple partners at once, I’d just go for hook ups or non-exclusive relationships, but I would never intentionally hurt a person like that.
The no-make-up thing didn’t seem like a typical good girl quality to me at first, but when I thought about it, it started to kind of make sense. It highlights and exaggerates the feminine attributes of the face, and therefore naturally attracts the male attention. I’d be lying if I said I only wear make-up for myself. There’s a certain thrill that comes with guys checking me out when I go out of my way to look good. Even though men tend to say they prefer a natural look, a nice smoky eye and a bold lip usually do the trick, especially in settings like bars or clubs. And while I like to pay for myself when it comes to actual dates, I won’t say no to free shots from drunk horny dudes.
Being what one would describe as a “bad girl”, or in my case, maybe rather as a slut, is not all that bad. Sure, there’s people judging me and talking shite about me, but I couldn’t please everyone anyway. I’m having a blast every single day of my life, and it doesn’t make me trash. I’m successful, I got into a hard university course, I have all the friends I need and I’m perfectly capable of maintaining serious romantic relationships. I don’t regret any of the crazy, immoral and sometimes slightly dangerous things I did, I plan to live my life to the absolute fullest.