Do many girls enjoy their first time? (having sex I mean)?

[Anonymous]

do many girls enjoy their first time? (having sex I mean) just reading answers on another question and I loved my first time but most people say it was meh or just okay. only a few girls said they liked it. as a bonus question I was wondering if girls give it too much hype and are just disappointed it wasn't "magical"?

[Anonymous]

My first time was really nice.
I'd always felt like I didn't fit in because I couldn't bring myself to just lose my virginity like all of my friends, but I'm so glad I did.
All of my friends have regrets, I have none.

I was so relaxed, comfortable and calm that it didn't hurt how people told me it would. I knew people say be relaxed and it'll hurt less, but mine really wasn't bad.
He was very gentle, and although not a virgin himself, he hadn't had sex in a few years, so he came kinda quick which probably helped lol. I lost it probably kinda late in life at 23. I'd known the guy 3 years already, and I'm still with him now.

At the time, I didn't think "wow this is magical" I was more like "omg no wonder everybody loves this!!" it wasn't magical like fireworks, but it was nice... then again, I don't really fall in love and I don't get swept off my feet by guys in general anyway, so that could be it to.

[Asker]

it's very important to be comfortable with yourself and the person you are with. I'm glad a few girls on here enjoyed their first time but it does seem to be quite uncommon.

[Anonymous]

I really liked mine, but it could have been catastrophic. I have never considered virginity like something extremely important, I am a human and I had needs so the only rule I had given myself was to do it with a boyfriend and not a hookup. Basically I had only known the guy for a day but for some reasons I knew from the start that I was going to loose it to him. So I did and he was so sweet and patient it hurt during the beginning of the penetration but then it was fine in fact it was quite pleasurable and since I've been craving for more haha this relationship was very short due to the fact we live in different countries. But we seperated on very good terms we still talk time to time.

[Asker]

it's good you had some standards though. I'm glad he was sweet about it too. It would be nice if more boys were told what to do with the girl than just jumping in.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand the fact is I didn't know what to ask him to do and most girls don't. It's quite overwhelming, the guy and the girl need to be comfortable enough to talk through it. tell them what they like what hurts whilst the guy is doing his business. but before hand i for one had no clue :)

[Asker]

that's very true. and from what little I recall from Sex ed they talk about sex but avoid too many details which is quite a shame.

[Opinion Owner]

yes, that is if we even get sex ed. Here in France it's supposed to be mandatory but my school never did it

[Asker]

that's crazy. sex ed should start around 11-12 years old, just before most people start going into puberty.

[Aistra]

No most girls regret their first time. We imagine a lot of stuff because of movies but that doesn't happen. I've never met a girl who didn't regret her first time whether it was because of the guy or the sex itself.

[Asker]

I don't put any realistic stock in movies. half the stuff guys do for girls in those movies would get him slapped.

[Aistra]

Yeah but we imagine fireworks and get a candle instead

[Asker]

that's true. if I could direct movies and stuff I would be more realistic. maybe lower expectations but still keep it fun enough so people still want some.

[Aistra]

Yeah people talk about the first time and our expectations get high but it is rarely the truth. People should just be honest it hurts like hell and the guy rarely knows what he is doing

[Asker]

and if boys are told things like this they might be gentle if he knows she's a virgin.

[Aistra]

Exactly both genders would benefit then

[aaa34pr]

Me and my wife were both virgins when we got married. We did have sex on our wedding night and we both enjoyed alot. We had a long session of foreplay and she did feel much pain initially when i penetrated but I was very careful and went very slow. She did reach an orgasm followed by me and it was simply out of this world. We both still cherish that night after 14 great years of our marriage.

[LittleSally]

Most girls don't.
If it's with a guy they love, they'll feel good about it, but most probably won't enjoy it physically. Emotionally yes, but physically no.

[Asker]

that seems to be the main case. I feel bad for women everywhere as in my mind the pain shouldn't be necessary.

[Drooogie4]

Mine was pretty good.. I didn't know the guy well.. He had no idea I was a virgin. He just said I was super tight.. But it wasn't bad at all

[Mgoods]

No. It was pure pain.

[Asker]

that's too bad. I hope you did have good sex after your first time.

[vavavoom69]

My first time was far from magical and i didn't enjoy it at all that might be down to i couldnt relax

[Asker]

that's quite important. being with someone is much different than being alone. thanks for your opinion.

[Sinner]

I personally hated it. It hurt and this comes from a person who sticks needles up her face and did her own tattoo.

[Asker]

rough

[wildspirit]

Let's just say I was imagining my first time would be like Edward and Bella. And in reality it was mostly just painful, no real enjoyment, and lasted for hours.

[Asker]

the pain lasted for hours or the sex?

[wildspirit]

The sex. And the pain lasted for a fair bit after the sex actually.

[Asker]

it's kinda odd for me to hear of sex lasting hours. maybe 20 minutes or something if there's a lot of 4play and teasing. I'm sorry it hurt for so long, later today I think I'm going to ask how many guys realize it hurts for girls to loose it.

[wildspirit]

We had to go really slow and also he takes forever to cum

[Asker]

it's strange that it's always the guys fault for lasting too long or not lasting long enough but several hours is quite long... would make me think there's either a problem with his penis or he isn't into women as much as he thinks he is. oh it could also be that he has a very strong fetish that makes all other sex "boring" :P generally I tend to last a long time is when I'm just enjoying some p*rn rather than just getting off or reading some erotic stories.

[ZoeAdams]

It hurt at first, but overall it was intensely enjoyable.

[Asker]

I think most girls feel pain at first. I'm glad it was really enjoyable though. :)

[RebeccaSJ]

I loved it!

[Anonymous]

I appreciate the fact that my first time was also with another virgin, and I'm happy I gave it to him, but the sex itself is not amazing or good or anything like that at all.

It's all PAIN, HURT, and I feel like I'm ripped into two! So no!

[Asker]

I'm fairly sure my first time was with a virgin although I never found out for sure. I'm starting to wonder what's the point of a girl being in so much pain the first time or even first few.

[Opinion Owner]

Ask her, that's the only way you can know. But even if you ask, she still can lie. So really Idk. And yah it sucks, but I heard some girls don't hurt that much the first time though.

[Asker]

I asked her once but she avoided the question. :P one of the answers on here who said it never hurt she said she was relaxed and comfortable which I think can be hard for most people who are having sex for the first time.

[Opinion Owner]

If she avoided answering then it's most likely she isn't a virgin.

[Asker]

makes sense.

[Opinion Owner]

Yup duhhhhh :)

[Anonymous]

Most girls I know had pain ranging from mild to "I'm being ripped in two."

[Asker]

wow. I wonder if it's just the hymen or if the guys just don't care, most likely a mixture of both. if I notice any pain in the girl I'm with I back off and try to take it easy, at least tell she start's responding more than I try to match her movements.

[Opinion Owner]

I think most girls just want to push through the beginning stages (the first 5-10 times hurt for a lot of people I've known).

[Asker]

that's understandable.

[Anonymous]

I think it can be great on an emotional level not as much a physical one

[Anonymous]

didn't enjoy it... but i blame the guy lls! He was too big for a first timer o. O it was like omg becky look at his...

[Asker]

that's very understandable. more people should talk about penises that are too large as it would make average men more confidant.

[Anonymous]

"I loved my first time"
Obviously. All you have to do is thrust a little and you can get. For a girl, it's usually quite painful and uncomfortable the first time. Most girls don't really enjoy their first time, no.

[Opinion Owner]

can get off*

[Asker]

I'm glad you enjoyed your first time. it's too bad about the pain factor. makes me wonder if the hymen should still be a thing. like if there was some way to remove it from future girls? just a random thought.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm a virgin. I just quoted you.

[Asker]

ooh. I think there's more to sex than just thrusting for a guy. other words I may as well masturbate. there was much caring and 4play on my part when I had my first time. I loved teasing her as much as the sex it's self. ;)

[Anonymous]

I had already broken my hymen while horseback riding. In addition, I had already lost it to a dildo so it didn't hurt by the time I did it with a bf. It was ok.

[Anonymous]

No and yes. Though it was very painful (that's the no part), ironically I did felt an orgasm (the yes part) too.

[Asker]

I think most girls feel pain. it's good you had an orgasm your first time though :)

[Anonymous]

No, it hurt immensely. No magic what's so ever.