If a girl doesn’t feel the same about you, why does she keep in contact if she isn’t gonna be apart of life in any meaningful way?

Question

Answer 1

Anonymous

I knew a girl who wanted me to message her to say "hi, how are you?" But didn't want me delving into anything further or "talking like we are friends".

I think it's either an attention thing or keeping you on the hook as a backup in the event she needs someone to help her feel good about herself

React

Asker

1 y
Bro that is exactly what I’m going through and I had to talk to her to see what was going on. Like you clearly aren’t interested in anything so why text me? Clearly it is a attention thing or she is bored. She would text me hey what You doing but we mostly had no substance communication. Whenever I tried to make plans she was never receptive so it frustrated me. We can’t pretend like we are friends
Opinion Owner

1 y
I'd say you need to either drop her or level with her, get her to explain whether she wants to be involved with you or not and what she wants from your friendship. At least then you know where you stand and can then take it or leave it
Asker

1 y
I took another route and I confronted her. She played games like texting me after midnight that I’m thinking about you all while not being interested. I told her I don’t like what you do and it bothers me. She got defensive and it led to an argument. Long story short the situation fixed itself because we no longer speak. She failed to see where I was coming from. I made myself look pathetic arguing with a girl. She obviously didn’t care nor respect me
Show All Show Less
Opinion Owner

1 y
The girl in my case played similar games, facetiming me then being glad I didn't answer because she was in the bath. Meaning to send a flirty picture to her sister but accidentally sending it to a group chat of me and the sister.

Eventually I got into a relationship, she kept suggesting us breaking up but I didn't and now we are just civil
Asker

1 y
I don’t understand why some girls do this. Is that attention that much of high value to them? At least you two are civil. Me and this girl literally don’t speak or see each other. We haven’t the past 5 months. It wouldn’t surprise me if she comes back because she came back 3 times in the past. I don’t know what is wrong with her and I don’t know what is wrong with me for allowing this to happen
Opinion Owner

1 y
In my case she came back a lot, I think its maybe keeping you on the hook as a backup. Previously we ended up having a fling but it didn't last as she was sexually but not emotionally attracted to me. So I think if things had gone differently we would either have ended up friends with benefits. Or once she wanted to settle down I'd have been an option.
Asker

1 y
She isn’t sexually or emotionally attracted to me so clearly I’m just a guy that she is knows is always available to her when she needs an attention fix. I know you said you guys were civil, how often do you talk?
Opinion Owner

1 y
At the moment hardly ever, only involved because she knows my fiance. Been about 8 weeks between talks so far
Asker

1 y
Okay that’s good you don’t have to deal with her bipolar tendencies anymore. All you have to do is be cordial
Opinion Owner

1 y
Yeah, it's not always easy and it has had some awkward moments even during my relationship.

Like one time my girlfriend and I were at the other girl's house. My girlfriend sat one end of the sofa, me the other and the girl's kid sat in the middle.

Girl comes in, climbs on the sofa, lies with her legs toward me and her head on her kid's lap, with nothing but a t shirt and bright panties on...
Asker

1 y
Aw man that is a easy temptation for me. She purposely did that with your girl being there to see your reaction.
Opinion Owner

1 y
I know. Not the only occasion of anything like that. Had a pool party a couple months back, she's infamous for not getting involved or going anywhere near the pool. She instead got really involved, wore this really hot swimsuit, and kept asking why I wasn't taking my shirt off.

She also knows I quite like legs so she kept sunbathing the opposite way to where my girlfriend and I were lying so her legs were near my face.

And had a nip slip at one point...
Asker

1 y
Definitely an attention whore my brother. Stand clear from woman like that
Opinion Owner

1 y
Indeed, I think she is a narcissist, she bragged to my girlfriend that some random guy at work asked to have a quickie with her. She was in a relationship at the time...
Asker

1 y
Sad and pathetic

Answer 2

Asker

Bro that is exactly what I’m going through and I had to talk to her to see what was going on. Like you clearly aren’t interested in anything so why text me? Clearly it is a attention thing or she is bored. She would text me hey what You doing but we mostly had no substance communication. Whenever I tried to make plans she was never receptive so it frustrated me. We can’t pretend like we are friends

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

I'd say you need to either drop her or level with her, get her to explain whether she wants to be involved with you or not and what she wants from your friendship. At least then you know where you stand and can then take it or leave it

Answer 4

Asker

I took another route and I confronted her. She played games like texting me after midnight that I’m thinking about you all while not being interested. I told her I don’t like what you do and it bothers me. She got defensive and it led to an argument. Long story short the situation fixed itself because we no longer speak. She failed to see where I was coming from. I made myself look pathetic arguing with a girl. She obviously didn’t care nor respect me

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

The girl in my case played similar games, facetiming me then being glad I didn't answer because she was in the bath. Meaning to send a flirty picture to her sister but accidentally sending it to a group chat of me and the sister.

Eventually I got into a relationship, she kept suggesting us breaking up but I didn't and now we are just civil

Answer 6

Asker

I don’t understand why some girls do this. Is that attention that much of high value to them? At least you two are civil. Me and this girl literally don’t speak or see each other. We haven’t the past 5 months. It wouldn’t surprise me if she comes back because she came back 3 times in the past. I don’t know what is wrong with her and I don’t know what is wrong with me for allowing this to happen

Answer 7

Opinion Owner

In my case she came back a lot, I think its maybe keeping you on the hook as a backup. Previously we ended up having a fling but it didn't last as she was sexually but not emotionally attracted to me. So I think if things had gone differently we would either have ended up friends with benefits. Or once she wanted to settle down I'd have been an option.

Answer 8

Asker

She isn’t sexually or emotionally attracted to me so clearly I’m just a guy that she is knows is always available to her when she needs an attention fix. I know you said you guys were civil, how often do you talk?

Answer 9

Opinion Owner

At the moment hardly ever, only involved because she knows my fiance. Been about 8 weeks between talks so far

Answer 10

Asker

Okay that’s good you don’t have to deal with her bipolar tendencies anymore. All you have to do is be cordial

Answer 11

Opinion Owner

Yeah, it's not always easy and it has had some awkward moments even during my relationship.

Like one time my girlfriend and I were at the other girl's house. My girlfriend sat one end of the sofa, me the other and the girl's kid sat in the middle.

Girl comes in, climbs on the sofa, lies with her legs toward me and her head on her kid's lap, with nothing but a t shirt and bright panties on...

Answer 12

Asker

Aw man that is a easy temptation for me. She purposely did that with your girl being there to see your reaction.

Answer 13

Opinion Owner

I know. Not the only occasion of anything like that. Had a pool party a couple months back, she's infamous for not getting involved or going anywhere near the pool. She instead got really involved, wore this really hot swimsuit, and kept asking why I wasn't taking my shirt off.

She also knows I quite like legs so she kept sunbathing the opposite way to where my girlfriend and I were lying so her legs were near my face.

And had a nip slip at one point...

Answer 14

Asker

Definitely an attention whore my brother. Stand clear from woman like that

Answer 15

Opinion Owner

Indeed, I think she is a narcissist, she bragged to my girlfriend that some random guy at work asked to have a quickie with her. She was in a relationship at the time...

Answer 16

Asker

Sad and pathetic

Answer 17

sheikalana | 745 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

She likes attention you're giving her.

React

Asker

1 y
I’m confused, what do you mean she likes the attention?
sheikalana

1 y
You said she keeps contacting you. She only keeps contacting you because you contact her back, right?
Asker

1 y
No it goes both ways. She’ll initiate text with me and I’ll respond and I’ll text her and she’ll respond although she is less enthused she dose respond.
Show All Show Less
sheikalana

1 y
That's what I meant. You're giving her attention and she enjoy it.
Asker

1 y
Okay I’m sorry for not understanding. When I try to make plans they never come to fruition. Does that further indicate she just likes the attention?
sheikalana

1 y
Yes, she just wants you to text her maybe she's bored.
Asker

1 y
How come we go through periods we don’t talk? Why when we talk it feels we don’t really talk about anything

Answer 18

Asker

I’m confused, what do you mean she likes the attention?

Answer 19

sheikalana

You said she keeps contacting you. She only keeps contacting you because you contact her back, right?

Answer 20

Asker

No it goes both ways. She’ll initiate text with me and I’ll respond and I’ll text her and she’ll respond although she is less enthused she dose respond.

Answer 21

sheikalana

That's what I meant. You're giving her attention and she enjoy it.

Answer 22

Asker

Okay I’m sorry for not understanding. When I try to make plans they never come to fruition. Does that further indicate she just likes the attention?

Answer 23

sheikalana

Yes, she just wants you to text her maybe she's bored.

Answer 24

Asker

How come we go through periods we don’t talk? Why when we talk it feels we don’t really talk about anything

Answer 25

In_Trance | 2.6K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

Because she's bored and you allow it

React

Asker

1 y
And if I don’t allow it I’m looked at as a bad person
In_Trance

1 y
That doesn't matter. there's always someone who won't like what you do no matter what it is.

Answer 26

Asker

And if I don’t allow it I’m looked at as a bad person

Answer 27

In_Trance

That doesn't matter. there's always someone who won't like what you do no matter what it is.

If a girl doesn’t feel the same about you, why does she keep in contact if she isn’t gonna be apart of life in any meaningful way?

AI Bot Choice

Related Questions

What Girls & Guys Said

Related myTakes