30 Daily Struggles of Being Female

[Pinay_ako]

Being born a girl is no walk in the park. Let me list the things we females face on the daily that makes life a little spicier.

1. I was born a girl.

Congratulations! It's a girl. Your dad is overjoyed! He is now the father of a baby girl, his little princess. But don't lie dads. You're overcome with fear as well. Having a daughter is so scary. That means you either have to take her to self defense class or kick some boy's ass in the future.

2. Because of my gender, I don't get taken seriously.

Yes. Because I am a girl, I don't get the job position or my opinion is taken lightly or even ignored. Or I get rejected simply because I look like a girl, fragile and weak. Or if I do get the position of high rank, I get silently mocked or ridiculed behind my back. Sometimes I get challenged like I have to defend why I am in that position or how I got it usually coupled with malice... Annnnd I still get paid less.

3. If I speak my mind, I get called a bitch.

If I dare open my mouth and is against the norms, I get called out a bitch. I get called a bitch if I have a very strong opinion when people try to bring me down or call me out because they don't like what they see or think of me.

4. Because I am a girl, I am supposed to know how to cook or do housekeeping.

If I don't know how to cook, my future mother in law will either wrinkle her nose in disgust or scold me for not knowing how to keep a man and a house and kids. Cooking and housekeeping are a must for her grown up son to marry me or else...

5. Because I am a girl, I am supposed to keep my body covered to prevent getting raped/catcalled.

If I am showing too much skin, I have no respect for myself and I am asking for it. If I am all covered up, I am such a prude.

6. I wear too much makeup or I don't wear enough.

If I don't wear makeup, I look tired or ugly or sick lol. If I do wear makeup, I get called out looking like a clown or cake face. Like give the girl a break!

7. If I am bitchy/moody/prissy, I am PMSing.

People always assume if I am not in the best mood or kissing their feet, I am on my period. Really? Can it not be people are just being jerks to me and maybe I am having a bad day?

8. I should be married or have kids before 30.

If I am still single and no kids by the time I hit 30, I am either undesirable, difficult, barren or a lesbian... My family is starting to worry about me. That I am not normal or something is wrong with me.

9. I am supposed to be smiling all the time.

I am sorry if I have a resting bitch face on. With all the bullshit life is throwing at me, how am I supposed to keep a smile on 24/7? I do smile but not for you. I will smile when I want to not when you tell me too. Ugh.

10. I have my period.

Yes say hello to the cramps, bloatedness, continuous bleeding, acne and the craziness that comes with having monthly periods for 30+ years. Yes we girls bleed for days and still live. So please be extra nice to us when we have these monthly visits. Girls who have their periods at the same time are deadly and dangerous. Move bitch, get out of the way. :D

11. We can never have too many shoes, purses or lipsticks.

If guys can buy many games, cars, or kicks, we can do too. Purses/shoes don't look the same or there are too many shades of red or pinks of lipsticks. There are mattes, satin or cremes. So do not even start...

12. My body is supposed to be an hourglass.

I am supposed to have a slim waist, big boobs, big butt, long legs... How am I supposed to have all that? I am either too tall or too short and there is no way I can have all that... So just deal with what I have and love me the way I am or go away.

13. I am supposed to wait for a man to make a move.

Society still hasn't fully grasped the reality that women can make the first move too. If I like a man, am I not allowed letting him know I fancy him and I want him to notice me and get to know me? So I should wait forever if no man wants to make a move on me?

14. I am weak and I cannot do anything physical.

I can't lift furniture or open a jar myself. Remember a woman gave birth to you vaginally or she had to be cut open to bring you into this crazy world... Just saying.

15. I am such a crybaby...

I cry about anything and everything. I cry at the sight of cute puppies on Youtube or a romantic sappy movie or I cry just because. So what? I have no problem letting my emotions out and if that makes me a crybaby, so be it.

16. I am not strong enough for life.

When a woman has cried all night and wakes up the next morning and goes on with her life with a smile on her face. If that's not what strong is, I don't know the word.

17. I am supposed to look good and maintain myself all the time.

No hairy pits, no hairy legs, no bushy punani, no mustache. Just no no no. I am supposed to smell like a girl all the time. I just want to take that bra off at the end of the day and slip in my pajamas and look ugly at home. Like the pressure is too much. wowza

18. I am a bad driver.

Yo I have seen male drivers who suck ass in driving that I actually fear for my life. Hello Danica Patrick?

19. Eating without getting fat.

“Watch what you eat. You’re eating again? Are you going to eat all that?? Nobody wants to date Shamoo.” Tf.

20. We don't fart or poop.

Yes, we are humans too. We do fart and poop and we bleed everywhere. We are just as disgusting as you guys. LOL or even worse. :P

Oh wait! There's more!

21. Hair in my face while wearing lip gloss.

22. Can't pee anywhere unlike you guys. When nature calls, a girl needs someone/something to cover us sit downs.

23. Marilyn Monroe moment when I am wearing a dress or a skirt on a windy day.

24. I gotta get my nails done or else I am too basic or don't look after myself. NAH.

25. Hair everywhere in my house ... :/

26. Struggle between eating wings and going to the gym. Hmm wings sound good. Yumm

27. Don't mistake my being nice as flirting. Geez take it easy, I don't want your # boi.

28. Buy more underwear/new sheets coz it looks like a crime scene there.

29. There is nothing to wear in a closet full of clothes!

30. Having too much boobs or ass or having no ass or boobs at all. Faakkkk.

Thanks for the time reading.

XO's Pinay_Ako

[LogicBomber]

1. You were born a girl.
(congrats, you are part of the most protected and privileged group of humans to ever exist.)

2. Your gender is believed even when you lie. If you aren't taken seriously it's because groups like feminism have made you look like a bunch of fragile children.

3. OH no, you get called bitch, how will you ever cope? This is the fragile children mindset.
Men are called perverts, creeps, scum, pedos, rapists, etc. Simply for existing. Get over it.

4. Oh no, you need to learn life skills like cooking and cleaning. Imagine if you were expected to DIE to protect and provide for the other gender like men are.

5. Oh shit, walking around exposing your sexual parts might allow bad people to do bad things, and heaven forbid you take responsibility for yourself and take protective measures to try and prevent that instead of being an entitled brat who feels they have a right to be naked and bad people will simply stop being bad people. (We lock our cars and doors because taking precautions is LOGIC!)

6. If women didn't wear masks to real life photoshop themselves, society wouldn't have gotten used to seeing unrealistic beauty which then makes the standard for women without makeup much harder to reach.

7. If women didn't use PMS as an excuse all the time when they are being a bitch or acting emotional, then men wouldn't have started to believe it was a reason. You did it to yourselves.

8. Oh no, society expects you to settle down as an adult and not keep acting like a slutty college kid, how dare they! Oh wait, men are expected to be financially stable, emotionally stable, and situated by the time they are adults and also expected to settle down, we just don't care to listen because we aren't fragile children.

9. OH NO, looking happy is such a burden! I have NEVER heard someone tell a girl to smile, but if you look like a sour bitch and people have a negative response to it... that isn't a female thing, it's a HUMAN thing.

10. A minute ago you were whining that you hate when PMS is used as an excuse for being a bitch but now you want us to give you special treatment for it?

11. OH NO, I have too many things, what a burden!
12. Body expectations are male and female. Males also have about 20 other things we expected to be.
13. OH NO, You get to sit back and wait and do NONE of the work to get attention, what a burden! Try being expected to make the moves while knowing you WILL be shamed and attacked for trying.

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[My-Shangri-La]

Holy shit. You fucking dismantled her. Good stuff here.

[LogicBomber]

@My-Shangri-La I was going to keep going but I got my point across.

[My-Shangri-La]

You sure as fuck did

[MelaninDoll]

DO A MYTAKE! Can you follow me too?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That "Oh no!" gets me every time XD

[My-Shangri-La]

@Aiko_E_Lara oh no! 😱😱😱

[Wolframium]

Why post this anonymously?
Do mytake, her points and your responses. :-)

[MCheetah]

@LogicBomber
I would've said all of this too, but no need to. You saved me about 20 minutes of typing, LOL! I respect women and like the good ones, but they have NO IDEA how easy they have it in life.

[MCheetah]

I'll finish the rest for you.

14. Women aren't as strong as men, but PLENTY of women can do martial arts, lift weights, and kick the ass of an average man. Weak people CHOOSE to be weak.

15. Men aren't even allowed to cry and usually have way more burdens and responsibilities than women do. Women get to complain, men do not.

16. When a man gets shit on all day by women for the indecency of being born ugly or short and avoids complaining about it cause hell get called an incel/loser, and wakes up the next morning and goes on with his life protecting the women who hate him for existing without so much as complaining about it... If that's not strength, I don't know what is.

17 + 19. Men are not only expected to look good with NO shortcuts like makeup, high heels, and pushup bras like women have, but we are also expected to be confident, tall, funny, successful, smart, charming, fearless, etc. Women literally just have to look good and not be a bitch to find someone. But everyone is expected to "look good."

18. OH NO, people assume you can't drive. What a burden.

20. OH NO, people assume you can't be disgusting, even though this is a stereotype women themselves started and perpetuate. What a burden.

[MCheetah]

Things men are expected to be:
21. Good looking though hard work at the gym and no shortcuts.
22. Tall, despite our parents genetics.
23. Confident at all times, despite society favoring women due to them being the child-bearers and set up against all men except for the most wealthy and elite.
24. Interesting and engaging enough to keep a woman's attention and intrigue her.
25. Independent and successful before he meets the woman, despite success largely being based on a parents' wealth, connections, and career.
26. Stoic, because only whiny loser men and incels show emotion or ever complain.
27. A physical provider through being big, strong, powerful, brave and fearless.
28. A financial provider through a man's wages and income, even she doesn't want kids (which was originally the point).
29. A future and lifestyle provider through confidence and assertiveness.
30. Well endowed with a big enough dick and a great lover in bed.

[RavenQuill]

Look, while she was definitely exaggerating about a lot of stuff, some of it's very true. Especially the clothing thing. I have personally been assaulted multiple times, once wearing a hoodie and jeans when I was 12. Nothing sexual at all. You know where that happened? My middle school. And you know what the school did? Nothing. Because apparently I must have done something to encourage him. And trust me, some of her 'points' were absolutely ridiculous, but being scared every time I walk out my door? That's very real. I'm not trying to discredit men, I know y'all have your own unique struggles, but we do to.

[Catholicgirl22]

I dont like your take. I mean unless your a woman living in the 3rd world or Egypt or Saudi Arabia you have no real problems. I mean are trying to say that women are by nature victims and that being born with a vagina is a disability? Like 52% of the population is female.
It's guys I feel sorry for, they get such a hard time.

[Pinay_ako]

Girl, I lived and was born in a 3rd world country for 22 years... I understand you not liking it. Wow when did I ever say crying and having a vagina is a disability? whoah easy there.

[Catholicgirl22]

You have a whole list there. I guess I dont get where your coming from.
Danica Patrick sucks. She's won little to nothing. She's NASCAR's token female, more as eye candy for male fans to cream their shorts over a reasonably attractive woman doing anything.
https://goo.gl/images/wfk6vY

[MsShahad]

Why Egypt tho? 😂

[Phoenix98]

1. I was born a girl.
That's not really an issue.

2. Because of my gender, I don't get taken seriously.
Tons of people will take you seriously so long as your open to open discussion and debate, criticism and can actually back up your claims with legitimate information and facts, statistics.

3. If I speak my mind, I get called a bitch.
No if someone calls you a bitch it's normally because your acting like one.

4. Because I am a girl, I am supposed to know how to cook or do housekeeping.
Literally everyone should know how to cook, clean and take care of themselves there's no excuse to not know basic skills like that.

5. Because I am a girl, I am supposed to keep my body covered to prevent getting raped/catcalled.
That's just common sense and goes both ways.

6. I wear too much makeup or I don't wear enough.
Or could just use makeup to highlight already existing natural beauty and features like it was created to do.

7. If I am bitchy/moody/prissy, I am PMSing.
Because that's generally true, it's a fact that women are more bitchy, moody and prissy when they're on their periods.

8. I should be married or have kids before 30.
That stereotype goes both ways, men are viewed in a similar manner if they're single or not married late in life. and the kid thing is because it actually becomes increasingly dangerous at age 30 and after to bear children the risk for failure increases and so does the risk of the child dying during birth.

9. I am supposed to be smiling all the time.
Everyone should smile more, laughing and smiling is a simple pleasure in life and it's proven to help folks live longer.

10. I have my period.
Yeah a lot of guys are fine with periods once they know that's what is happening.

11. We can never have too many shoes, purses or lipsticks.
Fair enough

12. My body is supposed to be an hourglass.
IT doesn't have to be that is just one of the shapes that men find most appealing and that mainly has to deal with things we can't control as it's encoded in our DNA to be attracted to women who have hourglass shaped bodies. Because bigger breasts and butts are a sign of high estrogen which means a woman is more feminine a hourglass shaped body means a women is body is better for birthing children because of the wider hips, it's not something we have control over.

[Phoenix98]

13. I am supposed to wait for a man to make a move.
A woman can make the first move but most don't and a lot of you still want us to make the first move.

14. I am weak and I cannot do anything physical.
Vaginal muscles strength doesn't mean jack crap in terms of overall physical prowess, in all regards women are the physically the weaker sex in almost every way except that. That is a biological fact, it's why we dominate all physically labor jobs, law enforcement, military and exploration fields.

15. I am such a crybaby...
Women are more emotional and do cry and whine about more stuff, that's not exactly something you can help though it's thanks in part to women's higher estrogen levels and hormones.

16. I am not strong enough for life.
Well that's not true lots of women are mentally strong in ways that guys aren't likewise we're mentally strong in ways women aren't.

[Phoenix98]

17. I am supposed to look good and maintain myself all the time.
That goes for both men and women we should all take care of ourselves don't you think?

18. I am a bad driver.
Women are actually kind of worse drivers, more so now a days in the day and age of cellphones and texting.

19. Eating without getting fat.
women naturally have higher fat contents and gain fat more easily and it's more notable, that's just biology.

20. We don't fart or poop.
Nobody takes that seriously except for kids.

21. Hair in my face while wearing lip gloss.
That's probably a gay problem to.

22. Can't pee anywhere unlike you guys. When nature calls, a girl needs someone/something to cover us sit downs.
Well yeah you weren't born with a dick, your out of luck with that.

23. Marilyn Monroe moment when I am wearing a dress or a skirt on a windy day.
I don't really think that's much of an issue.

[Phoenix98]

24. I gotta get my nails done or else I am too basic or don't look after myself. NAH.
I don't think to many people care about that.

25. Hair everywhere in my house...
Have you seen my body? Hair everywhere.

26. Struggle between eating wings and going to the gym. Hmm wings sound good. Yumm
Or you could eat the wings and then go to the gym or just workout or eat the wings after working out since workout has a thing called the training effect where you body continues to burn fat for at least a day after working out.

27. Don't mistake my being nice as flirting. Geez take it easy, I don't want your # boi.
That's not just a female problem.

28. Buy more underwear/new sheets coz it looks like a crime scene there.
Got me there.

29. There is nothing to wear in a closet full of clothes!
Ever met a pretty boy or gay?

30. Having too much boobs or ass or having no ass or boobs at all. Faakkkk.
Then go for a nice toned body or just work your ass out, not that hard.

[Phoenix98]

Don't take what I was saying here seriously I was just bored and decided to reply to all this.

[DianaWest]

@Phoenix98, yes, the tragedies that men have to live with on a daily basis. Being sold into trafficking by their significant other, getting forced into porn, being molested as a child, being badly beaten, raped, and abused, and dealing with domestic abuse. Yes, these are all issues, that on average, deeply affect men. Especially since women are biologically built to be stronger than men. The world is real cruel to men. Not saying men have no issues either, or that their lives are any less precious and important to deal with, but you have to admit, victims of rape, domestic violence, molestation, human trafficking and forced pornography are typically women. and the perpetrators: typically men. She has not undermined men's issues, so don't belittle the issues that are very real and lethal for women.

[DianaWest]

yes, please do that. Say something demeaning and sexist, and then try and let it fly by covering it up with a "just kidding." Hee hee. Me too me too, hee hee.

[Phoenix98]

@DianaWest

[Phoenix98]

Oops, did not mean to have that blank.

As I said before, do not take this list seriously it was created for nothing more then to waste time. Something you would know if you read through the whole thing.

I am not going to play ball sorry, go start something with someone else, I am not interested.

[DianaWest]

Ha ha, you say that, but watch how quickly your fingers will start typing to respond to my opinions. When you make demeaning and ignorant remarks, they are not "jokes." They are real, and you know they are real. Otherwise, you wouldn't have wasted so much precious time responding to every single one of her points. 30 to be exact.

[DianaWest]

and yes, I did read through the whole thing, which is why I said, in my previous post, that when you sugar coat something and put the "joke" hood on, it means you are taking the cowards way out and trying to evade backlash. Like, honey, you are soo ugly and stupid, ha ha, just kidding babe. That's an example of evading backlash.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

1. I'm born a guy. Society: Pff who cares? Just die later on in life.
2. Do you think people care about men as much as women? It's always our fault when we vent.
3. You must be leaving in a society filled with assholes or it's just probably you. It can be vice versa too.
4. Because were men, were expected to work twice as hard in the industry, have nice car and be rich to support the family.
5. Less freedom of choice. We'd be called weak if we express a lot, called creepy for empathizing and showing our soft spot and an asshole for not caring at all.
6, 17. Because we have other beauty standards too other than being good looking. "I'm not gonna date you just because you're good looking" Yep pretty much lot's of guys get that. We need to have full set of hair, be tall, be muscular, be rich, owning a car, being successful and more.
7. We just have to assume anyway because that's what you always say when you're moody and grumpy.
8. Men avoid marriage now a days because of women becoming abusive after marriage and a high risk of divorce which is always our fault. Divorce is really expensive and men pays for it.
9. I don't think your'e smiling while making this post. Girls express their emotions more tho. Do you think they smile when they do it?
10. I see periods sucks and probably worse than our natural pain but we have struggles that we have to deal with our private part everyday, not every month. We pee with a consecrated urine in every uncontrollable morning wood which gives us high risk of kidney stones and having super fragile testicles alone are really uncomfortable. That's why men spreading exist. They ache and we have them forever. It gets worse as we grow older.
14, 18. Like what iv'e said, Not all men have the same testosterone level. All those flaws you said about being a girl, you're only good at it if you try. You don't even have to try because society is not expecting you to try. Not all men are good drivers but we get looked down by society. If you don't wanna drive because you're bad at it then it's your choice. Society don't take no from men.
15. It's true because if you aren't then you wouldn't have post something like that here. Men have problems like all of those too but we hide it better because no one just cares about men. You get all the emotional support you want and you still feel so oppressed. Vice versa, we'd be looked down by society and called weak. Take a look at the suicide rate of men. Less attempts but more success.

[MelaninDoll]

:( Omg, Do a mytake.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zOP793671p0 This vid scares me.

[LuckyEnough]

So much of this list is non gender biased, men have the exact same issue, or an equally shitty opposite to it. Sadly, we get called pussies for whining about it, but you get told, "that's not right, we gotta change that for equallity!!!". They are perfect examples of the shitty side of equality, and how's it's already here. A few others are valid, and not completely interchangeable with males issues... bit all those (and the vast majority of the first group) are how women specifically treat each other, not society as a whole, and certainly not by men. In fact, a couple of thoseid say men 100% disagree, and support women at, and are pissed we get the blame for other women judging you.

1) start stupid I guess... I have both gender kids. Daughter=one pregnancy to avoid, son = one everyday after he's 15, till death. The rest is female sexist self oppression, you can be a strong as you want ladies, that's on you. O, and that affects your parents, not you.

2) nobody gets taken seriously. all get mocked by all. Any boss in america, any gender, gets called a twit three seconds after they speak, by both genders.

3) No, if you use ZERO tact, and talk in an entitled manner, you're a bitch. Just like a pompous man. No one likes to be wrong, to anyone.

4) are you an adult? Cook and clean, period. Men too. I think this is a VERY small group of older men, and a large group of ignorant women that believe these are "women's work".

5) as usual, PEOPLE who pine bitterly about stereotypes, tend to not see their part in them. Mini skirt and tube top are clothes? For what? Looking like an easy whore. My point... If I (5'10, muscular, tats, above average package) approached you in a banana hamack, how much of what I say will be heard? Will you know what color MY eyes are? Dress the job want, right? Dress like a dumb whore, be treated like one. If a guy is in sweat pants, is he a slob, or a prince? What if you later found out that guy was worth 10 million? Still a slob to the next girl that sees him? Point made?

6) every guy has a different opinion on this. Stop telling us what we want please.

[LuckyEnough]

7) really? We do? We who? Everyone, guys, girls? I assume you mean people who know you, so they have a nicer reference as the norm? Otherwise, to a stranger, it's probably back to #3. So to a friend people say to you you're obviously on your period? Or are you implying you assume they are judging you as "ragging"? Cuz then it's you.

8) yeah, cuz men aren't judged ever for being single... and especially never based on being over 30... So your point is?

9) see 8, adjust to content...

10) I truly do appreciate that women have to deal with a very harsh road through biology in regards to childbirth, from menstration, to menopause, and every pregnancy in between. I am not denying the sacrifice here. But to demand special treatment, from everyone, for a week of every month... remember #7? Kinda seems like you might be on the rag... hahahaha. But seriously, nice double standard.

[LuckyEnough]

11) first, no, apparently we aren't allowed all the video games or cars we want... obviously. Apple's to oranges here anyway, so I'll just comment on shoes and makeup. Makeup easy. For me, I don't like it. Wife wears none, doesn't need it to be pretty, and I tell her enough that she feels pretty. If you need either of those to be met, then justify and fund it yourself. If a man likes you to wear it, he should shut the fuck up about the cost. We good here? On shoes though it's borderline crazy. I do get that shoes make the outfit (Like rims make the car), but I think a couple in black, a couple boots in black and brown, and a couple in other neutrals like gold, silver, and white, and there's no outfit you can't make work. So what, maybe 4 boots, and 5 shoes. Now count yours, and see what's left. Are they that amazing?

12) see #6. In adition, most of that stereotype is 100% self imposed based on media presentation. My perfect woman is nothing like your idea of what you should look like

[LuckyEnough]

12cont..) so, as the majority of women can be group as fuckable, even if by a limited market of men, but few are truly unattractive to any men, I gotta say it. Men have it worse. To have a chance he; MUST be taller, either muscular, chubby/cuddly, or the skinny guy, and be moderately hung.

13) Really? Ask a guy, bet he disagrees. It's women that judge each others promiscuity. Usually based on jealousy, either that she's getting better than her, or that she's having more fun, or getting more attention. A woman being direct, and forward doesn't make her a slut, unless it's an approach solely for sex. Men are seen as sluts too, but we are forced to be the ones to try, so it's easier to accept that we seem desperate than you. If for an actual attraction and pursuit of a relationship, I wish women would put on some grown up pants and do something too. Stop the stupid come get me game. Stop the tiny little hints; hair flip, blush, or lip lick shit. Grow up and take part in your life.

[LuckyEnough]

14) see #10. Your comparison is a matter of pain tolerance and endurance, not strength in a physical sense like the statement implied. Sorry ladies, USUALLY any group of girls Will be physically weaker than male counterparts. Just like less physically strong men, many women may experience being being too physically weak to perform some tasks in thus world. Sorry, but true. Not all cases, but USUALLY. Also, sometimes this can fall under chivalry. I like carrying things for my wife (or other women, or old men for that matter) because I have been raised to offer help. Not because it's needed, but because its nice. If I open a door for someone, anyone, am I implying they are too weak? How about carrying a grocery bag? Lighten up?

15) sounds like you do cry at a lot of things very easily. YOU do, not women. Women, by definition, are adults. Adults control their emotions to a level that is acceptable behavior for the company and situation. If in a safe place and company, emote away.

[LuckyEnough]

16) that is a form of strength. If that works for you, and gets the results you want, without depending on others to do for you... than nice job, way to muscle through. To me, and it seems to be how women see strength in terms of whay a man should be, strength is growing the fuck up, facing the problems of life, save crying for tears ofjoy upon victory, and go directly into kicking life's ass. Real strength doesn't wait to be ready, because life doesn't wait.

17) again... see #6. Plenty of hairsuite porn out there... just sayin. Okay, who says you can't jammy it out, and be "ugly"? ... what's ugly? No makeup, or perfume? GOOD. Imho, Bad enough yu cake it on in public.

18) So you didn't mention if YOU can drive... think about this; that EVERYONE thinks that EVERYONE driving in another car that is visible... is a complete moron, that is LITERALLY driving for the first time. Women perpetuate the stereotype, by holding a grudge that it was ever there.

[LuckyEnough]

19) eat what you want, and take personal responsibility for the body you have as a result. Take pride in yourself, for yourself, and fuck the opinions of select orhers. AGAIN see#6. Do guys have it any different, we get called fat, or a glutton too.

20) Maybe, just maybe, guys accept that, maybe, we honestly would rather you just fart. Maybe, if you didn't hold it in, girl farts wouldn't be 10 times as lethal as mens, lol. Seriously, another stereotyped opinion women claim men have, only held up by women. And... again... what about men? It's frowned upon to fart or announce a bm in front of a lady. It is on fact one of the thongs women use as ammo to call men "dishusting". So... doesn't that make women EQUALLY disgusting? How about this... EVERYONE should have tact about ALL bodily functions in terms of sharing them with others. Sound fair?

21) Easy. put your hair up, CUT it shorter, wear less lipstick/makeup, or... SHUT THE FUCK UP ABOUT PROBLEMS YOU MAKE FOR YOURSELF!

[LuckyEnough]

22) anywhere? Really? How about your lap? Or on the organ at church? Anywhere we can pee, you can too. If unable to use a tad of decorum and keep your snatch obscured, then enlist a friend to cover, or just maybe ask others to look away (how big of scumbags are you friends with?). Maybe grab a funnel and a hose, then you don't even need to squat, or pull you pants dow/dress up to do it. Is urination is really so hard as a woman? Feel like this topic is just to pad your list.

23) see the last sentanves of #21. STFU... or take responsibility for your actions, and wear pants on windy days. Or maybe wear panties, and accept that they may be seen, it doesn't matter, and only you are being judgy by assuming guys can't control themselves at the glimpse of a thigh.

24) holy shit please reread #6. You are the only one that cares! Screw your nail polish, the majority of men would SERIOUSLY prefer you trim them shorter anyway., and leave them plain so they don't chip and fall into food, etc.

[LuckyEnough]

25) everyone sheds hair, everyone. I assume you care, because they are longer, so more observable? If say you should cut it shorter, use a scrunchie, or... SHUT THE FUCK UP ABOUT PROBLEMS YOU MAKE FOR YOURSELF!!!

26) again, wow, MEN HAVE THE EXACT SAME PROBLEM!! HAVING A VAGINA DOESN'T MAKE YOU SPECIAL.

[LuckyEnough]

27) WOW!!! first, again, MEN too. Just because I smile at you, or say excuse me, let alone actually talk to you, let alone in a nice manner... we are all rock hard and eager to fuck. As if ANY interaction, even nonverbal, just a smile, is our way of trying to trick you into saying a word that starts with an "f", so we can layer tell the judge "I swear she was saying ""fuck me right now"". On this one, it's both your own perspective and judgent of men that makes it both a thought to you that you have it siooooo tough, AND that men have it infinitely harder, especially when women all seem to think it's on us to approach, on us to show interest, show increased interest, Chase while you test us, all to finally get the real you (maybe) so we can decide if we ACTUALLY like you. Hence why a lot of guys never call after one date. It's our first look at you that isn't 100% a game.

[LuckyEnough]

28) again, periods are a bitch, my sympathies, but yeah, seriously, if your inviting a partner to see your panties or sheets, have them be un blood stained. It's just common sense, like guys (or girls) not wearing undies with skidmarks, or full of holes. A little effort please.

29) again, YOU'RE PROBLEM AS A PERSON, NOT A WOMAN. EVERYONE struggles to have a fresh look to impress with.

30) last time... SEE #6!!! I MEAN SERIOUSLY, MEN ARE NOT UNIFORM IN OR WANTS. Women are the only ones perpetuating the "ideal" woman... i mean its not like women openly stating a guy has to be x tall, x handsome, or x hung to ride this ride...

[DianaWest]

ooo, and of course, every word used to demean a man is really targeted at degrading women, why do you get called a pussy for? A pussy is much stronger than a dick, your own tiny little ass popped out of one, so I would say that calling someone a "pussy" should be more of a compliment than a derogatory insult. Also, a man whore and a son of a bitch, yeah of course, men can't invent their own terms.

[DianaWest]

and who exactly experiences the highest rates of rape, domestic abuse, forced into human trafficking, molested, forced into pornography so that certain people can enjoy a nice "show," called whore, slut, dumb, demeaned and condemned for not being beautiful, yet condemned for being too beautiful and automatically judged as a conceited whore? Is it men or women? Who do parents abort in certain places around the world when they find out the sex of their baby? Is it girls or boys? And who gets sold to human slave traders by their own parents at the age of 5 so the family can get money to feed their big healthy boys that are essential to uphold the family name? And who gets stoned to death and killed in some non-democratic nations in the world for even daring to pick up a book, or glancing in the direction of a person who is not their significant other? And who is most likely to get forced into child marriage at the age of 7, and forced to get pregnant by 12, only to suffer miscarriage

[DianaWest]

after miscarriage, only to be discarded like human trash when they cannot conceive at least 7 sons. Now you tell me, is it a man or a woman?

[LuckyEnough]

@DianaWest what country are you from?

[DianaWest]

Hon, despite popular belief, human trafficking, domestic, abuse, child pornography, rape, molestation is a very real issue even in Western countries like the US and Canada. What is your point? In fact, prostitution is rather a very big business in Western countries. it is not something solely limited to the boundaries of developing nations. And the other stuff I wrote, well, considering that no nation is no longer made up of one nationality or ethnic background, and it is so diverse now, people from all over the world who live in France or England still practice their traditions: arranged marriage, selling their kids, female genital mutilation, even if some of those things are illegal in such nations. You'd be surprise how many things people can get away with, the police can't always know everything and save everyone unfortunately. I think her take wasn't very well done since she focused on the minutia, which can hardly be said to be female struggles. I don't think period cramps and

[DianaWest]

hair loss are comparable to the hell that some women have to deal with on a daily basis, regardless of the country they live in. I added the issues that happen predominantly in developing nations to help put things in perspective for you. Then again, for you to suggest that I am immune to rape, abuse, human trafficking, domestic abuse, just because I live in Canada is beyond ignorant. The world is a dangerous place, and although I think a lot of men are amazing, kind, and intelligent human beings, unfortunately there are some who do not fall into that category. And I do not deny men's problems. Men get raped too, abused, killed, sold into trafficking, but by whom? The ring leaders are usually men, and the victims are usually women. Do you disagree? I suppose next you are going to tell me that drug trafficking is not an issue that the US faces.

[LuckyEnough]

@DianaWest my point is, if replying to MY opinion, maybe pretend that as a woman, you respect me as a PERSON enough to read it. I red the entire "my take". I read all of your reply. Half of it isn't ever things I said. Hair loss? Hell, I made a huge point of the entire biological side of childbirth from first menstruation to menopause is shotty, and thanked you all. Way to prove my point. ANY TIME A MAN ASKS FOR REAL EQUALITY, WE GET TOLD ITS STILL 1950. IT'S NOT.

[DianaWest]

this is not about "equality." This is about fact, and while you're whining about your "problems," some people are getting killed and forced to abort their new borns because they are girls. If you want "equality," talk about some real problems that men face, like being fucked over by the justice system, where apparently there is a law that states men can never be raped by women, which I think is complete bullshit. I am not a feminist, or against men, I am just saying that if you want me to take your issues seriously, talk about some serious issues. Not about video games and cars, or sex and promiscuity. I can't hardly label those "problems."

[LuckyEnough]

Laslty, the take, was about the DAILY struggles of women. It was IMPLIED in this country, since it labeled all of the MIS conceptions found here. I responded about the DAILY struggles listed, about this country, and merely pointed out many are straight up false, others are women labeling each other, and nearly all are a directly equally struggle for men, not to mention the coupe that are problems only there because the individual "struggling" caused them. Nearly. all of your examples, are not daily, and not every e9mans struggle. And again, many men have struggle with also, here, and especially overseas. Rape, asdault, trafficking, prostitution (you've heard of ldyboys right?), has victims in both genders. Again, thank you for proving my point.

[DianaWest]

yeah, no not really. You think you;ve proven something, but when you validate yourself, that is just idiotic.

[LuckyEnough]

@DianaWest again, thank you. Yes the entire nature of this my take was idiotic. Isn't the op's entire take one big boohoo, tell me I'm a hero? Can I ask one more time that you reply to either her original my yake, or ANY of my replies? Nowhere in my original replies do I state men have it harder. I staed we have equal struggles. I stated many listed were at her own causing, so tough shit. And i stated that a few were judgement from other women, if as a gender it pisses you off, then as a gender stop it. I nowhere said any of the from a mans side struggles unless as exactly the same. Nowhere do I imply anything other than we should stop this party shit and strive for actual equality. That neither team piss and moan for sympathy. So yes, it is pathetic to list your problems, and beg for sympathy. Sadder yet to defend it against anyone who has an opinion That we ALL struggle. Wow. I'll hold my breath till your reply that will no doubt insult me, and reaffirm MY implied entitlement.. lol

[LuckyEnough]

I think maybe you should read the women's opinions... some of them very much agree with the men in here with enough tact to focus on it being about women's struggles, and simply point those three things out. That it's not female specific, that it's caused by themselves, or caused by other women. As for the men crying it's worse for us... they are just as pathetic, and just as ignorant of the definition of equality.

[DianaWest]

hmm, you say we should stop whining about struggles, yet the first thing you do is you start typing a refutation to each one of her points. These points, no offense to whomever wrote them, are bullshit. And you think they are not "daily" struggles of women? Because yes, rape can happen on any day to any woman. If you had not been an ass about it and responded more respectfully, perhaps on the lines of, "I agree that both men and women have struggles in their lives, and I sympathize with both sides. I also think women are a tad bit more disadvantaged than men" then we would reach a consensus. But no, you had to be an ass about it and go on demeaning each one of our "struggles." Okay, maybe what she wrote wasn't all that serious, but what I get from your take is that women have no struggles, that men and women have equal struggles, which they don't, not really. And yes, daily. Date rape drugs, check, assholes in bars and clubs, double check, boyfriends who sell you into prostitution,

[DianaWest]

these are clearly not "daily" struggles because people only go to bars and night clubs on special occasions, like Christmas and New Years. Also, you see that this Take wasn't serious, so why try to prove something by responding with equally mediocre or less than comebacks? Video games? Seriously? That is a man's "struggle." My how hard you must have it. I got triggered because you seemed to undermine our "struggles" in such a childish and immature way. If you are going to mention struggles, at least talk about something serious like prostate cancer or unequal and sexist laws/discrimination, etc. And you keep insisting we have daily struggles, which just really is not the case. Daily, believe it or not, for a lot of women, is more dangerous than for men. Are you afraid for your life to walk home at night, or when a man with a hood walks behind you? Since you deem her take to be crap, why bother even responding to it? Hair loss, really? Yes, I know, oh the struggles of humanity, we must

[DianaWest]

strive for equality.

[DianaWest]

and why would my replies "insult" you? I did not call you a piece of shit, did I? If all it takes to "insult" you is mere disagreement, then I feel very sorry for you. You will get a lot of "insults" in life.

[DianaWest]

Also, in response to your bit about men having same issues regarding sexual assault: rape, assault, trafficking, sweetie pie, affects mostly women than men. Thank you for proving my point. There are approximately 20 to 30 million slaves in the world today. According to the U. S. State Department, 600,000 to 800,000 people are trafficked across international borders every year, of which 80% are female and half are children. www.dosomething.org/.../11-facts-about-human-trafficking

[DianaWest]

Final thought, for now: Where in her take did she take on a patronizing tone and be all like: Men have no problems. Fuck men, women have the most serious issues, yeah? All she did was give HER OPININON on what she THOUGHT were issues for women. You are the one who got so ass hurt that you had to be so rude and start insulting her, attacking her character, and her friends. For the record, no, I can't go behind a tree to pee. But that isn't really a problem when you compare it to domestic abuse, now is it? Which is a daily struggle because many women, not just one or two, suffer from it, and it can happen at any time. Yes, women are usually less physically stronger than men, and so abuse/assault is our daily peril. I am not saying that you would ever hit a woman, just that there are enough men who would. And I don't think a woman has the right to hit a man, so don't give me a lecture on how horrible feminism is. I know already that feminists have gone off the equality path and are now

[DianaWest]

the nice walk towards matriarchy. I will just let you continue living with the delusion that men and women are equally disadvantaged in their "daily" struggles.

[LuckyEnough]

@DianaWest by the way... that last sentence DOES state that YOU believe women have it worse DAILY. You also finally admit that feminism goal is not equality. So many times throughout this you've been a perfect example to prove me right, again, thank you.

I'd like to mention the ONLY insults were on the topics that are only a struggle if SHE personally makes them one, like; hair in her lip gloss? I mean cmon, it would be like me complaing that men are downtrodden because of getting busted knuckles from fixing the car... answer, then dont fix it, send it to a mechanic. It is our responsiblity to do auto care, but not personally. My STRUGGLE is mute. As far as abuse, yes some do get abused (men too), and mentally as well (feeling like more often men), but it matters not. Unless you are implying ALL men beat women, and it's accepted, it's not a womans struggle, it's a struggle for individual women (and men), and ultimately, only till the person leaves the abuser, which should be after once.

[DianaWest]

hmm, why am I wasting my time trying to enlighten a man who is so fixated on his own delusions that he will never see the light? You know what, stop wasting my time. I have better things to do, like study for the LSAT.

[LuckyEnough]

Oh yeah, by the way, you can squat anywhere you like, I've seen it done. Hell, I've even seen the funnel trick once when a female friend (very drunkenly) was arguing with a guy that women are superior, because the CAN work to be as strong as men, and the entire childbirth process thing (which again, I do see, and respect) and that there's nothing a guy can do that a girl can. He laughed, and told her to go write her name in the snow. She went straight to the garage, grabbed a funnel, went outside, pantsless, and proved him wrong.

Oh, and by the way, she did call anyone she imediatly rejected from across the room, on sight aline, that would approach her a boi. That's a slang term for a effeminate gay bottom. Yeah, that's a nice complimentary term here, right?

[DianaWest]

P. S. I love men, there are some very wonderful men out there, so don't take what I said personally. I know men have many issues, men get abused/raped/killed too, and sometimes by crazy ass women. But for you to say men get abused by women as often as men abuse women is like saying that children are capable of abusing adults as often as adults are capable of abusing children. I am not trying to demean women here. just that men are biologically stronger than women, maybe not all, and women are powerful in their own way, but you cannot deny that a man will usually always win in a fist fight against a woman.

[LuckyEnough]

@DianaWest apparently there's a ridiculously fine line between loving men, and judging them all as wife beating, hateful, whiny pussies. Nowhere did I say the abuse factor was equal, except in mental abuse. I only mentioned how you imply we are all abusive, or will be at any moment. That we ALL are just one wrong move by you away from a beat down. As well as stating that it IS a gender mutual thing. I also stated that it IS a struggle that needs only be has once if it does come up, otherwise it's the abused ones fault for staying. Self imposed struggle again. Most men only get slapped, pushed, or struck once, feel disrespected, and move on. I'm not going to pretend to understand why women stay. I repeat, quantity of cases (individual cases) doesn't make it a gender issue. Or are you implying a man that is abused in any way is classifyable as a woman in the relationship? Because the abuser is in the male classification? Seems like quantity doesn't justify each cases worth. Just saying

[LuckyEnough]

Also, modern "men", are not built like they used to be. As a gender average they are much less physically strong then in past generations. Also, as ANY violence, even in sporting events is adamantly disapproved, we no longer have much more experience at being physical in a violent manner than women. It is being bred out of us, mind and body. But ues, there is still a slant to quantity, but that's not the point. The point was that crying for sympathy, from your peers (whom have none because they are equally downtrodden), or from men (the opressors!, who have equal though often different issues) is jyst pathetic, unless you acknowledge the people you are crying to... wanna cry just as much. In the case of men... we aren't allowed. Obviously by your attitude up till this last message. Thank you for coming down from your tower.

[DianaWest]

Congratulations. I'll let you live with the delusion that you've won this argument. I have more productive things to do.

[DianaWest]

hee hee

[DianaWest]

wow, I am surprised you didn't block me yet, that's usually what people do when they've lost an argument.

[Jjpayne]

it much easier looking to the other side of the fence. It hurts me daily that I am assumed to bad because I am a man. All men are bad right? and are no good for you. I also am a rapist until proven otherwise. All men can think about is sex and of course that's all they want right? Men would love to have women talk to them but men talking to women is not so easy. But women can freely talk to other women. It is tough being separated from the female population. Women have many support goods just for them where are the male support groups? If I want to have a friendly conversation a little kid in the park obviously I have more than innocent intentions. Being able to have your own child is a beautiful thing, to have a life growing inside of you. Men are just the one's dragged along because they supplied the sperm. whup de do! Women get to experience the fullness of pregnancy and encouragement. I understand they do all the work but do you think that all men would not like to share in the process, I am sure I am not the only one. Yes, its painful but it is beautiful. and clothes, they can be a burden but compared to shirts and pants, it makes me sick to my stomach having to look in the mens section it is borning and makes me feel like I am shopping for office supplies. It is not pleasurable or fun, it is just necessary. You get to dress according to season, according to your mood, you can wear dresses for a week, then go to leggings, then go to skirts, then go to jumpsuits, the outfits choices are seemly endless. Have you seen a girl without makeup, in some cases it can look pretty bad, have you seen a guy without makeup, oh wait they can't wear any. oops! Being able to feel sexual and attactive is more easiler as a woman, ever if you do have weight trouble. Guys don't get as much attention for weight trouble but if they want to get a girl to look they need abs and a flat stomach. Oh, hair and nails is another thing. Do you think guys don't want a mani pedi too? or get our hair in a different style. You see much of this is supported by social norms on both of our sides. We both have stuggles and I can't tell you the pain of having barriers keeping me away from spending time with girls. Spending time with other men can be pretty boring sometimes, there are times where I want the company of girl buy society states that men cannot be trusted, men only represent the worse, and that all they want is sex. All I want is a fu#king conversation, is that too much to ask

[Dim1213]

true man

[Jjpayne]

@Dim1213

Thanks Dim1213!

but Pinay_ako I am not saying I don't feel your pain.

But men and women go through the same stuggles. Now I am a white caucasian man, highest on the chain right? No! My ancestors before me helped pave the way for non-white cacausian men. We treated others terribly, disrespectfully and we held many privileges from other groups, that were not us. Now, I'm stuck in a group of men that is slowly giving their rights taken away because of what my forefathers did. and beileve me, out group deserves it. we have abused it for far too long. But where is the balance made? When is enough, enough? I am poor, with a little social network of friends. I am not setting behind a big desk smoking a cigar in a classy buisness suit.

sorry too much of a rabbit trail. But I am all for equality and the breaking of social barriers

There need to be more feminine men and more masculine women. Basically, we all need allitle bit of both genders.

[Jjpayne]

I think that might be the next strive towards equality. Allowing for full expression of genders and not being restricted by the social norms. I am not sure what that will look like in practice but we for sure need more of it. Now I am not saying that girls cannot be girly or men cannot be manly what I am saying is that we should be allowed to express ourselves in both genders, after all, we are both the same in the womb. Society is what makes us the most different. Thank you for posting this Pinay_ako!

[Jjpayne]

I guess I went into that white man rant because of something I posted from my textbook "the number of white males entering the workforce is steadily decreasing"

It just frustrates me even further that not only does my gender restrict me but also being a white male. Which means in a funny way that women will more likely be higher or white men because it appears better for business.

[Jjpayne]

*hired

This is also going off of the ideals of business so in the real business world this could be different

[Ginfiend]

This is why the "not all men" is such a problem- It's not that you personally are a misoginistic assaulting rapist, this shit deflects from the uncomfortable topics about assault and rape. Don't sit and tell us you aren't, help us stop the bastards who are so we can feel safer and you feel less accused in the process.

Women have so many support groups because they are historically repressed, women have so many clothes because society expects them a certain way for the male gaze- but there are just as many out there men's stores- you just have to look in the right place. That girl without make up shouldn't be told she looks bad, and men can, and do wear makeup- especially of late, and get manipedis- salon I go to has 50% male clients. How do you know? Ever heard of dad bod? We're not skinny?- We're just fat.

When we campaign for equality, we campaign for reducing male suicide rates= CALM, lifeline, parental not just maternity leave, so much- Don't bitch, help us bloody change it

[Jjpayne]

@Ginfiend Fair enough. I can't argue you with there. It still does not change however how I feel. Think and feel are two different ideas. It does change the way I think. and it does give me a call to action.

[Ginfiend]

I don't want you to feel unsupported or like you're regarded as a threat, but women often feel that too especially around kids. We need to make men more able to emotionally express themselves, women less judged and everybody, k especially children and he vulnerable safer.

[Jjpayne]

@Ginfiend I agree, both sides need to be addressed. I would like a society where people learn to trust each other more. I know that's not possible now but I would like it to be a goal to have in the future. I think just having more people being able to trust would make a world of different for both genders. When I posted, did get into rant mode. but my goal was to show that just because you are a girl does not mean you suffer more. I beielver both genders suffer equally in different ways. It is always easier to say the grass is greener on the other side until you get there. and I should take my own advice on that

[SirRexington]

Periods suck. I'll agree with you there, I'd be a bit temperamental too if I had that for a week every month of my adult life. That's why we ask when you are acting a little different than usual.
Also women are more emotional by nature than men.
You can dress however you want. Just understand everything you do has a consequence sadly. Better be safe than sorry. Plus, even if the fear of rape wasn't a factor, it's still more respectable if you don't show off what your momma gave ya.

The makeup thing is tricky because men prefer natural color. But it can also be used to accentuate your lips and eyes to promote that you are ready to mate.

Women on average do not have the same muscle density of men nor strength, upper body that is. Women naturally have stronger legs than men. So that's why we view you as "fragile".

I don't understand the smiling thing. My mom says she has experienced this a lot too. You are right, you are smiling because you are having something to smile at. If you aren't smiling then there is obviously nothing around you giving you the need to smile.

Men are torn on whether a curvy or a skinny girl is attractive. We haven't decided, well I have. Having some meat on you is definitely more attractive.

I don't want kids til I'm in my 30s. I don't want to waste my best years trying to provide for some kid. Even if it is my own. So yeah, don't worry about the age thing. I think that exists because a lot of people seem to think that having kids is worse or leads to more complications once you hit your thirties. I do not see any evidence to support that though.

Everyone should put effort into themselves. If they don't, that's their decision. But again, every decision has consequences.

Society hasn't seemed to get that women can't approach men? No. Women haven't seemed to get that. Men have been saying that for years. We WANT you to approach us first, trust me.

The I'm not strong enough for life thing? That has zero correlation to your specific gender. That's every human on the planet. As is most of these complaints.

Women gain weight easier than men. But men have it more difficult to lose weight, or more specifically, fat.

[StrangerByTheDay]

Thank you for that wonderful writing and post dear Pinay Ako!
I totally agree with on mostly everything you have said.
Before I share any opinion, I just want to say I love and respect women more than anything else. We all have mothers and we all have known the struggle life put them through while we were growing up. The effort they have put into raising us, taking care of the roof we live under, taking care of her man and during the day going to work just like everybody else!
I totally respect every single word you have typed.
If I may add, women are stronger than men, indeed.
In my own opinion, if men were able to take away pregnancy and period pain away, I would certainly do it for the woman I am sharing my life with.
As for the physical looks, tall/short, breasts small/large, behind flat/bubbly, those are unfair judgments from shallow people.
Drivers, as matter of fact, here in Lebanon, it is indeed not about male or female, it is only a "Bad Driver" thing due to the fact people get their driving license as a gift when they turn 18 years old, regardless if they know how to drive! No one can argue with them because their parents are filthy rich or know someone in the police and Gov.
There is something most of us still don't see clear. As humans we are evolving, technology is making the society worst, and still the majority is hanging on old traditional "he says she says".
My father died when I was 11 years old and my single mother raised me, so I do exactly know how hard it is.
Regardless of the gender, we are humans and we should have the same rights. There are women leading countries, and at the same time, being a mother and a wife. I rarely see a man coming home and sharing the tasks with his wife, at least what I have personally seen.
Sharing the tasks under the roof we live with our life partner is fun. Yes, we are exhausted from a hectic day at work, so the female is!
If she is cooking, I can help the children with the homework.
If she is washing the dishes, then I could be cleaning after dinner.
I always get people telling me "you are not macho. you are not a man. etc..." why? because I share the pain women struggle with nowadays? As far as I know, they are human too, like us, but a gender stronger than men. There would not be life on earth without a female, not only because she gives birth, but because she takes care of her HOME more than anybody else and protects it without the need of "Macho Muscles"!!
Thank you for sharing those struggles.

[Anonymous]

No offense, but a lot of these are stupid and not that big of a deal in the 21st century, especially if you're dealing with the west.

1. I was born a girl.
-For your case which you specifically mentioned, You're dad not knowing how to raise a girl is not a big deal. He is the opposite sex, so of course he's not going to be 100% confident and worry about protecting his girl. A lot of this has to do with biology as well

2. Because of my gender, I don't get taken seriously.
-Since when and by who in this day and age? You have experienced this at work?

3. If I speak my mind, I get called a bitch.
-have you ever been called a bitch for speaking your mind? I feel like a lot of this stems from pop culture which isn't that relevent.. and I think the stereotype goes more about being bossy. Also Guys get called dicks or assholes for being jerks which is the male equivalent.

4. Because I am a girl, I am supposed to know how to cook or do housekeeping.
-Unless you're really marrying into a traditional family, that's not an issue in the 21st century. Oh and if it is, they will expect the guy to be a gentleman and a breadwinner, and helping out his wife too.

5. Because I am a girl, I am supposed to keep my body covered to prevent getting raped/catcalled.
WHo the hell gets called a prude for covering themselves? lol. Yes, I do think there is some stigma for showing too much skin, but if you live in a developed country, no you're not asking to get raped for wearing really revealing clothing. There's assholes out there, but you're protected for the most part by society

11. We can never have too many shoes, purses or lipsticks.
-This is all on you, Nobody cares how many you have.

12. My body is supposed to be an hourglass.
Both men and women are expected to be fit and are barraged by ads from the media

13. I am supposed to wait for a man to make a move.
I hate this too, but how in the world does this a struggle for you? You literally lose nothing from this either way, and vast majority of men would love that you make a first move.

17. I am supposed to look good and maintain myself all the time.
Literally everyone is expected of this. I do agree that having to shave is bullshit though. This wasn't a thing until recently a couple decades ago.
23. Marilyn Monroe moment when I am wearing a dress or a skirt on a windy day.
Not a big deal. Don't wear a dress or skirt

24. I gotta get my nails done or else I am too basic or don't look after myself.
Guys really don't care

[11110000bbbb]

1. I was born a girl.
Congratulations! It's a girl. Your dad is overjoyed! He is now the father of a baby girl, his little princess. But don't lie dads. You're overcome with fear as well. Having a daughter is so scary. That means you either have to take her to self defense class or kick some boy's ass in the future.
Response: I never knew my dad and my step dad well, it's not only Men he's worried about.
2. Because of my gender, I don't get taken seriously.
Yes. Because I am a girl, I don't get the job position or my opinion is taken lightly or even ignored. Or I get rejected simply because I look like a girl, fragile and weak. Or if I do get the position of high rank, I get silently mocked or ridiculed behind my back. Sometimes I get challenged like I have to defend why I am in that position or how I got it usually coupled with malice... Annnnd I still get paid less.
Response: Yea well I don't know about work but sometimes it does seem my opinion isn't acknowledged.
3. If I speak my mind, I get called a bitch.
If I dare open my mouth and is against the norms, I get called out a bitch. I get called a bitch if I have a very strong opinion when people try to bring me down or call me out because they don't like what they see or think of me.
Response: Well I don't know my opinion is really different on a lot of things, I don't think people Like it.
4. Because I am a girl, I am supposed to know how to cook or do housekeeping.
If I don't know how to cook, my future mother in law will either wrinkle her nose in disgust or scold me for not knowing how to keep a man and a house and kids. Cooking and housekeeping are a must for her grown up son to marry me or else...
Response: Well I wish to do all of that plus everything else a woman should do. This is not a struggle. Not usually anyway.
5. Because I am a girl, I am supposed to keep my body covered to prevent getting raped/catcalled.
If I am showing too much skin, I have no respect for myself and I am asking for it. If I am all covered up, I am such a prude.
I love to cover up. It's preferred.

[11110000bbbb]

6. I wear too much makeup or I don't wear enough.
I don't wear makeup and I Don't Care.
7. If I am bitchy/moody/prissy, I am PMSing.
Actually I don't wanna be in trouble so, letting the natural cycle go won't work.
8. I should be married or have kids before 30.
I don't mind.
9. I am supposed to be smiling all the time.
I think this is rarely ever talked about to me
11. We can never have too many shoes, purses or lipsticks.
lol I have what like 1 or 2 pairs of shoes. No lipsticks and a few cheap $3-5 purses.
12. My body is supposed to be an hourglass.
Lol I'm Not Gonna Be a Model, Chill.
13. I am supposed to wait for a man to make a move.
haha yea it can go either way but... I'm too shy most of the time and plus. I don't do that anyway.
14. I am weak and I cannot do anything physical.
Haha well if I can help someone move I can help. I am not weak lol.

[11110000bbbb]

15. I am such a crybaby...
Well, maybe it's just I can cry, and so can anyone else.
16. I am not strong enough for life.
Well I don't know I'm not gonna cry over somethings stupid i don't think that's not strong enough.
Chill I can handle my emotions.
17. I am supposed to look good and maintain myself all the time.
haha yea looking good at least presentable but maintaining hygiene is a Must.
18. I am a bad driver.
Well I guess we'll have to see in a few years.
19. Eating without getting fat.
lol Yeah hear it almost everyday.
20. We don't fart or poop.
lol
21. Hair in my face while wearing lip gloss.
yea understandable but I rarely ever wear that

[11110000bbbb]

22. Can't pee anywhere unlike you guys.
lol yea parents on vacation or something and I have to use the restroom well I'll just not use the restroom for 2 hours or better.
23. Marilyn Monroe moment when I am wearing a dress or a skirt on a windy day.
Rarely ever even wear skirts
24. I gotta get my nails done or else I am too basic or don't look after myself. NAH.
lol Haram
25. Hair everywhere in my house...
lol never happens
26. Struggle between eating wings and going to the gym. Hmm wings sound good
Yea wings are very good, and I never go to the gym. lol
27. Don't mistake my being nice as flirting. Geez take it easy, I don't want your # boi.
lol right
28. Buy more underwear/new sheets coz it looks like a crime scene there.
never happened
29. There is nothing to wear in a closet full of clothes!
lol I have some to wear but not a closet full of clothes
30. Having too much boobs or ass or having no ass or boobs at all. Faakkkk.
Eh, I don't care lol I'll be myself

[Anonymous]

This is coming from my perspective
1. true, but I don't mind this though
2-9, 24: You are basically complaining about what other assholes tell you. You do not have to listen to them. People do not normally think this way. If people are treating you like that you do not have to be around them
10: A valid point
11: Video games are meant to kill time and have fun. Cars are meant to get from point A to B. Soes protect your feet. Like movies, video games have different genres, unique plots, and gameplay styles, making them worth collecting. Cars are made for different climates, one is more meant for snow than the other, that is mainly the only difference and they are very expensive so it's logical to just buy one suited for your climate and stick with it. All shoes serve the same purpose but are for different occasions. Expensive, but much less than cars. You should really just have one pair for each occasion and that's it.
13. Walking up to a guy might be more beneficial to you and him. Guys have a hard time telling if you like him especially if you are playing hard to get. Try it sometime and you won't regret it
14. The ability to deal with pain, such as childbirth, does not equate to physical strength. If you work out your arms, you can get the jar open or lift the furniture no problem.
15. You do not treat this as if it is a problem here.
16,17, 19 & 26. Guys have these issues as well. Think hard about if you want to date a fatass. Yeah, we usually don't either.
18. You talk about how men are bad drivers and not women (which is the whole point of this).
20. You said it yourself, you are just as bad as we are except we do not bleed (actually we can we just get nosebleeds) and that makes no noise so bleeding should have next to no embarrassment if you use a pad or a tampon.
21. No one said you HAVE to wear lip gloss, that was your choice
22. A valid point but we do this to poop anyway.
23. It was your choice to wear a dress unless you are going somewhere fancy in which you shouldn't be outside for long.
25. if you had a cat or a dog this is the same issue because of shedding
27. Most guys cannot tell whether you are flirting or not. Tell them no if they try to ask you out and be done with it.
28. Again, dudes get nosebleeds as well as sweat. Underwear might not be an issue but bed sheets are.
29. Just pick the first one you see and you will be fine. I promise
30. It is all preferences. Some dudes don't care how big either of them are and that's ok.

[Lovvyyy]

If I'm ignoring a point, it just means that I'm agreeing with it.
1. How is that a bad thing?
2. I got my current position BECAUSE I'm a girl.
3. It's not having a strong opinion that makes you a bitch, it's the way you present it. And the same goes for men, just the term is "jerks".
4. No, you are supposed to be able to do that because you are a human being over 15.
5. Whoever says "you are asking for it" is a an asshole. BUT, knowing that there are rapists in this world, I defend myself by not triggering them.
6. This whole point is called "having a good taste".
7. It's a joke.
8. Nobody has ever told me what I should do in regard, nor my family, nor my friends.
9. Where do you live to having been told such things?
12. I guess I was lucky, and this by the way applies to both gender. I rejected many guys because they were too short or not muscular enough.
13. That's not true. I do wait for them, but just because I want them to prove to be man enough. My point being if you are chased, you better run.
14. What does being able to give birth has to do with being able to lift weight? Those are too completely unrelated tasks. Men are, USUALLY, stronger than women. Period.
15. That's you, not us.
17. Once again, this is an over 15 trait. Or over 5, for what I care. If a guy isn't at his top 24/7 I won't bother stick around him.
19. Still, both genders. Everyone should be very meticulous while planning what to eat.
I'll ignore 20-29 because those are not exactly the most interesting things to comment on.
30. "Having too much boobs" has never been something I've been criticized for, but having been a late bloomer I agree that having none can be frustrating. You can always work on your ass.

[jjjoanaaa]

Why can't you read this without having to mention your problems too? The opposite sex I mean. Nowhere in this take is written "guys don't have any struggles". She's only telling about our struggles like you would share anything else. Why does it affect you so much? If you think that there should be also a 30 Daily Struggles of Being Male that's okay! Go write it, I would love to read it, but there is no need to be hating on the person who wrote this, she's only trying to make guys understand how some of us feel everyday.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

This is an opinion section. Isn't it? Were not even saying we have it worse when we just post our opinion. Why are are you so triggered assume were being hateful? You should be specific to men who are actually being hateful here. We men are just too underrated and no one cares if we post mytakes like this so we do it in a popular mytake instead. I'm pretty sure there are girls who would post their problems as an opinion too if we do it. It's not a big deal. It's just an opinion unless they bash.

[LuckyEnough]

Sadly... here you are, making the thread about men, with zero input on the topic... just sayin, I know you're just "speaking your mind", but attacking in a completely off topic manner, and then as an address to ALL male replies... kinda makes you seem bitchy...

Also, many replies including mine, only point out that many to most are either made up by women and from women (SO DO SOMETHINF ABOUT IT AND STOP CRYING), or equally an issue for men and there for a struggle of PEOPLE, not WOMEN. Any time men try to remind women we are all PEOPLE and not only they matter... we get attacked, often with name calling, see use of the slang term for a effeminate gay bottom "boi" in #26 . By #5 i was wondering how long it would be before the name calling...

[russiecantsing]

Just because someone is sharing their pain and letting you know what women go through does not mean that they are in anyway saying that men don't go through things. That's like telling me "Oh you can't tell your friend that your mom died yesterday because her fish died last week." Or "Yeah you just got shot in the foot, but I don't really care because lots of other people get shot in the foot too. It's not all about you."

We're not in anyway saying that your problems are less than ours everyone has issues no matter gender, race, etc. You're tired of hearing us complain? The amount of times we have to hear you cry about sports and blue balls? God, I swear men on are on their period 24/7. Honestly if my period would stop bringing me misery every month, I'd stop complaining about it every month.

[Jon_25]

What are blue balls? I've never heard that before.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And this is why I dislike stereotypical dudes when they about sports. I don't even watch sports. But what you said about that 24/7 period is actually true but really mild only few guys
can feel it. Our hormonal cycle happens daily. Blue balls can happen often too for no reason. Our testicles are just so fragile. I'm in pain 24/7 due to infertility that's cause by unknown reason. I've been like this for almost a year and the only cure is a surgery which is risky but I'm kinda busy for it. I don't always complain because ehh you're problems are always worse and no one just care because I'm a dude. :/ Guys who complains about small stuff, that's a valid point. They just ruin men's reputations. Men just mature slower but when we do, were more matured according to my poll.

[russiecantsing]

@Aiko_E_Lara We care. Sorry to hear that, a problem is a problem and it's no one's place to decide which is worse, especially when you haven't been through the both.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Oops I missed a word hehe. *complain about sports. And its ok. Nature just chose me and there's nothing I can do.

[russiecantsing]

@Aiko_E_Lara same for us.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

One more thing. I'm pretty sure if a guy posts a take like this, The opposite sex would start bashing too. It's everywhere tho. No escape from it. We just have to accept the fact that the world is filled with butthurt people now a days. No sex specified.

[russiecantsing]

@Aiko_E_Lara I honestly don't think it would evoke such a response as this one. We're actually curious and I feel like women are open to this sort of thing. But true there are definitely some women who think that their issues are bigger than life itself as are there men...

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I just read your opinion again and its all clear now. Most opinions from men are just us sharing too. When you compared humans and fishes, are you saying that our problems are like a fish compared your problems? We care but what else do you want us to do then? Say sorry every time someone posts stuff like this? That would be boring. Society has given you more rights than us tho. This is an opinion section isn't it? And were not even bashing. I know some guys are so be specific to guys who are actually bashing here or it just makes you seem a little bitchy complaining about us just sharing our opinion. Just saying.

[russiecantsing]

@Aiko_E_Lara The entire point of my opinion was to say that we're We're not at all complaining about you sharing what you have to say. I, for one, absolutely don't think men should have to apologize for anything that women go through. It's not their fault, just like its not ours. ALSO WHOOOAAA YOU WANNA TALK ABOUT SOCIETY GIVING SOMEONE MORE RIGHTS? Anyway all I was attempting to explain is that I believe the point of this post was just to let men know what women go through, but I don't know, I didn't write it. The response was simply shocking to me, now I guess I know how men really feel.

Again, I'm not saying anyone's problems are less than someone else's. You could really love that fish. I just used the fish as a way to explain how some things people are comparing here are extremely different from the original topic.

I apologize if I came off in any way offensive, and I agree that everyone is entitled to their own opinion I was simply sharing what I thought and hoping to...

[russiecantsing]

clear some things up for those who were so upset about the original post. But am I now very happy to forget this entire post ever happened because I find everything quite ridiculous.

P. S. This is why when you ask us what's wrong we say nothing. If we say something, we're called Bs, if we don't, we're called Bs?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@russiecantsing Actually you're less likely to be called BS if you don't drama like that but open up in a serious conversation. I know there are some who calls you BS but again, you don't have to assume all. Society still believes you even if you lie and play victim so you have that reputation. Get over it. My point? Don't assume all. Also I'm not assuming no one cares about men but we just have way lesser support than you.

[Angelina25]

You won't believe my experience with the last one.
So basically, my aunt comes up to me and tells me "How many guys have you had sex with?" and I'm like," what? I'm a fucking Virgin "

Aunt; " Ofc not. You have big boobs. Bigger than mine and I've had to breastfeed 3 kids. You have surely lost your virginity. Or e I se you've gotten a surgery."

Dumbstruck.

[OldSchool_Metalhead]

some aunt you got lol

[Angelina25]

@OldSchool_Metalhead
Horrible relatives. They belong to some different species altogether.

[sawno]

Looks like number 10 and number 25 are the only actual female issues on the list. Everything else seems to be a personal struggle with what you perceive society to expect from you and a personal struggle with yourself where you are pressuring yourself on one hand to fill in this role and at the other hand rebel against it.

If you want to get rid of pretty much everything else on the list just be yourself because in a western society the most you will get is a rare comment on your lifestyle but if you are true to yourself and there comment does not fit in with who you wish to be then why bother?

So its time to make a choice, either conform to what you just wrote and be a "Good Girl" or be yourself and be happy. But stop being so resentful to society for what seems to be an inner battle, its not us its you and the sooner you adress the issue within the sooner you can be happy.

[Dchrls78104]

No. 13: GARBAGE.
NO. 8: Have you ever heard how men are treated who are 30 or older and virgins? Yet if such a guy were to approach or, worse, try to seduce a woman he might risk being thrown in jail as a pervert or a sexual harasser!
The rest are issues mainly of girls against girls.
Being female, meantime, has its privileges, like choosing to stay a virgin without the ridiculed like men are and being able to take care of kids of the opposite sex (including her son) without being looked at suspiciously as a paedophile.

[DianaWest]

what, i would love a man virgin. WHo the fuck cares what the world thinks? I don't. There are a very few select people who's opinions i give a shit about, so why care about what a bunch of strangers think on Facebook?

[Dchrls78104]

@DianaWest I am a man virgin.

[DianaWest]

ha, at 40? Seriously? No judgement there, just surprised.

[Dchrls78104]

@DianaWest Don't be. There are more like me, and the number seems to be rising..

[JayParris]

Honestly, there are some good points there, but there's also a lot of bullshit fluff, particularly the ones that apply to men as well as women.

Like #3. Sure, we for get called a bitch for speaking our minds (that's for a totally different situation that only men have to deal with), but we do get called a dick or an asshole.

We're all supposed to keep ourselves fit, groomed, and presentable. Don't underestimate the amount of effort it takes for a man to be attractive for women.

A few other points could be said, along with other shit only men have to deal with, but you get the picture.

But again, there are some great points in there

[RaijuRainBird]

Well, speaking a mind should be withheld when it’s rude, honestly.

[jellyroo]

I'm female and easily disagreed with over two thirds of these.
Also, I don't see the value in viewing myself and everything in my life as the result of being a walking vagina. I'm an individual like everybody else - not a simple list of shallow and birth-related characteristics and labels.

[OliviaDenny2000]

Feminists are crazy.

[VIVANT]

I can relate to some but some of it is choice not how people assume women are.

Lots of purses lipstick etc is a choice.

Being weak is a choice not someone’s expectation of you.

Crying at everything is a choice which may overlap with an expectation but I thought this was about being pigeonholed not about stuff you just do bc you’re you.

Lipgloss hair etc are choices. Cut your hair or don’t wear lipgloss dk it’s not a big deal.

No one should eat more than they need.

Everyone has challenges to their shape.

Having too much clothing is a choice not a sterotyoe you are stuck i ln against your will.

Well anyhow I guess stuff like periods suck. People assuming you are weak or dumb or are supposed to be quiet and do nothing is crap. But a lot of this is just you. And there is no reason not to be you. 🙂

[JulieXO]

I don't think most of these are that bad. If you don't want to, you don't need to wait for men to approach you. If you hate your hair getting stuck on your lipgloss, don't wear it. If you hate your skirt blowing up, wear pants... This applies to many of the things you've listed. Also, the ''female struggles'' concerning weight and being accused of flirting etc. apply to men as well.

[ManOnFire]

I agree with a few of these, mostly about the hourglass figure and periods. Not sure about the difficulty with getting a job or promotion, as often times females are given a job or position too quickly where a guy was much more qualified.

I do think a woman should know how to cook and keep a home, etc. I feel that both genders need to know what they should do in their roles.

A lot of the rest are things that even other women give each other a hard time about. Women should be helping each other.

[Ahsthen]

There are no roles, mo. Both should know how to keep quarters and make chow and tend runts.