Bro that is exactly what I’m going through and I had to talk to her to see what was going on. Like you clearly aren’t interested in anything so why text me? Clearly it is a attention thing or she is bored. She would text me hey what You doing but we mostly had no substance communication. Whenever I tried to make plans she was never receptive so it frustrated me. We can’t pretend like we are friends
I'd say you need to either drop her or level with her, get her to explain whether she wants to be involved with you or not and what she wants from your friendship. At least then you know where you stand and can then take it or leave it
I took another route and I confronted her. She played games like texting me after midnight that I’m thinking about you all while not being interested. I told her I don’t like what you do and it bothers me. She got defensive and it led to an argument. Long story short the situation fixed itself because we no longer speak. She failed to see where I was coming from. I made myself look pathetic arguing with a girl. She obviously didn’t care nor respect me
The girl in my case played similar games, facetiming me then being glad I didn't answer because she was in the bath. Meaning to send a flirty picture to her sister but accidentally sending it to a group chat of me and the sister.Eventually I got into a relationship, she kept suggesting us breaking up but I didn't and now we are just civil
I don’t understand why some girls do this. Is that attention that much of high value to them? At least you two are civil. Me and this girl literally don’t speak or see each other. We haven’t the past 5 months. It wouldn’t surprise me if she comes back because she came back 3 times in the past. I don’t know what is wrong with her and I don’t know what is wrong with me for allowing this to happen
In my case she came back a lot, I think its maybe keeping you on the hook as a backup. Previously we ended up having a fling but it didn't last as she was sexually but not emotionally attracted to me. So I think if things had gone differently we would either have ended up friends with benefits. Or once she wanted to settle down I'd have been an option.
She isn’t sexually or emotionally attracted to me so clearly I’m just a guy that she is knows is always available to her when she needs an attention fix. I know you said you guys were civil, how often do you talk?
At the moment hardly ever, only involved because she knows my fiance. Been about 8 weeks between talks so far
Okay that’s good you don’t have to deal with her bipolar tendencies anymore. All you have to do is be cordial
Yeah, it's not always easy and it has had some awkward moments even during my relationship.Like one time my girlfriend and I were at the other girl's house. My girlfriend sat one end of the sofa, me the other and the girl's kid sat in the middle.Girl comes in, climbs on the sofa, lies with her legs toward me and her head on her kid's lap, with nothing but a t shirt and bright panties on...
Aw man that is a easy temptation for me. She purposely did that with your girl being there to see your reaction.
I know. Not the only occasion of anything like that. Had a pool party a couple months back, she's infamous for not getting involved or going anywhere near the pool. She instead got really involved, wore this really hot swimsuit, and kept asking why I wasn't taking my shirt off. She also knows I quite like legs so she kept sunbathing the opposite way to where my girlfriend and I were lying so her legs were near my face. And had a nip slip at one point...
Definitely an attention whore my brother. Stand clear from woman like that
Indeed, I think she is a narcissist, she bragged to my girlfriend that some random guy at work asked to have a quickie with her. She was in a relationship at the time...
Sad and pathetic
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I’m confused, what do you mean she likes the attention?
You said she keeps contacting you. She only keeps contacting you because you contact her back, right?
No it goes both ways. She’ll initiate text with me and I’ll respond and I’ll text her and she’ll respond although she is less enthused she dose respond.
That's what I meant. You're giving her attention and she enjoy it.
Okay I’m sorry for not understanding. When I try to make plans they never come to fruition. Does that further indicate she just likes the attention?
Yes, she just wants you to text her maybe she's bored.
How come we go through periods we don’t talk? Why when we talk it feels we don’t really talk about anything
And if I don’t allow it I’m looked at as a bad person
That doesn't matter. there's always someone who won't like what you do no matter what it is.