Being the girl/woman that you are, NOT who someone else wants or things you should be.

[KatherineJ]

I hope this isn’t too long, but I think it needs to be said.

I see a lot of questions on GAG that make me cringe, but I answer them anyway. Many of them are like this;

How do I become more girly?

The answer to that one is very simple: if you are a girl, you ARE “girly”, even if you are a tomboy. It doesn’t matter if you are into pink and sparkly things or not. You can wear whatever you like, whether you feel more comfortable in combat boots and a pair of jeans, or an evening gown with stilettos. It doesn’t MATTER! What matters is YOU being who YOU ARE!

If you aren’t into romance novels and hair accessories it is not a big deal! It doesn’t make you any less of a girl than if you were! If you are into getting dirty working on cars, motorcycles, or home projects, that doesn’t mean that you lose your team pink membership card.

Being a woman is hard enough without worrying about checking the boxes of what it means to be a girl. The beautiful thing is that WE get to decide what kind of girl we want to be.

Good luck and I hope that each of us can rock being the girl that we are.

Be unique!

Be comfortable!

BE YOU!

[CubsterShura]

I understand what you mean, but there is another side to the matter as well. Sometimes people might be genuinely willing to change themselves if they feel like it will be more beneficial for them and make them happier in the future. There's nothing wrong if a woman feels like learning to be a bit more girly or ladylike could help her become her better version.

[KatherineJ]

@CubsterShura of course that’s true. But I’m referring to girls and women who feel that they HAVE to try to be someone that they aren’t.

[Flower7]

I enjoyed reading your MyTake. It has a very positive message that I think a lot of people needed to hear. Overall, I actually am the "girly" type, but of course there are a few of the expected boxes that I'm not able to check. So it's helpful to read this and realize that it's not necessary to try to fit perfectly into that image.

[KatherineJ]

@Flower7 thank you! I appreciate you taking the time to read it.

[bamesjond0069]

Being girly is about being girl. When the vast majority of girls truly honestly think being a man can include wearing a dress and crying a lot and you find it sexually attractive only then can you change what being a girl is.

[Anonymous]

Sorrry... I have to disagree. Just because you are a girl does NOT mean that you are "girly." It is not a default position.

[KatherineJ]

The key part of “girly” is girl.

[Opinion Owner]

Synonyms: "feminine, womanly, effeminate, unmanly, girlish"... Not all girls are "girly."

[KatherineJ]

I’m not going to argue with an anonymous troll on my opinion.

[Opinion Owner]

I apologize for having more knowledge about the English language than you do. The real issue is your poor word choice.

[KatherineJ]

Bye troll.

[Tattooedfairy19]

Lovely Mytake.

We should all be true to ourselves and be who we are, not what others think we should be.

[KatherineJ]

Thank you! Exactly! We aren’t one size fits all.

[Tattooedfairy19]

Your welcome.

That's for sure, we all can't be put in the same box.

We all have different personalities, body types, upbringings, likes, dislikes, sexualities, and mind sets.

I've had guys try to change me from who I am and I always give them the finger cause I'm proud of the woman I am and how I want to be.

[KatherineJ]

@Tattooedfairy19 and you keep rocking being you, and flipping off anyone who doesn’t like you for you.

[Tattooedfairy19]

@KatherineJ I will and you keep being you as well girl.

[KatherineJ]

@Tattooedfairy19 always! 😁

[Renagadefl69]

I want to agree with tattoo fairly I'm going to add something then just don't try to be something you're not you self as you said it I just kind of reward that but you are correct there

[Ericalovescats]

Very true when you try to imitate someone else you just become a ripoff of them. Rather than something unique.

[KatherineJ]

@ericalovescats so true!

[XEmmaSigsX]

I completely agree. The most important thing for anyone is to be themselves.

[KatherineJ]

@XEmmaSigsX exactly. If you aren’t yourself then who are you?

[OceanMelon]

Someone else

[DocT1977]

I don't know if my thoughts about this would apply or not, but as a guy, I do me. I'm not someone who values the opinions who don't accept what they already see.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

MOZAMBIQUE HERE!!! YEAH... Don't judge i just felt like saying that. No reason I just did.

[Justneedtokno]

This is super sweet. And a little poetic.

[KatherineJ]

@Justneedtokno thank you so much!

[akanetuk]

Uniqueness 'i love that word'

[Secret6620]

Nice Mytake 🌸

[KatherineJ]

Thanks girlfriend

[Secret6620]

❤️❤️❤️

[Aarvagol]

Well said! !

[KatherineJ]

Thank you @Aarvagol

[NicolaJ35]

Love it

[KatherineJ]

@NicolaJ35 thanks girl

[NicolaJ35]

You're welcome sweetie

[Gedaria]

I like your thinking?

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Good take

[KatherineJ]

Thank you @secretgardenblood65

[SecretGardenBlood65]

You're welcome baby