I am slow to forgive (unless the person is really truly sorry, and even then, never more than once) and I NEVER forget.How easy is it for you to forgive and forget when someone hurts your feelings?
I don't know why, it's really easy for me to forgive but I don't forget. I don't befriend them or trust them until I'm sure that they're not ruining things again.
Like some weeks ago a guy who used to stalk me irl reached out to me and said sorry. I forgave him. We're not friends. I haven't unblocked him but idm talking to him.
THE GUY WAS FOLLOWING ME ON THE STREETS AND HARASSING ME OVER THE PHONE.
It was. I had to threaten him to call the cops on him to get him to stop. But it's history now haha. If anything he blew his chance of being with me, if that's what he wanted.
I cannot stay mad at or hold a grudge against ANYONE. I forgive them almost immediately, sometimes even before they apologize to me or acknowledge fault. Even if they don’t do that, I still forgive them. I guess I just figure that stuff happens and people are human, and I can usually somehow justify their actions in my mind, even if what I come up with isn’t their true reason. Aside from that, it’s not worth my time to stay mad at someone, that’ll only bring me down emotionally and it’s much easier to just forgive. I’ll give them as many chances as they want, it just won’t hurt me as much in subsequent times.
I tend to keep the action in my memories as a fact, and only forgive them (start trusting them again, or similar stuff) if I can see that they've changed or grown away from it.
I'd like to keep the emotions fresh as a reminder, but generally, even if I grumpily keep my distance for a few weeks, the sting will fade out of my memory. Good for getting by, I guess.
Thinking back, I know one close person who was often mean and angry in waves. And he apologized, but didn't stop. I know another close person who got very angry over little things, but worked on it and has translated that into patient grumpiness and passion. Old emotions are gone, but from the mental notes I prefer to open up more around the second guy, and he's been a pretty good friend :j
When it is your partner, easy, pull the Kama sutra out from my scriptures, go to the section on couples fights and have sex, like most guys like to, until all the "anger energy" is vented. Put the kettle on like a true Brit, have some Yorkshire tea and talk out the problem by expressing how each of use feel, like most girls like to. Reach a compromise, problem solved. For all others please see my two favourite quotes below:
1) Karma is a twisted goddess, she'll come for you sooner or later, and her debt has interest 😈
2) Never go to sleep angry, stay up and plot your revenge 😏
If it's merely a matter of saying something hurtful, it isn't the end of the world. I'm not going to go out of my way to turn it into a big long-term issue. I've said a lot of hurtful things to others myself, so I can't expect perfection from others. These sentiments hold especially true for those I consider family (e. g., which includes people as distant as second-cousins, very close friends).
If it is something that involves criminal behavior (e. g., major indictable offenses), it is a more complex issue. It is, therefore, circumstantial for me to decide whether to forgive or not forgive somebody. It is a choice, not a process.
I'm relatively simple. If they genuinely apologize, it's done. It's not like I completely forget (something can happen that will bring that situation to the forefront), but I've already forgiven them and we're past that.
It's different if it's a constant repetition of committing an act and then apologizing. I then wash my hands clean of that person.
Depends on what happened. In general, I do forgive (sometimes it takes me a long time to forgive and sometimes I forgive rather fast) but it also depends on what the other person did to me, how close we were and if they apologised and were sincere in their apology. I never forget though.
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SueShe | 384 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Master
3 mo
God Forgives... I Don't!
That is my motto, just like the 1967 movie with Bud Spencer and Terence Hill.
The same applies to anyone that is cheating. There is no forgiving because a person that cheats once will always cheat when properly stimulated.
It takes a lot for me to get upset but once this point of no return is achieved, there is never any forgiving or forgetting.
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holograph | 76 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Xper 6
3 mo
It really depends on what they did. There are some things I forgive pretty quickly and there are other things I intend to never forgive.
Occasionally, though, after time passes I can forget why I was even upset with someone. I actually don't like that this happens because what if the reason was actually really good? :/ At least this doesn't happen particularly often.
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VIVANT | 329 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Guru
3 mo
It very much depends on the context. If I am hurt I just try not to be hurt, bc I hate feeling like I let someone hurt me. And I would likely avoid letting them know.
If I am INSULTED over something important or think they deliberately tried to humiliate or Demean me.. lol forget it 😂
It is really a matter of respect. I can forgive genuine accidents. Intentional transgressions don’t really align with the kind of behavior I would expect or want in a friend.. Also you can do something cruel or something that shows you do not think highly of s person and turn apologize.. The apology does not change the fact you have a negative view. There is not any point to it.
A person feeling badly about something they did matters but it isn’t the most important thing to me. In some cases it is even worse bc they felt bad but allowed themselves to do it anyhow.. Bc they really don’t care enough not to m. I can’t do anything with that. They show me who they are which is good ultimately. But there isn’t any point in pretending we are friends.
It’s quite hard to answer on the abstract bc most things don’t bother me. The few things that do.. I think there is good reason to relinquish the relationship.
Elliegirl | 443 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Guru
3 mo
It may take me a little time. Like maybe a couple days. It’s usually not longer than a week or two if someone really hurts my feelings before I completely let it go.
It depends on how he/she hurt me and who the person is. Like I always forgive my partners quite fast cuz I can’t stay mad. But forgetting is a complete other story. This can take a really long time.
I have been cheated on twice now and that is something I will never be able to forgive and forget, it’s even so bad it affects my other relationships.
Most things my friends do I will forgive really fast, and forget really fast aswel as long as it’s nothing extreme.
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Apple1996 | 374 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Guru
3 mo
I'm extremely forgiving, its honestly one of my flaws. I can easily forgive cuz I see through people and know that deep down inside them they didn't acutally mean whatever they did or said
Ummmmm... that's not a flaw. Accually that's one of Gods commandments. Not to mention some one the greatest marriages are because of learning how to be an excellent forgiver. Just saying
SydneySentinel | 142 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Yoda
3 mo
Depends how deeply I trusted them initially. I can forgive but it takes time to rebuild trust, if necessary.
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LoU_Hades | 226 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Explorer
3 mo
I never forgive without a honest and credible excuse. After some time I forget but it's difficult to forget if the person does it too often, after certain brink there is no way back.
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ZELLxoxo | 302 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Yoda
3 mo
I forget people's mistakes too soon. It's just a flaw that I cannot change. It's not about just forgiving them but I don't tend to remember whatever wrong doings they have done. I'm bad with that.
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MannMitAntworten | 181 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Yoda
3 mo
My feelings do not get hurt. However if they do something questionable to I do ever after question their character and ever after observe their actions. As for forgiving, I seem to let things go easily but equally never forget.
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R_Cakes91 | 177 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Yoda
3 mo
It depends on what they did to me. If it intentionally was to hurt me, see ya later. If it was a mistake then of course, I would forgive
It would depend on who they are & why they did it. I'm not one hold grudges but I will never forget what they did to me. It may take a while to gain their trust again.
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Syrian_survivor | 156 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
Yoda
3 mo
Forgive instantly, throw it behind me and move on, no point in holding a grudge.
Never forget, experience is valuable and one must always learn from their mistakes and events they go through, fool me once shame on you fool me once shame on me :3
I see a lot of ( depends on what they did comments ) . Genuine forgiveness isn't biased or prejudice. It's just unconditional. Forgiveness isn't measured by % , it's either 0-or 100%
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