Girls do you ever feel like men don’t respect you and that they view you as a piece of meat or do you not feel that way often?

[nightdrot]

My answer is a bit different than the others that I have seen here. My girlfriend and I have actually talked about this and her view is a bit different.

Just to start, my girlfriend and I have lived together for almost 15 years. We are not married and have three children together. So we have been in it together for the long term and the truth is, I love her with all my heart. I cannot imagine my life without her or the three little gifts that she gave me.

In terms of our social and romantic life, she says that I have never treated her anything but with respect and courtesy and love. Certainly we have had our moments - as all couples do - but I have tried to show her the love and gratitude I feel toward her and this she says I have done.

The funny part is that our sex life tends to be rather raw. We have a very natural sex and my girlfriend says that when we have sex she wants to - generally but not always - feel like little more than a piece of meat. She wants to be used and feel that her naked body is there for my use. That all she exists to do is to service me and accept my sperm and bear my young.

The reason for that though is kind of funny. She says she wants that because it allows her to see me reduced to my most instinctive and animal. That when I am that way she is seeing not the thinking me, but the raw animal me and that I am reduced to my most base self and she thinks that is sexy and attractive in its way.

In fact she jokes that when I am like that I am controlled by my penis, and that is true in a way. I love her, but all I can feel is my instinct to be inside her, mating with her and feeling that we are nothing but two animals breeding in a field - and she likes that.

So a little different answer. It is not the way she wants to be treated every day and I emphatically do not want to treat her as a mere piece of meat. However, in our sex life, we generally - not always, sometimes we want love making and not animal breeding - want to be reduced to our most base self.

It lending itself, oddly, to the most instinctive giving and sharing of our naked bodies. We then being in a way our most honest and open to each other. Raw, instinctive, naked and the whole universe just shrinks down to the two of us and nothing else.

[TruthBringer]

The truth is, every woman, no matter who she is and how she dresses will be looked at as a piece of meat by men. WHAT REALLY MATTERS is how a woman projects herself. If she is the type of woman who dresses provocatively, then she is in NO position to lecture people about respect and not to see her as a piece of meat.
A woman who conserves herself, dresses classy/professionally and is well-mannered will not only lessen the odds of getting unwanted attention, but also has the right to expect respect.

If I walk in a ghetto flexing my Rolex (which I don't have lol), I shouldn't be surprised I get mugged.

So ladies, it is up to you. What you project out in the world is what you will get.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I certainly wouldn't generalize them all, but yes, I've been treated as if I was an object by certain ones, and I very much believe both of my exes only saw me as an excuse to tell people they had a girlfriend, and since we were friends and knew each other well before dating, there was less pressure to ask me. I don't believe at all that I was ever special to either one of them (of course they said I was, but actions and words are two completely different things, and people will do what they want, but say what they think you want to hear).

Thankfully, I've found that relationships aren't my thing and don't really have to deal with it, other than the occasional guy hitting on me not liking it when I politely reject his advances and either calling me a bitch or wishing me death (thankfully, the latter only happened once). The real disappointment, though, is when you think someone of ANY gender, friends included, is going to be a great addition to your life (and of course, they're always on their best behavior in the beginning), then their true colors start to show and they're either trying to use you, are changing into someone you don't recognize (or more likely, are taking down their facade), or turn out to be extremely self absorbed. Honestly, this type of stuff is exactly why I don't get close to many people anymore, and then of course I get a bunch of crap for not immediately opening up to everyone and wanting to be bestest friends ever right off the bat. 🙄

[silvermoon84]

Some do, some don’t. There’s one guy in my town who thinks he’s entitled to me and keeps trying to get in my pants, and we have a mutual friend and we live in a small town so unfortunately I have to deal with him from time to time. Thankfully it’s easy to separate pigs from decent men, but really though unfortunately some women respond positively to that behavior so these men just think ALL women must like it.

I hate being catcalled, but I also just ignore it when it happens and don’t say anything.

[Unit1]

They say you get treated the way you get treated because you allow yourself to be treated that way.

Very often women are being seen/treated as a beautiful piece of meat with a hole because they allow themselves to be treated in that exact way because they project such an aura (appearance wise, behavior wise, action wise, thinking wise).
So if you don't like it, then do something to change it. It is a very infamous opinion of mine and I will get a lot of hate for it from the pinks but unless you want to solve this problem and stop being seen as an organic sex toy on legs, you really shouldn't complain about it.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Almost all the time. 80% of men approaching me talking about it or my body right in my face, strangers and acquaintances. Friends? I don't think I have one now since if they are my real friends, they must know I'm serious about having a relationship. They should tell other male friends too that I don't hookup. However, some mutual friends asked if they can have it for free. Most of them are married or not single and said they want a side piece.

It's really disturbing and disrespectful to me and their partners. I decided to cut contact of them all. The more I was exposed to these people, the more depressed I was. Good thing people on here are well-behaved, and prefer conversing like real human beings. I feel more as a person now.

[hahahmm]

If a woman doesn’t want to be objectified there’s a simple solution: wear more clothes & loose fitting clothes. This will eliminate at least 90 to 100% of the attention she gets.


Now before you attack me & claim that I am attacking the victim, imagine if all men wore virtual reality glasses & an app caused them to never see women’s bodies. I guarantee you that most women would then complain about how it’s unfair their “right” to draw eyes has been restricted.


The future will be hilarious

[xKaytie]

Yes I do sometimes, for example, a month ago I was walking over the road to get takeaway for my family, I wasn't wearing anything tight or pushed up, Just a plain Jeans and T-shirt. Two men in a Mercedes rolled down their window and catcalled me.

It then happened the next day in a pair of jeans and boots, it's unavoidable and makes me feel like all I'm worth is the fact I'm a woman.

[heyitsbianca]

Well it’s usually the older guys and the guys who see while walking on streets.. who try to catcall and sexually objectify you. But there are so many good guys out there who can talk decent and give complete respect for who are. So it’s safe to say.. not every but yeah here and there.

[Anonymous]

i had only 1 boyfriend in my whole life and as soon as we had sex, he pretended to love me a few weeks after and then just said he didn't feel anything for me at all. like from one week telling me he loves me to all of a sudden he doesn't feel anything at all.. that's not possible.. this only indicates the love part was not real which is why he doesn't feel anything anymore.. he used me and that's the only experience i ever had which has tainted me and sadly has made me scared to ever love anyone again because it hurt me so much and i don't trust anyone anymore.

[MissDawn7961]

yes I have and that is because I have been physically and verbally abused by my male ( not men for men do not abuse women ) dates so much that I became a male basher ! then I grew up and realized that these men were not men but little boys in mens bodies ! now I have two men that seem to be interested in me and I just hope that they are men and not future boy bullies

[Mr7digits]

There's a name for those type of men, they are called pigs, and with a decent head on your shoulders, can be avoided more often than not. I know this question was directed towards girls specifically, but wouldn't hurt if I put my two cents into the jar...

[Anonymous]

What Yads_Is_Back said.

I respect people who are respectable and who deserve respect. I treat everyone respectfully until they give me a reason not to, but I do not respect them if they don't deserve it. That is a significant distinction.

In my experience, the majority of western women today do not deserve the respect of men. They have not earned it. Women of the past were much more worthy of respect than today's women, who are largely weak, entitled and self-centered. They want privileges without responsibilities. They want to enjoy all the advantages men have have historically had but none of the disadvantages men face. They are hypocritical and lack empathy for any males except their loved ones.

As a whole, the character of women has declined substantially in the last several decades. Why would men respect them? Why should they?

[Saville_Row]

Definitely, and that is the big majority of men, of all ages. In my case, sadly, it is the older guys who have treated me with more respect. I don't have a fame of going to clubs, bars, etc, but the contrary. Yet, as I have been blessed with a good body I would get approached, catcalled or looked up and down often. Even stalked. It is really annoying and certainly makes dating difficult. Most of guys don't care about the person.

[JDavid25]

Most people don't just view each other as just a piece of meat.. Men or women.. Objectification and lust are more correct terms which men and women both do it a lot to each other and to women.. I don't know why women act like they are "innocent" a lot of times..

[vivmatt]

Sexually, I do feel like a piece of meat to my partner. I can't blame him. 24 years of porn has him viewing sex through a phallic lense. Men just aren't brought up to appreciate the feminine side of sexuality. If he's a great guy tho, he'll let you teach him 😉

[Orange_moi]

I think people can see you as an advantage, meat or something to play but it's not because they're men. It's because they don't know (or they don't care) about respect.
Some people will want your body, some people will want your skills, your work, your company, your popularity.
It's just a type of person that is really common and unfortunately this stereotype has been related to men for a really long time.

[RingOfFire]

Guys are hornier and more sexually focused than girls. So it makes sense that they view girls as sex objects more often.

Think about a person starving of thirst in the desert with no water who spots a pond. Is he going to respect the ponds ecological balance and diversity? Or his he just going to drool like a rabid wolf until he gets a drink?

[ItsASecret26]

Yes and no. Some guys are respectful just like some guys aren’t... like today. I was at the gym on the bench doing incline dumbbells bench presses and a guy walks by me and literally looks at my crotch bc my legs were spread apart. Like that’s just creepy and disrespectful. So yeah some guys view woman as meat but it goes both ways some women view men as meat also. It’s not everyone that’s like that but some are.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

I feel like a piece of cake by most guys, so I've started to view them as pieces of meat too. Sounds horrible, but when you care too much it's easier to let go if you're just viewing them as meat/cake.
There's this one guy I like, we fucked, he's still a friend of mine, but if I delve too deeply I know I'm going to be hurt, so if we both play it so we are both meat/cake, it hasn't affected our friendship.
Sometimes it's easier so you don't catch the feels

[Yads_Is_Back]

Guys generally respect me because I give them something to respect and I also demand it.

[modelUN242]

Not really. I don’t sexualize myself. Plus I surround myself around good and educated men. The only times I’ve been sexualized was being catcalled on the streets.

[ineedatan]

Well I believe that how a woman presents and carries herself speaks volumes to how men will treat her. But there will always be those guys that view women as bodies, but I don't see them as men.

[jennifer_bloom]

Men never approach me for sex unless they don’t know me cause the ones familiar with my personality know they will never get sex from me without marrying me