How easy is it for you to forgive and forget when someone hurts your feelings?

[R_ūshī]

I don't know why, it's really easy for me to forgive but I don't forget. I don't befriend them or trust them until I'm sure that they're not ruining things again.

Like some weeks ago a guy who used to stalk me irl reached out to me and said sorry. I forgave him. We're not friends. I haven't unblocked him but idm talking to him.

THE GUY WAS FOLLOWING ME ON THE STREETS AND HARASSING ME OVER THE PHONE.

[foriWish]

That's one my flaws. I never really forgive. That feeling will always be there because I do not EVER forget. Ask my ex

[InfobotsMom]

I don't have feelings, so it doesn't happen 😏

[DanOh2018]

Forgive don't forget

[KeziL]

I cannot stay mad at or hold a grudge against ANYONE. I forgive them almost immediately, sometimes even before they apologize to me or acknowledge fault. Even if they don’t do that, I still forgive them. I guess I just figure that stuff happens and people are human, and I can usually somehow justify their actions in my mind, even if what I come up with isn’t their true reason. Aside from that, it’s not worth my time to stay mad at someone, that’ll only bring me down emotionally and it’s much easier to just forgive. I’ll give them as many chances as they want, it just won’t hurt me as much in subsequent times.

[Boppy]

I tend to keep the action in my memories as a fact, and only forgive them (start trusting them again, or similar stuff) if I can see that they've changed or grown away from it.

I'd like to keep the emotions fresh as a reminder, but generally, even if I grumpily keep my distance for a few weeks, the sting will fade out of my memory. Good for getting by, I guess.

Thinking back, I know one close person who was often mean and angry in waves. And he apologized, but didn't stop.
I know another close person who got very angry over little things, but worked on it and has translated that into patient grumpiness and passion.
Old emotions are gone, but from the mental notes I prefer to open up more around the second guy, and he's been a pretty good friend :j

[Ronald_25]

When it is your partner, easy, pull the Kama sutra out from my scriptures, go to the section on couples fights and have sex, like most guys like to, until all the "anger energy" is vented. Put the kettle on like a true Brit, have some Yorkshire tea and talk out the problem by expressing how each of use feel, like most girls like to. Reach a compromise, problem solved. For all others please see my two favourite quotes below:

1) Karma is a twisted goddess, she'll come for you sooner or later, and her debt has interest 😈

2) Never go to sleep angry, stay up and plot your revenge 😏

[RobertToast1828]

If it's merely a matter of saying something hurtful, it isn't the end of the world. I'm not going to go out of my way to turn it into a big long-term issue. I've said a lot of hurtful things to others myself, so I can't expect perfection from others. These sentiments hold especially true for those I consider family (e. g., which includes people as distant as second-cousins, very close friends).

If it is something that involves criminal behavior (e. g., major indictable offenses), it is a more complex issue. It is, therefore, circumstantial for me to decide whether to forgive or not forgive somebody. It is a choice, not a process.

[AuroraRoseat]

I'm relatively simple. If they genuinely apologize, it's done. It's not like I completely forget (something can happen that will bring that situation to the forefront), but I've already forgiven them and we're past that.

It's different if it's a constant repetition of committing an act and then apologizing. I then wash my hands clean of that person.

[Hyak94]

Depends on what happened. In general, I do forgive (sometimes it takes me a long time to forgive and sometimes I forgive rather fast) but it also depends on what the other person did to me, how close we were and if they apologised and were sincere in their apology. I never forget though.

[SueShe]

God Forgives... I Don't!

That is my motto, just like the 1967 movie with Bud Spencer and Terence Hill.

The same applies to anyone that is cheating. There is no forgiving because a person that cheats once will always cheat when properly stimulated.

It takes a lot for me to get upset but once this point of no return is achieved, there is never any forgiving or forgetting.

[holograph]

It really depends on what they did. There are some things I forgive pretty quickly and there are other things I intend to never forgive.

Occasionally, though, after time passes I can forget why I was even upset with someone. I actually don't like that this happens because what if the reason was actually really good? :/ At least this doesn't happen particularly often.

[VIVANT]

It very much depends on the context. If I am hurt I just try not to be hurt, bc I hate feeling like I let someone hurt me. And I would likely avoid letting them know.

If I am INSULTED over something important or think they deliberately tried to humiliate or Demean me.. lol forget it 😂

Long time till we talk again. 😁🤦‍♀️

[Elliegirl]

It may take me a little time. Like maybe a couple days. It’s usually not longer than a week or two if someone really hurts my feelings before I completely let it go.

[stepup20]

It depends on how he/she hurt me and who the person is. Like I always forgive my partners quite fast cuz I can’t stay mad. But forgetting is a complete other story. This can take a really long time.

I have been cheated on twice now and that is something I will never be able to forgive and forget, it’s even so bad it affects my other relationships.

Most things my friends do I will forgive really fast, and forget really fast aswel as long as it’s nothing extreme.

[Apple1996]

I'm extremely forgiving, its honestly one of my flaws. I can easily forgive cuz I see through people and know that deep down inside them they didn't acutally mean whatever they did or said

[SydneySentinel]

Depends how deeply I trusted them initially.
I can forgive but it takes time to rebuild trust, if necessary.

[LoU_Hades]

I never forgive without a honest and credible excuse. After some time I forget but it's difficult to forget if the person does it too often, after certain brink there is no way back.

[ZELLxoxo]

I forget people's mistakes too soon. It's just a flaw that I cannot change. It's not about just forgiving them but I don't tend to remember whatever wrong doings they have done. I'm bad with that.

[MannMitAntworten]

My feelings do not get hurt. However if they do something questionable to I do ever after question their character and ever after observe their actions. As for forgiving, I seem to let things go easily but equally never forget.

[R_Cakes91]

It depends on what they did to me. If it intentionally was to hurt me, see ya later. If it was a mistake then of course, I would forgive

[Syrian_survivor]

Forgive instantly, throw it behind me and move on, no point in holding a grudge.

Never forget, experience is valuable and one must always learn from their mistakes and events they go through, fool me once shame on you fool me once shame on me :3

[UncleRooster]

I'm not an angry person. I forgive and let that shit go and move on with my life. It'll make you bitter to hold on to it

[ohshee]

It all depends on what it was. There are some things that are not forgivable if it just my feelings and was something stupid let it go

[poneglyphs]

It would depend on who they are & why they did it. I'm not one hold grudges but I will never forget what they did to me. It may take a while to gain their trust again.

[Confusedmamma]

Forgive generally, forget no if we forget our mistakes we repeat them

[Arkale]

I don't forget but I usually try to separate myself from them until tension dies down. I don't so much forgive as I accept what is done.

[Golden_nuts]

Please
https://youtu.be/Uk59YkMFZhc

[Wowgirl30q]

Depends on the situation how fast I forgive and I never forget either..

[COMMODOREII]

Depends on the person and issue. I've forgiven many people and forgotten many issues. I want my ex to die. 😎

[Creepazoid]

Easy. But depending on what they said or done to Hurt my feelings will determine if I forgive them.

[goodlongman]

Very people are people some are good some not But all are entitled to their opinion

[hails213]

I could forgive you but deep down inside I will always remember what you've done

[Djaay]

Very easily... Frees me from they're bondage and allows to move on forward freely

[talltom94]

I dont forgive or forget, I just move on from them, i don't give second chances

[Exorcist_Rampage]

usually easy but depends on initial intentions and why they did it.

[MensBest]

Sometimes I hold grudges not easy to forget or forgive

[ChocolateBrowny]

forgiving is easy as pie, forgetting oh no, never.

[JesseJayNeak]

When that happens, me and my friends take only a few minutes

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

It depends on the extent they hurt my feelings.

[Naruto_Uzumaki]

Depends on the person and situation

[nerms123]

I hold grudges but I’m also slow to anger

[Vangrubber]

It kinda depends on how they did

[Smf1989]

Depends on what they did

[Iuse2hands]

Forgiven with time. Never forgotten.

[13IsALuckyNumber]

Usually pretty easy to be honest.

[Silent_Eyes]

I don't care about forgiving. I just forget them

[wondergirl26]

When someone hurts my feelings it takes along time

[Animallover__]

Fucking easy apparently

[charlie_all_night]

Whats the infraction

[jimmy2]

I learn how the hard way

[Glen68]

If they are genuinely sorry I can forgive

[DUSTINKTH31]

It all depends on, what they did

[kendo2019]

Depends on the situation

[ItsyBits]

Hard

[NickiB]

Pretty easy usually.

[Emmalouise03]

1-2 years lol

[Babygirl_S]

Nearly impossible.

[GreenGold1992]

not so easy