Dude, 1000% yes. It's like she read the "How to Let a Guy Know You Like Him" textbook and is keeping a checklist. Lemme list the things I see...
1. Laughs & smiles at stuff you say (even when it's not all that funny, right?). Classic.
2. Sat down next to you, between you and another female friend, no less. She's both trying to be close to you and "marking her territory" at the same time (and I meant that FIGURATIVELY, so nobody go hatin' on me, k?). Classic
3. Gazing into your eyes for an awkwardly long time. Classic.
4. Eye contact leaning forward with her head on her hand - I bet she had puppy dog eyes, too, right? Again, long eye contact and getting into your space are both classic. (She prolly just scratched her head because it itched, tho ;P )
5. Walking close, hovering, standing in your space when there's an entire, almost-empty room available - Classic.
6. Butting into conversations having to do with advice on another girl flirting with you & basically telling you to tell the other girl to buzz off - Classic (defending her territory).
7. Defending your hairstyle & sympathizing with your pot issue with your adviser (in other words, taking your side on things that she believes are important to you) - Classic.
8. Huge smiles & hard time having a convo with you but no problem with others - it's because she's afraid she's gonna say something that you will think is stupid. She wants to please you. Classic.
Honestly, man. You could make a killing if you videotaped your interactions with her for a week & marketed it as "How to Know if a Girl Likes You." You'd be rich!!
Sooo... Here's the clincher. I didn't quite get whether you like her or not. If so, congrats! All you gotta do is look at her & say, "Will you go..." She won't even let you finish your sentence. "YESSS!!!"
On the OTHER hand... If ya don't like her, you may have a little challenge on your hands. You're gonna have to be up front and direct with her, as hard as it's gonna be. Otherwise, she's gonna do exactly what she said that other girl would do - continue pushing boundaries & persisting. Cuz she was speaking from personal experience.
Good luck, my brother! Keep me posted!
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I would, just ask her in private WTF is going on here. ( Just tell her you have important question to ask her without witnesses)
If she likes you you could take it further, like ask her out on spot or just tell her to stop that BS.
Worse she can tell is NO. Life will go on and you will stop guessing.
She seems to have problems with her social skills and boundaries. Not only that, she appears to be proud of that too. I know not all advice is going to sit for all people but much like guys with other guys, women are pretty good at having an idea when something's up with another chick and know when warning signs are triggered and this girl, she has alarm bells.
Someone I know well met a girl similar to this at uni, she got him to immediately cut all other women out of his life (including family friends who'd known him since before he was born) and then most of his guy friends, especially the ones she couldn't control. This was after 3 months. Anyway, a few years, a lot of crazy, a divorce & a FB update later, turns out she was a legitimate sociopath, diagnosed and all.
There's reasons some people are more self-serving, blunt & manipulative than others but they won't hide their true selves from everyone. If this guy had only spent some more time getting to know her, he wouldn't have fallen for her charms and ended up under her thumb, being her punching bag. You may not be able to tell but the people around you will. ASK THEM. Especially your female friends. They don't tell you these things for laughs but because they're true. Don't be another statistic like my friend who's still paying off her bills & credit cards she put in his name.
She's either interested or overly friendly. Are you interested in her? If so, test her, next time she talks to you say something about going for a drink and watch if she likes the idea or not. if you are not interested start telling about this girl you are into and describe her differently from the girl you're talking to so she knows for sure that it's not about her. She might get hurt, but it's better to extinguish all hope now if you are not into her and be kind. If she has no reaction or even positive about you liking someone else perhaps she is just friendly like that. As someone who constantly deals with guys that think I have a crush on them just because I say hi how are you, I know how guys can magnify everything in their brains and have to give her the benefit of the doubt.
Wow, if you have to ask this you could be the star of a new version of the movie "Clueless". Wait, this girl you talking about - is her name Alicia?
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Walk across the room and ask her out. Nobody on GAG can promise you if she is interested or not from what you have told us.
Pull up the big boy pants and make it happen!My answer is I am not psychic.
Go get rejected already! That is your job!- u
Of course she wants you. Why haven't you already made a move?
Yes. I imagine she's already thought about having sex with you. For sure fantasized about it.
I see very clear signals she has the hots for you. Ask her out. Be confident. Donr be nervous. she wants you bad dude.
Why do y'all not fucking break up your paragraphs?
She likes you but she playing it cool.
In my opinion it sounds like she likes you. I’ve seen most people reply that she does but we don’t know her like you do. Only one person can give you the definite answer and that person is her.
You said you thought you were out of her league. Many people feel that way about others and miss their chance. You’ll never know how she feels until you ask.
It definitely sounds like you like her so if you do ask her out to eat. Talk to her and get to really know her. Many people are too nervous to make the first move and obviously you want an answer.
Life is about taking chances and if you don’t take the chance you might miss it. Maybe she’ll think you’re not into her and she’ll move on. She might not be interested in you that way so she might reject you but if she does just know there isn’t one person in this world who hasn’t been rejected.
Numerous times I’ve seen you mention your looks compared to hers. You need to stop worrying about your looks and whether or not you’re out of her league.
When you’re ready if you want to take a chance with her, do it. Don’t miss your chance. You will never know the correct answer to this question until you ask her. Good luck.Mate, I would say all these are signs.
1. Women are very sure about personal space. They don't just hover in, she was cautions of what she was doing.
2. She is all too comfortable with you. She smiles and laughs which means she is letting her guard down.
3. Eye contact - now girls are confident, but not that to just give a deep eye contact. They know they don't want to give hints. Which means she is giving a hint.
4. Forced smile - now this should have been genuine but nevertheless you can avoid because she could be nervous.
I don't think I have to go in more detail but tell you that you have to show interest back. Girls loose interest in guy not showing interest or not 'manning up'. So just ask her to meet, like a date or something. Nothing extraordinary, just a coffee. Just say, 'Hey, you wanna get a coffee after college?' with smile and be cool about it, it's just a coffee. If she asks why, stay cool and say whatever comes to your head, it doesn't matter, but nothing with gloomy or serious face.
You can do it. Asking her only matters. Good luck!
And thanks for asking :)Ah yes. I was summoned. Presumably to explain basic female flirting behaviour. Probably because I do that sometimes. So here goes.
Here's the crash course and upset to everything you thought you knew about men taking step one: Women almost always take step one. Upset finished.
The go-to is repeated and (mix length but will include both of) prolonged and very short eye contact. This is then commomly accentuated by also flashing you a clear or subtle smile (respectively) when you reciprocate eye contact.
This is basically what you actually want before you approach a girl as it is the most common way to let you know your attention is desired. Note: Repeated eye contact. Note2: Girls if you are not doing this then what sort of maniac would approach you?
This is usually only romantic/sexual.
The girl you describe is seemingly going through the "Approach me" signals repeatedly. So well. You know. Either she sucks at flirting, you suck at reading people or she likes you.
I'll give both of you the benefit of the doubt and assume you're not socially inept. She seems to like you.is there a question here?
If what you write is actually the way it is happening, yes she is interested in you.
you either need to ask her out for lunch/dinner and show here that you have an interest in her (as you obviously do to notice all these things about her) as well... if you dont, you will soon end up in the friend zone...
if you get your "date" with her, you dont want to be aggressive about trying to dominate all of her time, but just keep it light, simple and fun, and SHE will move on you. girls like to talk about themselves (even if they dont want to admit it) and so ask her questions to draw the conversation out, and then play on what she says... once you do this a couple times, you will realize how simple it is to talk to girls...
some girls will want to know a bit about you also and will ask a few questions, but dont go on and on about yourself or become a boring braggart (which no one likes) but just be honest without saying too much and getting your foot caught in your mouth... if it all works out, you will have time to say "too much" later...Ok bro... Lets talk some talk. If you are interested in her besides the fact she may have been a bit overzealous somebody was saying. It is still you're choice. Ok you chose whatever sweet deal. Ask her out for a drink! Now depending on whether you have a licence or not or are driving there will affect how many drinks you can have, also if you are a monster of a man or not. But when I say monster I mean monster... So you drive their. ONLY HAVE 1 DRINK AND WAIT 2 HOURS BEFORE DRIVING! This shows responsibility (power). After If you go to you're place or whatever if you and her a freak like that and she crashes have another two drinks. But a maximum of three unless you're Andre the giant then you can do the math on how many drinks you can have. OK so you didn't drive have all three drinks there PARTY have fun do whatever! ERRRRRRCHHHHHHH! Theirs a step you take before drinking though... You take her for a coffee before hand. Whenever works but it has to be on the same day as the drinks. She's not interested you're not interested. Unless you guys find something to do other than coffee that's just a cheap whatever. But be careful with you're wallet is all im trying to get at, but it is you're wallet. You may or may not want to separate after you're predrinks that's cool don't worry to much about it. She's a woman she may have other guys on the go even fine whatever. Just have fun is the main goal man and have a good time but don't be a retard either. Think you might be drinking to much look into drinking guidelines if you make this a habit maybe slow down a touch, but its you're game and you're life these are just powerful suggestions.
I wiuld just go with the flow. She may like you as a friend. Take that as a basis to build on. This sounds patronising but your both young everything feels more intense than it needs to be. Dont overthink everything. Suggest lunch could be low key packed lunch. Eating and chatting is easier than just standing in front of each other with your minds racing and geappling to find the right words not wanting to look a pratt. Find stuff out any common interests. At worst its no more than a visual artraction. Middle ground you two could be the bestest of friends. Let me tell you good friends yoy can trust- Real buddies if you get 2 or 3 in a lifetime count yourself lucky. You may even have a little fling who knows start at square 1 and go from there. Good luck sunshine.
From what I can tell she seems really shy and doesn’t want you to know that she’s into you. She’s scared that you don’t like her so she seems hot and cold. One day it seems like she likes you and the other it’s like you don’t exist. When you mentioned a girl that liked you that you didn’t like back she probably thought you found out she liked you and that you didn’t like her back, so she told you to tell her because she didn’t want you to be stringing her along. Or she knew it wasn’t her that you were talking about, but she told you to be up front with the girl because she wants you to be up front with herself. Maybe she thinks you might like her and wants you to confirm or deny it. Either way it’s obvious you have to make the first move because it doesn’t seem like she will. Ultimately no one knows how she feels but her.
It certainly gives me the impression that she is attracted to you, that doesn't need to be romantically but she is attracted to you, why else would she constantly come over to you when she doesn't have to?
I think that the fact she comes to you and smiles when she is around you, enjoys a lot of conversations with you, is close with you somewhat in regards to what you talk about, it only makes sense that she is attracted to you and perhaps you could start to be attracted to her as well at some point, who knows?She likes you well enough. She doesn’t not like you.
But here’s the thing. It doesn’t matter if she likes you as much right now as you’d like her to like you because you have to do the work to get her there.
—> You have to do the work.
Chat her up nicely. Listen to what she says. She’s telling you about herself. Valuable information! Ask her out. Take action. Every day you let slip by, you give someone else the opportunity to make her unavailable to you before you know if there’s mutual chemistry between you two.Iv'e seen this question before... I think you should ask her out to coffee or something you think you'd both be mutually interested in. Maybe something that isn't to reliant on conversation because you said she isn't the best with that. Like even just watching a movie and then grabbing a bite to eat, you won't really talk during the movie but you can talk after it when you eat and since you just saw the movie you can talk a lot about that and then transition into what kind of movies she likes and then what type of books, games, music, what's her hobbies etc.
Sounds to me like she is not as shy as one may think. This is a flirty behavior that tells some of us men that a) she is interested and b) she is surrendering submissively, if only you take the lead and take what she is offering.
It's an old-school, old-fashioned way of arousing the interest in a man. It was at one time promoted as the way to get the boy. It's a way for the girl to tell you she's interested, and that if you lead, she'll follow.
The advice to ask her out to coffee, or to meet for lunch, has already been given. My suggestion is to give it a try. At best it might be the beginning of a beautiful experience. At worst it will simply fizzle. Just remember, if you don't ask, the answer is always "no".Yes she is , and she is nervous , you pretty much have to make the first move considering she doesn't know if you are single or not since she heard u talking about another girl , so she is pretty much waiting for you 2 make the move. If you like her , Next time you see her be like hey would you like to go for a bite eat with me , whichever day you pick , and see what she says , , if she says Yes then you know she is interested in you , dont take her anywhere expensive but somewhere casual where you can both let loose a little and talk more and take it from their
She likes you as a PERSON. Nothing romantically. She trusts you and can see you as a friend. I do most of that stuff for anybody. But just like your way of thinking, I am now selective with who I do that with. She does some of those things because she is trying to figure you out. It is nothing on the attraction scale at all.
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