If there's one thing i can't stand in any individual it's not just weakness, but willful weakness. The kind of person why insists on staying dependent on something or someone solely because they feel it gives them some sort of advantage and refuses to improve themselves, and to be honest i don't think that could be summed up more perfectly then with modern day feminism.
Now let's get one thing perfectly clear, I love women, i think women can be capable of doing many great things, i think women if given the opportunity can demonstrate true strength and honor. Which is exactly why i hate modern day feminism as in my eyes it encourages the exact opposite. It honestly feels like modern day feminism wants women to go backwards and embrace being damsels in distress that not only that women are these helpless little angels that are exempt from any personal responsibility, but are completely incapable of doing anything by themselves and need everyone to help them get ahead.
So I wanna go over what i feel are the core issues, here are 5 reason why i feel modern day feminism is detrimental to women and in fact holding them back from being truly great.
5. Double Standards
When asked what feminism is, most people will give you the text book definition which is, the advocacy of women's rights on the basis men and women are equal, and to an extent i agree. See when you demand equality that generally implies that you are willing to accept true equality and the good and bad that comes with it. That means expected to me talked to and approached the same way a man would approach another man.
Some women are fine with this(and are basically tomboys), some wish to be treated like a traditional woman(or in some cases a princess) And some seem to want it both ways which leads to this mess. Look if you wanna be treated like an equal, I'll give you that. You wanna be treated like a woman I'll give you that too. But make sure make it clear to yourself and everyone else what it is you want, and not flip flop between the 2 whenever it's convenient for you. That makes you an unlikable hypocrite.
4. Abusing sex and abortion for power
Oscar Wilde famously once said “Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.” And i don't think that's too far from the truth. Now lets get this clear, I am not full anti abortion. Having said that to me, abortion can only be justified in 1 of 3 situations, either the woman was raped(cause let's be honest some people just can't deal with looking at their kid and being reminded of such trauma), the baby wouldn't survive outside the womb anyway, or the mother would die due to complications, anything else would just come off as petty and selfish.
For a while, i never quite understood why so many women were so obsessed about reproductive rights, and then it just kind of hit me that it was never about actual abortion but the power it gives. In a way you could argue that as a woman you basically have control and power over life itself, over whether someone gets to live or not, and you can imagine how some people would get a rise out of the idea of having control over someone else's life.
Look I get that abortion is a complicated issue and the answer isn't so cut and dry, But when you got people saying that it should be ok to get an abortion just days before it's due, Ruth Bader Ginsburg going on record admitting that not only was roe v wade unconstitutional but has likely set women's reproductive rights back several decades http://time.com/5354490/ruth-bader-ginsburg-roe-v-wade/
AND this infamous clip that has actually managed to make pro choice people rubber band the other way
It might be a good idea to look inside and understand whether or not you are pro choice, or just pro abortion, cause believe it or not they aren't the same thing.
3. Getting a high off of being underhanded and deceitful
If there's one thing that has been made abundantly clear it's that people seem to enjoy jumping the gun. Latching on the latest outrage to justify their stance and pretending it never happened once it comes out it's complete bubkus. But it turns out that it's very possible that the intent behind most of these cases are...a lot more narcissistic.
About a week ago the New York Times, released an opinion piece called "The Cruelty of Call-Out Culture"https://www.nytimes.com/2019/01/14/opinion/call-out-social-justice.html . In it the writer talks about this woman named Emily who was a member of the hard-core punk music scene in Richmond, Va.
One day some random lady showed up and accused her best friend of sending her a sexually explicit photograph, and rather then side with her friend that she had known and been around for years, she decided to believe this random woman that she never even met before and drug her friends name in the mud. Afterwards her friend was forced to leave the punk scene, got fired from his job, was kicked out of his apartment and was generally just miserable. Needless to say she had no sympathy at all.
2 years later she ended up getting the same treatment, as it came out that she once mocked a nude photo of a female student, which ended up exposing a massive history of cyberbullying. She was then banned from the punk rock scene and everyone abandoned her without a second thought. She was basically unpersoned. But that's not the scary part, it turns out that the person who called her out actually admitted he got a massive rush of pleasure like an orgasm from doing it and had absolutely zero sympathy for her. I can only imagine that this is common among outrage culture(and feminism by proxy) with many of them not caring about whether something is true or not and just wanna get that high.
You could argue that this has nothing to do with feminism, between this, the glorified peer pressure machine that is twitter and a desperate desire to fit in. It does make an already existing problem that much worse.
2. Women can only shine if men are rendered incompetent
No I am in no way saying this as absolute fact but rather how a lot of media lately has been handled. If you are a gamer, a comic book aficionado or familiar in anyway with nerd culture, then surely you must have noticed a lot of shows and media trying to prop up women at the expense of men.
By that i mean in so many female centric bits of media any male supporting cast member is either rendered incompetent, made an unlikable jackass, is straight up the bad guy, or a combination of all 3.
I could give a number of examples. Multiple Netflix originals(including the new She-ra), Disney making captain marvel come off as if she was way stronger then she ever was in the comics, wanting her to be the center hero of the MCU despite being rather unlikable in the comics(She's the one who started the civil war between superheroes), pretty much all of the recent marvel comic titles, and so much more.
But i don't think this example could be summed up more perfectly then with 2016 Ghostbusters, which did so abysmally bad that any notion of a sequel for that movie was actually sacked in a week, because frankly the movie was less about ghost busting and more about ball busting.
If you want women to be respected as equals to men, you don't force men down just so you can look good, you show that you are just as capable of standing on the same level playing field as a man by playing by their rules. Otherwise, you are basically admitting that women are inferior and need men to be under your heel or you would never be able to compete otherwise, and i don't think any self respecting woman wants that. Speaking of which....
1. Not believing in oneself
Now look, I will concede that to a certain extent that when it comes to physical strength men will generally out do women, that said i don't think it's fair to claim that this gap is so hopelessly insurmountable that women just shouldn't even bother trying, as it's this same mindset that gives women justification to claim that the only way women can get ahead is if men remove themselves from the equation entirely. It also gives the impression that women are inferior and can only be successful if men are put beneath them, which as stated above no self respecting woman would want.
Now i could talk about Russian Female snipers in WW2, How women actually have advantages in sports like acrobatics and Long Distance Swimming, or even go into Grace Hopper who actually laid the ground work for the Programing Language COBAL, which would basically make her the progenitor of modern day programing.
But i actually wanna bring up one of my favorite stories about the Female Samurai Warrior Tomoe Gozen. While accounts vary on exactly what happened in her life, what IS known however was that she was considered one of the best even among other men and was heavily involved in the Gempei War where she performed many amazing deeds such as defending a bridge from dozens of attackers or consecutively defeating multiple opponents in single combat. Sadly in the end she ended up being on the losing side of the war and told by her master to flee the battlefield and no one really knows what happened to her afterwards.
Some say she was captured and forced to be the concubine of the enemy leader, others say she went back to the battlefield retrieved the head of her master before killing herself. Whatever the case may be she existed and was one of the most successful warriors in Japanese history.
Intimidating to be sure, but that's not the point. It's less of never being able to do it and more being something everyone should strive for and proves that being a woman doesn't mean you are weak, inferior or need special treatment to get ahead, and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying through your teeth.
So i don't think it's sexist or hateful to hold women to such a high standard....do you? Never let anyone tell you, you can't compete, and don't settle for a handout. If what you want is respect, then show you can get the job done just as well on equal footing.
And on a side note to those who are going to review this my take, for some reason the topic tag just seems to default to sexual behavior for some reason. If you could take care of that ahead of time and find out why it's doing that, that would be great. Please and Thank you.
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