So you were apart for a bit of time?
yeah at first he asked for space so i gave it to him happily. then when we tried being friends like usual he kept trying to kiss me so i took some space. because i hated that. then when he actually finally accepted just friends we are good now like nothing happened
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Do you still you have feelings for her after all these years?
Sure do, everytime we speak. She feels the same but she's in a differant state and we are both married. So... bad timing
dawwww. Thats so sweet. So do you think of her all the time? Or only when you speak?And can guys really like several girls at once? Like he can be into a girl he can't have... but dating other chicks?
I tell u what, if she came by it would be hard not to kiss her and taste her.. and let's be honest.. I'd probably do something. And shed let's me but I dont think wed have sex. I think it would be oral and touching
wow. But y'all had a history of intimacy in the past?
Yes.. we practiced on each other
Lemme ask u something... what's the one thing a guy could do to you all day and you couldnt get enough of it
ahhhh. Gotcha. That prob makes her hard to get overSo, what makes her so special? Why do you still have these feelings for this long?
It could be I never officially got to be her boyfriend. It could be she was my first everything. Ot could be just her.. but i do miss her everyday
Point is I asked her out, she said no, and we are lifelong partners
But what do u miss? Like what is it that makes her special?
Does she have any idea that you still feel the way you do? Especially now?
How she made me feel. Not only sexually but when were just hanging out. She was my confidant, best friend, she helped me get girls, chased away the bad ones. She picked me up when I was down.. for me she is the perfect woman
I wish she lived around here, it love to just hug her and chill.. not even sex (well maybe lol) point is I know I'll be happy just to be in the same room as her
Yup I told her, and she said the same thing. In fact we laughed about the fact it's good we are so far apart
Oh wow!!! lol So, back in the day when she'd help you chase women and all that---you were still secretly loving her? How did you lie? lol
Li didn't lie.She knew how I felt, her boyfriends knew, my girlfriends knewI never tried to hide it
oh... i thought maybe she only knew from you asking her to be ur girlfriend. Figured she'd think you moved on
Nope she always knew
U never answered my question
You'd just tell her everyday you loved her.Ugh, this is so sweet---but kinda tragic. Glad you found her again. And who know what the future holds
oh. ummmm I don't know. I love when a guy can open up and tell me his secrets,
I mean physically
ehhh lol not much into sexual stuff tbh
Light touches, back rubs, feet rubs, giving u oral.. what could u just lay there and love for hours
Well think about what gives u goose bumps or just makes u feel so relaxed u dont want to go to sleep u want to stay up and enjoy itThat's how she made me feel then just being around her and its more now
Sooo sweet. Gosh, i guess ur story makes me wonder if my guy pal could still have feelings for me. Although he never flat our said it===he has in other ways.And of course he's out and dating and stuff... but we stay close. And he tells me he rather be around me. I don't know maybe some day... or I'm just a good pal lol
The best ones start that way. Just dont force it. If he wants to and you dont then dont.. if you're ever ready he will be too
hmmmm. I mean, how can I know he has feelings for me---when he can't have me? lol He is dating and stuff-and of course he hasn't made a move on me or anything in over a year
If he was interested right away then he fell for u. Because u turned him down he never had any closer. And when ur ready to experiment sexually, go to him first... he will listen more
How old are u if u dont mind me asking
well im married and we've only been friends. prob only hugged like twice lol (he hates touch)
mostly happy. oh and he's 21 lol
Does he do things for u without expecting things in return
Ok if u ever want to try and get oral sex have the other guy do it... then your husband.And see who's in it for the sake of being with u and who's in it to make u happy
ahhh lol id never do that!!! won't cheat
I'm sorry I keep going back to that. if it makes u unc I'll stop. It's just my favorite activity during intimacy. I'd do it fully clothed until she told me to stop
Thanks for the add
You ca. Message me anytime if u need to talk
It won’t allow me to message you :(
Yeah its saying u need accept my request
I can give u my email if u would like
@Pennypolish "ahhh lol id never do that!!! won't cheat" Very good!. That is a very clear indication of your loyalty.
It doesn’t work because the person being asked knows how you feel so they won’t trust you anymore. They wouldn’t want to be around you because they don’t trust your intentions and they don’t want to lead you on. Speaking from experience because this is what I’m currently going through.
@Theundisputed01 It depends on the friendship and how long you've been friends. If you're "good" friends, they should know you better. But if you're just general friends, then yes that could be.
I actually agree with you.
What’s the initial awkwardness caused by on the woman’s side?
Usually I can’t tell at first if the guy is actually okay with being friends, or if he only sees me in a romantic way and is just going along with it to save face. So I might be a bit extra cautious at first. And I’m guessing that the guys are awkward because their worried that I’m going to push them away.
What do you mean by no motive to be friends anymore? And why a negative friendship?
But what if the guy genuinely wants friendship?
No.His "friendship" is a proxy for a romantic relationship. The guy will continue to want her.
Really? So you think once a guy likes a girl they can’t be friends even if he hides it?
"The good stuff" XD
@17morgm lol she came from a very white 'traditional' family. She was quite upper class as her family were very wealthy so she had a strange outlook to things like drugs.
So it’s the guys fault?
This is a "No\Yes" situation. It's the guy's fault if he chooses to disconnect from the relationship for being a spineless clown. It's the girl's fault if she rejects him and mocks him for trying to shoot his shot. It's no one's fault if the guy just wanted to be with her with no intention of having a friendship. It all depends on how it is acted upon and for what reason.
How do you make it extremely awkward?
Really? I would have thought the girl also feels uncomfortable because she doesn’t want to give him the wrong idea.
No bc girl already rejected him. No biggie if she values him more as a friend. The guys gonna get hurt bc he keeps getting reminded of her great traits but he can't have her to himself.
So in these cases you think it’s best to ask out and if rejected, walk away?
you both can continue talking. but you both will never be able to joke around like you both used to. Even if you try to, it won't be meal. Romance makes friendship awkward.
Sounds like it’s best to walk away.
Isn’t not giving power the ability for the guy to walk away?
What causes the no going back?
The knowing the feeling isn't reciprocal, i feel it would cause negative feelings towards the person ur trying to get with, us jealousy if he or she ever finds anyone
What’s strange or awkward?
If he acts like the world has come to an end because he was rejected. If he plays it cool and continues being who he was before he asked her out, then everything is fine.
How do you continue to play it cool?
Whilst strengthening the friendship?
Just keep doing the same things you did before asking her out. Be close to her if you were before. And hang out as friends without bringing up the topic again.
Well she actually rejected me and suggested hanging out more to get to know each other better. But I don’t know how to do that without being awkward?
We are all a little awkward around someone we like. But just try to be relaxed and have fun. :)
She's fucking with your head man, if she says no, but... let's get to know each other better... that's giving mixed messages out. As you're under 18, she's probably a similar age and not really very competent at handling male advances. If she's offering you another attempt, then the best approach would be to invite her to join you doing something sporty and physical, it's so much easier to interact when you have a shared project to do with someone, and avoids those awkward silences nicely.So examples, could be go-karting, funfair, dancing, tennis, adventure park, rock climbing, anything that gets the pulse up and the conversation focussed on a shared problem-solving task, because in the end that's got a lot to do with the fundamentals of most relationships. It also gives you a chance to act silly, and have things to talk about together afterwards, and maybe evolve it into a regular hobby. There is actually science to back up this approach. First dates should always be physical.
Let me put it out there... for women and girls, you probably know when a guy is into you before he opens his mouth, and you are doing him the greatest kindness by taking him to one side and intercepting it. I would actually say that, if you didn't do that, you're kind of effectively leading him on, and a lot of girls do that subconsciously because they're exploring their options, but it's very unfair. Having said all that, when or if you do dish out the bad news, don't be mean, don't eviscerate a guy and make him feel like a pariah. All he did was like you, and that's meant to be a nice thing, at least from his perspective. There's nothing strange or awkward about liking, loving, or lusting for a girl, it's about the most normal thing in the world. If you don't like it, then don't offer a consolation prize that looks like you trying to have your cake and eat it. The guy possibly idolises you, why would he?for men and boys... you can't be around a girl you have feelings for when she's purposefully looking around for other men, it is masochistic. The moment you accept friendzoning, you're rendering yourself a beta male, and do you really want to be having those conversations where she talks about her boyfriend? You're either a contender or pretender. There are all kinds of situations, maybe you were friendly for a long time, and gradually started feeling something; maybe you felt something from the start, but chose the wrong strategy. If she attempts to friendzone you, you've fucked up.I'm not saying you can't turn things around, because it certainly does happen, and it very much depends on the context and history, but it usually happens when you are in a good state, a confident state, and a healthy state. Get money, look good, be funny, and learn how to talk and be attractive.All endings are beginnings, and nobody really knows how they will feel or think in months from now.
But it’s still worth it once a guy falls for her right?