I have always considered myself an introvert, but in the past few years, I have created a bubbly, vivacious persona which I project to the outside world. This morning, a male coworker referred to me, my friend and him when talking about another person as being "not an extrovert like the three of us." This is the first time anyone ever actually called me an extrovert. Am I still an introvert inside, or has my extroverted side now become the real me?
Most Helpful Guy
I don't personally think that is a fluid aspect of personality. Do you still find interactions draining?1
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See, personality is, at its core, a cognitive/mental condition--not a behavioural one. Certainly, there are behavioural aspects to it--in the case of introversion, these include traits like quietness, reservation, and reticence. But, in contrast to the mental aspect, the behavioural is much more fluid, and can change with time and conscious effort. I can attest to this, personally.
Personality isn't what you show to the world; it's what you show to yourself when no one's looking.
So, to figure out if you're still an introvert or not, you have to ask yourself: to how much of the mental aspect do you hold true?
- Do you tend to EXPEND energy in social interactions, or do you feel more energized in those settings? For instance, do you feel better around smaller groups made up of people that you know, or are you fully comfortable and relaxed around big groups of new people? After a day of social activity, do you feel mentally drained and need to be alone to "re-charge", or do you find that the more you're around people, the more you want to be around people? At a social gathering, are you more among the first, or the last people to leave?
- Do you genuinely enjoy spending time alone? We all need our alone time, mind you--being around people 24/7 would drive even the most extroverted extrovert up the wall--but do you PREFER to do solitary activities over social ones MOST of the time?
- When you are upset or angry, is your first instinct to tell someone about it, or do you ruminate on it for a bit?
- When you're out and about, do you prefer to be watched, or watch others?1