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When he says I love you during sex?

Does he mean something if he looks you in the eyes and says ''I love you'' during sex?

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Most Helpful Guys

  • Yes he means it. Guys are not verbal. They are - as a general rule - lousy about talking about their feelings. If he said he loved you, he probably means it. Indeed, having sex with you probably made him feel safe enough to say it.

    There is a rule in evolutionary psychology. "For a woman, they won't have sex until they think there is love. For a man, there is no love until there is sex." I'll spare you all the evolutionary, biological and psychological reasons for this, but it is very real.

    Now it is not impossible that, if he said it while having an orgasm that it could have been a verbal reaction to the heightened excitement. Only you were there and can know for sure. Also, sometimes a man will say it to get sex. (You know him better than anyone else. Is he that kind of a guy?)

    However, the way you (very briefly) described the situation, it sounds to me like it was heartfelt. Certainly there is enough to suggest that you can give him the benefit of the doubt. Sex is important to a man in a different way than it is for women and your sharing yourself with him probably gave him the confidence to say what he was thinking.

    A few other signs if he loves you: If he is doing little favors and chores for you. (He may not SAY I love you very much. Guys are not verbal. He may DO a lot of I love you in the form of chores and gifts. Oh and the more you praise him, the more he will do.) If he has you meet his friends and family, that is a big sign. If he holds your hand in public and does other PDA. He may, depending on the kind of guy he is, do some, none or all of these things.

    Still, as I say, I think based on what you described, that he deserves the benefit of the doubt.

  • 1. Maybe. No one knows... Since this combination of words (I, Love, You) is probably the most manipulative of all combinations.
    2. If you know the right timing and the right woman to tell her that...
    You could easily stimulate her more, thus creating a better "sex".
    Women love to hear that.. I personally said that hundreds of times.. It always creates a "great" moment where women could be "closer" to an orgasm. Funny thing is that most of them play the game, and give themselves to the "Love scene". After the sex they are pretty much aware to the fact that it was just a moment of passion, nothing more.
    Tell them these 3 simple words on the right moment.. and they will never forget you. Regardless of the fact that you dont love them.

    • thanks for the MHO.

Most Helpful Girls

  • only time will tell. can't say yes or no bc there's no ay of knowing. sometimes it means i love this feeling, it an also be a rev elation that he's not feeling inhibited saying bc he's high on sex chemicals. who knows.

    does it really matter? i mean if things are going ell meaning it or not won't change that-likewise if things fall apart it won't matter if he 'meant' it.

  • During sex even if the girl looks ugly the guy will say I love you! Because he loves the fact that he is having sex and enjoying it.. after he is satisfied.. if he randomly looks at you in the eyes and say i love you... then ill consider that he might like me!

  • Not always, just because someone is looking into your eyes while saying it does not mean it’s true, and if he only says it during sex that is not a good sign.

    • What about if the the female is saying it when they are having sex because most female say it when they are having great sex

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  • Sounds like a manipulation :( some men are cruel :(

  • He probably doesn't understand what love is.

  • Depends on what part of the sex at he says it. There's supposed to be a certain point right before ejaculation that the same cuddle hormone gets triggered in a guy as does a girl which makes him briefly feel as though he loves you, but after ejaculation, that feeling leaves him and he forgets about it, unlike what happens with women.

  • It means something, but who knows what it really means or how long it lasts? He's high on drugs... the ones you gave him... including oxytocin.

    Saying I love you when in pain, when there's confrontation with you, or normal course of life means more.

  • Take it as authentic. Unless it’s a ONS.

  • Never believe an I love you, during sex. A guy's penis head has taken over, and many guys will say all kinds of things that he won't say otherwise.

  • If he says it after, he probably means it as he's shot his load.
    We dont like to do 'cuddles' after sex, we like to sleep or read a book or watch Rugby or whatever, but it's a price we know we have to pay to get laid, it's just a question of working out how long we have to cuddle for, before we can casually reach for the book, or mention that there's a good film on. Doesn't mean we don't love you, just different hormones.

  • If he's said it before it means he loves you. If it's the first time it means he loves your pussy.

  • Oh yes.

  • Shouldn't you have made sure loved you before you had sex?

  • It means he wants to nut on your face.

  • Yes he loves you. He's opening up to you, letting you know that to him, sex is a virtue to have with you.

    Hopefully.

  • For me, the intoxicating effects of sex are more powerful than those of drugs and alcohol. But it doesn't make me willfully deceptive or destructive in any way. If that's how I said it first, I'd most likely mean it to some extent. I may not be 100% confident to say it otherwise, or necessarily even ready to risk that level of rejection. So, if this is not hypothetical; if you've experienced this yourself and you're not sure what to do next... do nothing differently. It could mean something. It could mean nothing. Either way, he's not ready to come to Jesus for you yet, but he's almost certainly not going anywhere. You've got him. Treat him right, and let him treat you right. He'll get there.

  • Yes.

  • I would think so, is he your boyfriend or just a hook up

    • My ex we had started dating again after a few years of chasing after me

    • So y'all had been separated for years before dating again?

    • Yes, we always had a close friendship though

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  • Yes it does

  • He might be confusing love with lust. For men, the line is dangerously thin.

  • Are you married/in a relationship/dating but not official/ something else, to be honest I think it might depend on the context and how long you have been having sex.

  • As best as he can feel he does love you at that moment. I don;t say it unless I mean it.

  • Yeah

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