But what if he can't afford to be in a relationship?They're very expensive.Valentines day, birthdays, anniversaries, dates, trips, rings, wedding, honeymoon, house, kids etc.He just wants to kiss you.
He doesn’t have to pay for all of that. We would both be contributing financially, we don’t have to live in a house once we move in together, and I don’t want kids so I wouldn’t want to be with a guy who does. If he’s thinking about this from a financial standpoint he just has to be able to provide a comfortable lifestyle for himself, not an entire family. I would be pulling my own weight.
Would you be willing to live a minimalistic lifestyle in a tiny house and ride in an older car if that's what he loves?
No, that’s not the kind of lifestyle I want.
What could he say to trick a woman so that she gives up her love?He just wants to love her before she finds out that he can't afford her.
He shouldn’t do that. He should just be honest about the fact that he’s not at a point where he can commit to anyone.
He can commit to her.He could be loyal.He just wants her to have her own place and money and stuff.
If they’re both committed and loyal and become each other’s romantic/sexual partners then they are in a relationship. People don’t have to live together with one person as a provider to be in a relationship.
I agree.So you would still pursue that attractive man and either live on your own or in his love shack?
He apparently never wants to live together in a suitable home, so no.
What if he could stay with you in your nice house, but keep his small home in case it doesn't work out?
If he doesn’t have confidence in our relationship when we’re serious enough to be living together then he shouldn’t be with me.
I agree.Do you feel that you're materialistic?
I can be kind of materialistic.
I understand.Thanks for your response.
Nice, I have all of those qualities except I'm not sure that I want to be a husband again.I just want to love and be loved.Would you ever just lose yourself in the moment and hookup with a man due to physical attraction and chemistry?No future talk, just instinct.
No I would not do that - I get more pleasure from pizza or chicken nuggets than I do from looking at bare chested men on tv
I hear you.I love pizza too.Is it so bad to want someone to eat it off of as well?
No I don’t get any pleasure from sex - if I marry it will just be another thing I do to get pregnant
Are you asexual or religious?
I see.I actually get along well with religious women because we seem to both share a kind heart.We usually hit a roadblock talking about sex because I really enjoy it and like talking about it.
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What if he looked like a male model?
It doesn't matter what he looks like, I dont want some pretty boy to play with. I want a partner first and sex comes with that partnership, not on its own
I'm not that intrsted in looking at guys or anyone really, but I'm 23 and I'm not looking to mess around with someone. I've never been the messing around type anyway, but still... There is nothing wrong if a guy isn't intrested in the relationship, it is just that I'm not inteested in just "having fun"... but I dont like people touching me anyway 😅
But, wouldn't you possibly change your priorities if he was worth it?Like, would you just be with him on his terms?
Oh. Sorry. You asked her.
I mean I personally don't have a problem becoming friends with someone I once had a crush on, and if we didn't have a relationship it's a lot easier to get over a crush. So if his terms are us becoming friends and we can get along as friends (which we most likely would if I was attracted to him), I wouldn't mind. So regardless of anything, I still wouldn't try to force/convince him.
What if he was totally willing to make love to you, but he is not looking to have a real relationship with responsibilities etc?He just lives in the moment.Would you be willing to enjoy him with no promise of a future together?
So basically friends with benefits, which I'm not really a fan of, I don't like this "half relationship" thing, so no I wouldn't. I can find someone else.
Most girls aren’t gonna want that unless they’re looking for a friends with benefits
Not friends.Like he really does love you and he shows it, but he doesn't have a nice house or money.He basically can afford a relationship and doesn't have time because he has other responsibilities.He just says that he happily single so women don't ask too many questions.He's
If he loves me why can’t he commit to me?
@Gwenhwyfar He could, but he knows that he doesn't have what women want financially and he has no interest in getting it.He's not a good catch financially and his life is pretty basic and that's how he likes it.All he has to give is love and sex and companionship.That why he lies and says that he's happily single.It just means, " I can love you, but don't start picking out a dress. "
That just sounds like a lot of tangled lines, I'd rather not get myself into this mess tbh
Hate to say it but I agree with @jelly77. Marriage doesn’t cost a fortune. You can get married at the courthouse.
Not that I wanna get married right away either
@Gwenhwyfar It's not the getting married part that he avoiding.He's already been married and he knows that building a life together is not something he can afford right now.The love part comes always easy to him, but he's looking more for an independent woman who has her own place.Just 2 independent people loving each other when they have time. 😅
Sounds like a primarily sexual relationshipHe’s concerned about keeping his own place and not letting her in too close. That’s fine if that’s what she wants too. That’s not what I want in my life rn. And even when it was I didn’t want it dressed up as “love.” Some girls do want that, but you shouldn’t lie and say it’s love when what you really want is to bang her when you both have free time.
I'm sorry to hear that.I hope you feel better.
I don't think I ll since I get to see true colors faster than before
It needs 2minutes to know the person
Do you swear that you're telling the truth?