Ladies your thoughts?

Question

I've been on a few dates recently and I've noticed that after the first one the girl will say that she'll let me know when we can hang out/meet again but I've noticed that most times she won't and eventually just stops talking. This girl that I am interested in has said this to me and we had a great time. So ladies do y'all do this to test guys? Is it your way of saying you're not interested or do you actually mean it?

Answer 1

Flower7 | 300 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

After they say that, you should try asking them out for a specific day and time and see what happens. Maybe taking initiative would help, since they seem to be being a bit flaky.

silasw

1 mo
Well I texted her yesterday because I had the day off. Asked her if she wanted to see a movie. She said she would love to see a movie but has a thesis she's working on thats due by the end of the week. She also said she wasn't feeling very social right now because of that and that she'll let me know when she's available again.
Flower7

1 mo
Well, in that case, there's not really too much you can do. Just try to stay friendly with her and have interesting conversations in the meantime. Hopefully she will be true to her word and let you know when she has more free time.
silasw

1 mo
I've been hesitant to text her. I don't want to come off as crazy or something with texting all the time. Even though I really want to and get to know her.
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Flower7

1 mo
As long as she still seems interested, it's ok to text her a lot. Just look for signs that she's not into it, such as always taking a long time to respond or giving very short answers.
Tedee18

1 mo
Maybe you should ask her whether she is interested in you.
silasw

1 mo
To be honest when I ask girls that in the past they've all said yes or not answered the question then atop talking to me. So I don't want to ask that
Tedee18

1 mo
Oh, yeah. Then maybe do something nice so show that you are interested.

Answer 2

silasw

Well I texted her yesterday because I had the day off. Asked her if she wanted to see a movie. She said she would love to see a movie but has a thesis she's working on thats due by the end of the week. She also said she wasn't feeling very social right now because of that and that she'll let me know when she's available again.

Answer 3

Flower7

Well, in that case, there's not really too much you can do. Just try to stay friendly with her and have interesting conversations in the meantime. Hopefully she will be true to her word and let you know when she has more free time.

Answer 4

silasw

I've been hesitant to text her. I don't want to come off as crazy or something with texting all the time. Even though I really want to and get to know her.

Answer 5

Flower7

As long as she still seems interested, it's ok to text her a lot. Just look for signs that she's not into it, such as always taking a long time to respond or giving very short answers.

Answer 6

Tedee18

Maybe you should ask her whether she is interested in you.

Answer 7

silasw

To be honest when I ask girls that in the past they've all said yes or not answered the question then atop talking to me. So I don't want to ask that

Answer 8

Tedee18

Oh, yeah. Then maybe do something nice so show that you are interested.

Answer 9

Anonymous

I do that because I’m too afraid to say no.

silasw

1 mo
Sry for the late response. Do you ever wonder what the guy feels when you lie to him like that? Or do you ever worry about communication problems by saying yes when you mean no?
Opinion Owner

1 mo
No, because I value my safety more. I was chased into the woods by a guy because I rejected him. I’m not taking chances anymore.
silasw

1 mo
I see. So essentially you use that horrible experience as a base ground for most guys. One bad seed does indeed ruin it for others. Sorry you went through that
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Opinion Owner

1 mo
Yep sadly, I know there are good guys. I just don’t want to risk anything. And it’s okay, I’m still learning how to be safe without seeming rude 😅
silasw

1 mo
Isn't it all about taking risks though? My question to you is how will you find those good guys if most guys are being compared to that one bad experience?
silasw

1 mo
I'd suggest talking about it. Maybe bringing up what happened to the next guy that you find interest in and explain how you'd like to proceed instead of the method you are using now?
Opinion Owner

1 mo
Not when my life is at risk, I’d rather play it safe. I was lucky that I only got chased into the forest, a local girl ended up getting murdered because she told a guy no.
silasw

1 mo
I see bad deeds feed in to the overall narrative of most guys being scary. So how do you like to start things off with someone that you are interested in?
Opinion Owner

1 mo
I honestly don’t know, I haven’t gotten that far yet to be honest
silasw

1 mo
I think that's a strange place to be in
silasw

1 mo
Makes me wonder if most girls are in that place. Fearful of men, not knowing how they would like to show and receive interest and yet still wanting to be loved.
Opinion Owner

1 mo
Speaking for myself that’s how I feel. I haven’t had good experiences with men starting with my father, uncle and step father.
silasw

1 mo
Yea I imagine most haven't a lot of men are fucked up and a lot of women are fucked up because of it
Opinion Owner

1 mo
Yeah, I know there are good guys out there though.
silasw

1 mo
Yeq just seems like they have to fight an uphill battle that they have no idea they are doing
Opinion Owner

1 mo
It’s a difficult world to date in these days.
silasw

1 mo
Yes it is. Which is even more amazing when two people find each other
Opinion Owner

1 mo
Yep, for sure.

Answer 10

silasw

Sry for the late response. Do you ever wonder what the guy feels when you lie to him like that? Or do you ever worry about communication problems by saying yes when you mean no?

Answer 11

Opinion Owner

No, because I value my safety more. I was chased into the woods by a guy because I rejected him. I’m not taking chances anymore.

Answer 12

silasw

I see. So essentially you use that horrible experience as a base ground for most guys. One bad seed does indeed ruin it for others. Sorry you went through that

Answer 13

Opinion Owner

Yep sadly, I know there are good guys. I just don’t want to risk anything. And it’s okay, I’m still learning how to be safe without seeming rude 😅

Answer 14

silasw

Isn't it all about taking risks though? My question to you is how will you find those good guys if most guys are being compared to that one bad experience?

Answer 15

silasw

I'd suggest talking about it. Maybe bringing up what happened to the next guy that you find interest in and explain how you'd like to proceed instead of the method you are using now?

Answer 16

Opinion Owner

Not when my life is at risk, I’d rather play it safe. I was lucky that I only got chased into the forest, a local girl ended up getting murdered because she told a guy no.

Answer 17

silasw

I see bad deeds feed in to the overall narrative of most guys being scary. So how do you like to start things off with someone that you are interested in?

Answer 18

Opinion Owner

I honestly don’t know, I haven’t gotten that far yet to be honest

Answer 19

silasw

I think that's a strange place to be in

Answer 20

silasw

Makes me wonder if most girls are in that place. Fearful of men, not knowing how they would like to show and receive interest and yet still wanting to be loved.

Answer 21

Opinion Owner

Speaking for myself that’s how I feel. I haven’t had good experiences with men starting with my father, uncle and step father.

Answer 22

silasw

Yea I imagine most haven't a lot of men are fucked up and a lot of women are fucked up because of it

Answer 23

Opinion Owner

Yeah, I know there are good guys out there though.

Answer 24

silasw

Yeq just seems like they have to fight an uphill battle that they have no idea they are doing

Answer 25

Opinion Owner

It’s a difficult world to date in these days.

Answer 26

silasw

Yes it is. Which is even more amazing when two people find each other

Answer 27

Opinion Owner

Yep, for sure.

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